“I haven’t read anything about lactation erotica. My hubby is interested in trying it. I’m not pregnant yet but he said he wanted to test the waters, so to speak, with me to find out if I was okay with it. I’m not sure what I think. My hubby is definitely a boob man so maybe it’s no surprise that he’d bring this up. I just hadn’t thought about it. I figured once a baby came that “the girls” would be on active duty for the baby and hubby would have to do without. I guess I’m wrong on this! Now I’m wondering what it would feel like to give him my milk. What if he likes it? What if he likes it a lot (he thinks he will)? We both know that the baby will come first but it is different to think about. How do I wean a baby off the breast and keep it for my husband? Any thoughts would be helpful. My gut feeling is that if we start with this that it won’t be a temporary thing and that he would want to keep it going as long as possible. Please tell me I’m not the only one to have to think about this!!!”
No, you are not the only one to think about this. Adult nursing is something that many couples think about and/or try. Once a baby comes, I think it’s perfectly normal for a man to be curious about breast milk. (Especially if he is a ‘boob man’ 
) I have heard of Christian couples who practice this and say that it brings them a great deal of satisfaction. They view it as a type of nurturing between them, and say it adds to their intimacy.
While some of us may think this is odd, I certainly can’t find where the bible speaks against this. I do see where breasts are mentioned to give nutrition to infants, and I also see where breasts are mentioned as sexual organs between a husband and a wife in the Song of Solomon. I also found this scripture:
Proverbs 5:18-20 (New Living Translation)
18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts satisfy you always.
May you always be captivated by her love.
It would seem to me, that God is saying that it is okay for a husband and his wife to enjoy her breasts in all their glory. I don’t see any rules or commandments limiting breast play.
There are also some marriages that continue with the adult nursing, even after the baby has been weaned. Just know that this does take work. The breasts need to be suckled several times a day in order to keep lactating. This can be difficult to do with most couples’ schedules. Pumping may help some, but you may become tiresome of the whole thing. It takes a great deal of commitment to continue nursing after the baby has stopped.
As I write this article, I’m reminded of a friend of mine who was nursing her one year old. Her husband complained one morning that they were out of milk for his cereal. She told him to feel free to defrost some of her breast milk and use it! He started acting like he was gagging and such, and they both laughed. He did end up trying it later, out of curiosity, but found he didn’t like it.
Like many other things, this does have the potential to become a fetish, so I would caution you to just be aware of that. Other than that, this seems to be something that you, as a couple, will just need to decide on together. If any of our readers have any experience with this, maybe they will leave a comment or advice for you.
For additional information and support on ANR (Adult Nursing Relationship) check out: Woman-essence.
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My husband and I have just started ANR last Friday (June 4th) and are trying to relactate. We have already felt a change in my breasts. Is this normal? I have never breastfed any of our 4 children, and our youngest just turned 12, so I am totally unfamiliar with the changes in my breasts. My husband and I already had an extremely close relationship but I already feel that this is bringing us even closer. Our challenge is that he works 90 minutes away and leaves early in the morning and is usually home late in the evening but we know that this is something that both of us want and that our prayers will be answered and our milk will come in. Any tips/tricks would be appreciated.
Yes. It is normal for lactating breasts to be different than non-lactating breasts.
Thanks….but we haven’t started actually producing anything yet. There is a difference in the way my bras are fitting already. I have that fuller feeling. Its awesome.
Its nice to know that this is something that many find comforting in their relationships.
I actually came across information about this some time ago and thought it was very interesting. I’m not sure how my husband would feel about it, but I was to understand from this article i read that it is much more common than people think…many couples do this especially after a baby. There are also a lot that worked to bring milk in even after not having children or having had them years before. One of the ladies in the article if I recall correctly said it was her who asked her husband to try it after their baby was born, but when the baby was doen nursing he just quit and she thought that was okay and normal. Several years later he asked her if she ever missed that time with him and she had missed it so she and he worked to bring her milk back in. So clearly this isn’t a strange thing and you are NOT alone!
DH and I started dry nursing 3 week ago, about 30 mins each night. No plans to bring in milk. His work schedule wouldn’t allow for it. We are in our mid 40′s, last child weaned 13 years ago. My breasts are plumping up nicely from all the stimulation but no signs of milk. We’ve always had a close relationship but this has bumped it up to a whole new level. Our sex life is sizzling, we are calmer, sleeping deeper and yearning for each other when we are apart (like those early months of dating). We hadn’t heard of ANR and didn’t begin this with some formal declaration and plan. We are just grieved by all of the divorces happening in our local Christian community and refer often to the verse about enjoying the “wife of your youth” not the new hottie. So this lead to him laying at my chest alot, which lead to suckling. Which felt amazing, both erotic and bonding at the same time. Not mother/baby like at all to me. My husband is a manly man, both physically and personality-wise. He’s a leader at work, home & church. I say this because I have read comments elsewhere about what kind of people must be into this. I am not his mama, he is not my baby. We don’t even use “Babe” as a term of endearment (not that there is anything wrong with that). It’s funny to me how SOME of the same people who enjoy OS (and swallowing stuff that wasn’t designed for nourishment) get squeamish at the thought of a man at his wife’s breast. We view our bosoming time as “marriage insurance”. It draws us closer in a way nothing else has. Even if a couple skips the suckling part, I still see value in having your hubby lay at your chest each day, feeling your heartbeat and sharing his worries & hopes.
Imhisheismine,
That is a terrific post! Well said and expresses the bonding so well which adult nursing can bring. The sexual aspect is clearly present, but is tangential to the loving bond this brings.
Thank you.
I am currently nursing a baby. I, personally, have little interest in doing this with my husband, but I can understand the feelings of bonding and intimacy this would produce. If nothing else, it’s a great time of snuggling
My husband takes a little taste now and then, usually while we’re ml, but I think it’s out of curiosity more than anything.
Since Iwe married 18 years ago my husband was facinated with my breast, after our first child born and I was breast feeding him my husband enjoyed watching, but when he saw how the child was relaxed to the breast he got jealous and I had to breast feed him sometimes after feeding the baby. When our second child born and he watched the beautiful moment and how my breast was dripping with milk al the time he was so excited and wanted me to stop nursing the baby and nursed him. I stopped nursing the baby at 5 1/2 weeks just to give him the breast. When he sucked the breast he would say I joyfully, I just drink some milk. What a wonderful feeling. I really wasn’t into giving him the breast for a while on a regular basis and he would always ask me to nurse him to sleep. Recently we conqure the major stresses in our life and now I sleep bear just so he can choose which breast he wants to nurse on. I am loving every moment of the bonding and we are not at each other like we use to. It is a pleasure letting him suck the breast until he falls asleep. I could do that every night without getting tired. It is something I look forward to especially when he falls asleep and snores with the breast still clinch in his mouth.