Comments on: Husband Brags

By: RArA

RArA — Wed, 08 Jun 2011 21:19:06 +0000

I am very careful to always talk my husband up in public. My colleagues think I’m deluded as I keep telling them how amazing he is.

I have one good friend though who knows us both VERY well and understands our relationship. She’s the one I share our/my struggles with. She doesn’t take sides and offers practical advice and encouragement. Our small group at church is also a good place where we can be honest about what’s going on.

Too often we can vent to people just wanting them to take our side rather than actually help and that isn’t healthy.

So yeah, I agree with you but perhaps there should just be a small number of people you share with.

p.s. I think this is what you were trying to say anyway.

By: longingly.learning

longingly.learning — Sat, 30 Oct 2010 05:05:16 +0000

Alright ladies. I agree that it is important not to tear the hubster down. And we all know how truly vulnerable our men are to our attacks and verbal rants.. BUT… I think that it can be an EXTREMELY dangerous thing to isolate the troubles in our marriages to only ourselves and our husbands. Years ago I endured an extremely unhealthy, damaging relationship that nearly ended in marriage as a result of this mindset. Thank goodness I did not marry, because I am thankful to be with the man I’m with today. It is important to set boundaries in marriage and not simply “vent” about every little thing, but we should not be afraid to seek wise counsel when we are truly hurting in a relationship. Emotionally unhealthy relationships thrive when you are isolated. Sometimes exposing those hurts to a wise, third party entity is the only way to heal.

By: tyka2010

tyka2010 — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 20:57:14 +0000

I will be married in just under two weeks now. I am so excited. My soon to be hubby is so good to me always. I can’t even thing of a negative thing about him. but this advice was such a great reminder to keep find all the good things about him. thanks!

By: Mkatz

Mkatz — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 01:53:37 +0000

This may seems silly, but if I clean the house – spotless- during the day, or even if I only have time to just run the vacuum, my DH will notice EVERYTHING and not only tell me how nice it looks, but THANK me for make the house welcome for him! This means the world to me that he doesn’t see my little gifts to him as insignificant or less important. He’s a wonderful man

By: Wynterr

Wynterr — Tue, 25 May 2010 01:59:44 +0000

There are two times that I believe strengthened my marriage more than any other things. Both took mere seconds to accomplish. One night at Bible study we were talking about respect and someone asked if I respected my husband (this is a mixed group). I said that I respected him more than anyone, that was why I married him. You could see him sit up straighter – every man wants to be respected so much.
The second time was when we were alone and I thanked him for being my hero. Tell a man that and he will be your hero.
I want to be loved and cherished but he wants my respect, he wants to know he is taking care of me. I understand that now, wish I knew it when we first got married. I get flowers weekly now, I didn’t used to.;)

By: spicynutmeg

spicynutmeg — Fri, 21 May 2010 00:18:06 +0000

My husband is under a lot of stress right now, so I try to do my best to text him an “I love you” or write a message on his facebook page about how blessed I am to have him as my husband. We are approaching our 15 year wedding anniversary next month, and this next year may be our hardest one yet, but I stand firm and committed to him. We have a new code word…well, actually it’s not a word, it’s something he can view. I bought a new top that is for his eyes only. When I wear it, he knows that I NEED him when he gets home. On one of the first few days of this new, stressful time, I put the top on, took a picture with my cellphone, and texted it to him. That made his day big time. It’s all in the little things sometimes that make a big difference.

By: KittieCat

KittieCat — Thu, 20 May 2010 18:52:01 +0000

My husband tells me he has never felt so loved and cared for before. I am his fourth wife so I knew there would be challenges. His favorite thing that I do for him is at night as we get ready to fall asleep is I scratch his back and his groin area and I rub his feet with my feet. Sometimes I get lucky but most times not I just do it because I know it is something he enjoys and I love giving the affection. It may not be reciprocated at that time but it does come around later.

By: Love my Man

Love my Man — Thu, 20 May 2010 16:25:03 +0000

Such great advice! I have worked our entire marriage until 2 months ago. We have had a great marriage, but I have spent the past 2 months trying to make it even more as God desires. One of my weaknesses is that I had entered a habit of complaining. This was my fault due to stress from my coworkers and I was bringing it home. I haves seek God’s forgiveness and my husband’s.

I am not all about building him up, which happens to be my husband’s #1 love language and emotional need. I know this, and now I am committed to defeating Satan and not let him get the best of me so I can encourage my husband through loving words.

BTW, when your husband’s knows how much you admire him…it makes the bedroom activity even better, because his confidence is built up. Just because he is a guy, doesn’t always mean he is 100% confident on ML. I thought I had a very confident husband, but have discovered I can make him blush due to my recently increase in sexual desires for him. (which of course, I find even sexier )!!!

By: hisgirl

hisgirl — Thu, 20 May 2010 16:24:22 +0000

I’ve been trying to regularly update a list that I keep on the fridge of things I love about my Man

need to do better about keeping up with it. My pens all keep disappearing though… Not sure how that happens.

By: sisterlavender

sisterlavender — Thu, 20 May 2010 15:36:07 +0000

When we were married, (25 years ago this week!!! ), I couldn’t seem to find anything bad to say about DH. But, as I started listening to the office gossip, I would hear the occasional negative, and unjustified, comment leave my mouth. Then, the occasional comment started to multiply. It took conscious choice and effort to zip my lips and not join in to the one-up-manship of “my dh is worse than yours” . Then we moved to another city and I needed to find new friends. For several years it wasn’t a challenge to say positive things about DH, but rather it was becoming second nature. Then a new friend came into my life, and for several years I once again struggled with not falling into the “man-bashing” mode. Fast forward several years, that particular friend has gone on to be with our Lord, I have continued to gather more friends, and in particular, ones who speak well of their DH and honour their DH in whatever ways they can. I have also stumbled across this site which has been a HUGE blessing to me and a positive influence to me for loving my husband well.

All this to say, we need to always be diligent and watchful of what is happening in our hearts and minds, because it will be revealed by what leaves our mouths. Surrounding ourselves with people who lives the ideals we want to emmulate is also important.

“Coincidentally” {not!}, when I have been thinking/speaking well of DH, our marriage is happier, we are both more content, sexual intimacy is WAY better, our family is happier, than when I have been in the Pits of Negativity.