Imagine this….a cold, wintery night….you and your dh, alone in a cabin in the Rocky Mountains. Maybe you are snowed in. There is a huge fire in the fireplace, bear skin rug on the floor…. there is a warm glow in the room as the flames flicker higher and higher….the sexual tension is very high between the two of you. It is hard to distinguish whether you are hot because of the flames in the fireplace or the flames inside your bodies. You have anything at your disposal…your favorite lube, scented oils or lotion, romantic music, rose petals….you are beaming at your hubby, and he is beaming back…and above the both of you, God is watching and smiling. There is about to be a revolution… a sexual revolution right in your own marriage bed.
When you hear the term “sexual revolution”, what do you think of? Do you think of the 1960’s and sexual freedom? Free love? Wikipedia says this of the Sexual Revolution,
“The 1960s heralded a new culture of “free love” with millions of young people embracing the hippie ethos and preaching the power of love and the beauty of sex as a natural part of ordinary life. Hippies believed that sex was a natural biological phenomenon which should not be denied or repressed. Changes in attitudes reflected a perception that traditional views on sexuality were both hypocritical and chauvinistic.”
Wow. Traditional views on sex are hypocritical? Really? In a Godless world, I can see that thought pattern being true, but Christian, we know better. We know that the God of the universe created sex right along with the sun, moon and stars.
I started reading a bible study from Ed Young Ministries that I want to touch on in a series of articles. It is aptly titled “Sexual Revolution”, but his revolution is much different that the thinking of the 60’s and 70’s. In his study he asks us to renew our mind in the way we think of sex. Romans 12:1-2 tells us
“Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Let me take you all the way back to the beginning…Genesis tells us the order in which God created things. Genesis 1:24-25 tells us “And God said,
“Let the land produce living creatures according to their kinds: livestock, creatures that move along the ground, and wild animals, each according to its kind.” And it was so. God made the wild animals according to their kinds, the livestock according to their kinds, and all the creatures that move along the ground according to their kinds. And God saw that it was good.”
So the animals are all created. But you notice what comes next in verse 26-28?
“Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”
So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.
God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”
Okay, I may be pretty dense here, just now realizing what this really means. In the Sexual Revolution of the 60’s, people were degrading themselves as far as sex was concerned…remember when I said earlier “Hippies believed that sex was a natural biological phenomenon which should not be denied or repressed.” (Wikipedia) Sex was being denigrated down to an animal level. Animals don’t mate with only one partner for life. Animals are after the carnal side of sex with which ever female will parade around them. In the 60’s, we became like that and on into the 70’s. Free love meant having sex with whomever we want, whenever we wanted to. “Just do it!”, the world told us. Well, it’s time for a new sexual revolution. One in which the church steps up and fill in the blanks for who to, when to, and why to.
This blog was created to try to help start filling in these blanks.
Who to? One man and one woman in holy matrimony. That means sex is meant for you during the union that God originally created in Genesis. (Gen 2:23-24) A man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. When we marry, our wedding present from God is our marriage bed. I love the analogy that Ed gives in this bible study I am reading. Our marriage bed should be like a fireplace. Sex in our marriage bed should be hot, intimate and romantic, just like sitting in front of the fireplace on a cold night. Now, what happens though when a spark gets outside the fireplace? It could burn the place down, right? Keep the fire safely inside your marriage bed and you will never have to worry about burning out your marriage.
When to? Once again, the when is when you are married. God created us male and female to cover both the masculine and the feminine sides of Himself. When the two become one flesh, we are worshiping God, and we become one like God. God created us like him physically and spiritually, so when we are making love to our spouse we are reflecting the full nature and character of God. Don’t settle for sex outside of marriage. It is so much BIGGER and BETTER when you follow God’s plan for sex.
Why to? It is God’s gift to heterosexual married couples. Marriage requires a life long commitment. No matter what, the marriage is to be preserved. It is to be protected, supported and fought for. It isn’t a one night stand. It isn’t just a carnal urge that needs to be met for the night. This is a commitment to God and to your spouse, and one that is not taken lightly. God is committed to us for the duration, for the long haul. We commit to our spouse that way as well. This is a perfect gift that God created just for us. The relationship that goes with sex as well. When my dog goes into heat, every male dog in the neighborhood shows up. Why? Do they want a permanent relationship with her? Nope, they just need to meet a carnal need inside of them. Sex isn’t like that for us. I do have one thought I want to pass by you… maybe in some ways those hippies were right….follow me for a minute…. Today, like those “hippies” of the past, wouldn’t you agree that millions of people should preach the power of love and the beauty of sex as a natural part of ordinary life? Don’t you believe that sex is a natural biological phenomenon which should not be denied or repressed? Dear ones, if we use sex in the context that God intended it, I have no problem with this kind of sexual revolution. There is nothing wrong with sex. There is nothing wrong with our bodies. It’s how we use them. Follow God’s plan for sex and be prepared for BIG sex. If you follow the world’s view of sex, plan on getting burned. There is no way on heaven or earth that it could possibly be as good as married sex. No way.
As I finish up this bible study, I will write more on it. I want to thank pastors like Ed Young for helping us to see that God wants us to have an OUTSTANDING sex life. We need more pastors to tell us more than “Don’t do it.” We need to hear God’s word about sex, this wonderful thing he has created. If you are single, don’t get burned by the fire of sex. Talk to God, seek out His will for you. You are a sexual being just like those of us that are married. Do your very best to save the fire for when you get married. I took that fire of past mistakes into my marriage bed, and I got burned. Don’t do what I did. Seek God and His ultimate love and wisdom on this matter. If, like me, you did get burned before you got married, God loves you and forgives you. He can renew you and your marriage. Keep the fire in your own marriage beds my dear one. Adultery, pornography…these things will only burn you.
Speak the truth in love. Be one of those people who speaks out on the truth of how God intends sex for us. Let’s help the world renew their minds on sex and start a new Sexual Revolution! This one will help set us all free from what society has tried to teach us over the past 40-50 years.