Comments on: There’s an App for that….. http://christiannymphos.org/2011/09/08/theres-an-app-for-that/ Married Sex: Spicy, the way God intended it to be! Sun, 18 Dec 2011 02:29:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Lydia http://christiannymphos.org/2011/09/08/theres-an-app-for-that/#comment-25724 Sun, 27 Nov 2011 23:44:48 +0000 http://christiannymphos.org/?p=5484#comment-25724 I’m not an expert or counselor, but it sounds like he needs accountability with another Christian man. Just because men struggle, doesn’t mean they all do this. That is a cop out. My husband is very careful *not* to look at anything like this, and will look away if something risque comes on tv. When I thanked him for doing so, he responded “because I love you.”
Secondly-
You really need to get Dr. Kevin Leman’s book “Sheet Music” and read it together. It totally revolutionized how I viewed sex with my husband, as well as helping him learn about how I ticked. Dr. Leman also dealt with this topic.

]]> By: Chickyrara http://christiannymphos.org/2011/09/08/theres-an-app-for-that/#comment-25690 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 20:38:16 +0000 http://christiannymphos.org/?p=5484#comment-25690 My husband and I have been married 2 years, we both 27 now.He confessed to a porn addiction just before we tied the knot. It has been such a painful, destroying time of my life. My self worth was/is zero, you cant but feel that it is about you. I dont mean to sound vain, but I know I am an beautiful women with a good figure. Iv read all the books on it possible and iv come to understand it better, but it still doesnt make it right. I became an absolutely crazy,controlling,obsessive women. I left the video camera out, I checked everything, I put blocks on the tv, but eventually got to a point where I realised that my life was being controlled and destroyed by his addiction. I still keep precautions in place, as I feel that it is something that never goes away, but I dont let it control my life. I can only trust that my Jesus, my Saviour is in control and will bring to light anything that is in the darkness. It has destroyed his image of what sex should me, i think we have made love once in 2 years, other times I just feel like an object. And sex just doesnt happen, we are lucky if it happens once a week. I have a high sex drive,I dress up, make videos, send pictures,but yet always get rejected when I initiate. So now I dont initiate, too avoid the rejection.He blames it on the porn and the way I reacted everytime i found something and how he now feels like sex is dirty.Surely someone who has a porn problem has a high sex drive. I think there is victory with the porn ,if there isnt, I dont actually care anymore,im over it! But now to get victory in our sex life………………

]]> By: femininefury http://christiannymphos.org/2011/09/08/theres-an-app-for-that/#comment-24972 Sat, 12 Nov 2011 11:38:00 +0000 http://christiannymphos.org/?p=5484#comment-24972 I won’t go too much into what I think of mobile phones that offer access to the net as it was just one of some of the tools used that almost destroyed DH’s and my marriage with his porn addiction (praise God after almost the whole 9 years of our marriage we are starting to move forward.)
Now my precious beloved has a phone that has no access/bluetooth capability. he can’t recieve pictures, just a basic standard phone. I on the other hand have my iphone 3 mainly for business purposes, but when DH uses it we have an agreement that i’m right there with him. He’s not offended by this, I know he would like me to trust him again but to the most extent deep down he knows it’s too much of a temptation.

On a good note though, I don’t use mine much although I like the idea of the period tracker, DH loves playing angry birds/fruit ninja.

We purchased a mobile phone for our precious daughter for her 18th birthday April just gone, WORST mistake we EVER made, Satan had a field day with her, thankfully she had enough sense to book herself into a christian rehab to get the spiritual/emotional help she needs.
Happy wife, i’m not quite brave enough to reply much to your post, the devastation and loneliness I have experienced in my marriage through our porn issues is still extreamly raw, but if you read this, please just know, I DO understand, I really do, and you have my prayers from deep down into my heart as does any woman that is faced with such situations. Remember above all that you are a daughter of the king and nothing is beyond His ability to heal and restore.

]]> By: Ruthann http://christiannymphos.org/2011/09/08/theres-an-app-for-that/#comment-24120 Thu, 27 Oct 2011 16:39:34 +0000 http://christiannymphos.org/?p=5484#comment-24120 I found one that lets me keep track of our experiences. Dates, locations, specifics. Its pretty clean. The positions are stick figures. There was one option listed as “group” but I deleted that. It only allows you to list one interaction per day though.

]]> By: Ladywriter http://christiannymphos.org/2011/09/08/theres-an-app-for-that/#comment-22307 Fri, 16 Sep 2011 08:22:24 +0000 http://christiannymphos.org/?p=5484#comment-22307 Thanks Jojo. It is good to eventually let him know. Would you mind telling which keylogger you used? I have heard that there are a lot of them with bugs and viruses!!!! Scary

]]> By: Jojo http://christiannymphos.org/2011/09/08/theres-an-app-for-that/#comment-22259 Thu, 15 Sep 2011 03:16:04 +0000 http://christiannymphos.org/?p=5484#comment-22259 Yes, I put a keylogger on his personal computer.This is the one I used and its easy to use and has a free trial version. What I also liked about it was when dh’s computer died and he got a new one i didn’t have to buy the program again. I just emailed them explaining the situation and was able to install it on his new computer.

BTW…I did eventually tell him I put it on. And I would put it on again if I thought he was viewing it again.

]]> By: bunny http://christiannymphos.org/2011/09/08/theres-an-app-for-that/#comment-22212 Wed, 14 Sep 2011 02:22:15 +0000 http://christiannymphos.org/?p=5484#comment-22212 take pictures of yourself in your / his favorite lingerie and email them to him. (don’t use work emails) All you need is a digital camera with a timer and an imagination.

]]> By: Sweet for him http://christiannymphos.org/2011/09/08/theres-an-app-for-that/#comment-22115 Mon, 12 Sep 2011 08:26:55 +0000 http://christiannymphos.org/?p=5484#comment-22115 Ouch. Reading about the porn addicts breaks my heart. That’s painful.

If you’re going to use such an app, safely, as a married couple, legitimately of course, you should make the rule that it is NOT A SHARABLE PHONE. My husband and I took pictures of each other on our cell phones, and they do NOT go into anyone else’s hands. Period. End of story. Even if they beg.

]]> By: Ladywriter http://christiannymphos.org/2011/09/08/theres-an-app-for-that/#comment-22053 Sat, 10 Sep 2011 04:01:44 +0000 http://christiannymphos.org/?p=5484#comment-22053 Accountability is a good thing. We probably should discuss a bit more on this. Not that we do not trust our partners, but to build a better relation and avoid anything sour. Has anyone ever tried to secretly monitor their partners online activity. If so, can you please suggest. I know suspicion is a bad thing, but any questioning can make things worse. Especially when you are not so sure of your partners activity.

]]> By: matt's bride http://christiannymphos.org/2011/09/08/theres-an-app-for-that/#comment-22031 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 15:29:41 +0000 http://christiannymphos.org/?p=5484#comment-22031 my hub and i dont have androids or whatever, but we can get on the internet on our phones. my hub has a constant worry bout his personal temptations to use the internet negatively, so we have rules like phone internet is only for facebook and christiannymphos ( :p ) .

it’s been a …”unique” struggle learning to grow and trust in this new area, this “internet and porn are everywhere at the click of a button” stuff. but God is with us. and my man is growing in God and overcoming his falls. and i love him more because of it.

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