I very much LOVE to give oral sex to my husband. It’s often the center of my fantasies during the day, and when he gets home I tell him I can’t wait to put the kids to bed and taste him! It’s a big turn on to myself as well and will definitely put me in the mood for other things.
Cinnamonsticks has already posted a brilliant introduction on oral sex. I’m going to follow with some specific suggestions of things you can try. So let’s talk about giving oral sex to our husbands! I have had countless women ask me how in the world to get started. Newlyweds tend to be a little shy about oral. Let me give a few pointers to any beginners reading this.
My absolute favorite position for performing OS on my husband is him standing beside the bed and me kneeling on the floor. He then will lift one leg and put that knee up on top of the bed, so that he is opened up, so to speak. This way, I have TOTAL FREE ACCESS to all parts that need my attention. This is great for the both of us. You may prefer for your husband to sit in a chair or lay on the bed. Some positions are easier on the neck.
Go down and lick his thighs lightly, to make him anticipate what you are going to do. Slowly spread his legs and start by licking his balls. Roll them all around and get them lubed up with your tongue. You can gently be stroking his penis if you want….but nothing hard….because you are almost teasing him, making him WANT your mouth on him BADLY. Gently suck one of his balls into your mouth and caress it with your tongue. Be careful with your teeth. Then do the other one. Make sure that you lick all around his testicles, including the area just under them between his testicles and his anus. That patch of skin is called the perineum. Many men love having this area of skin licked or stroked.
Okay, so when you have worked him up, and he is really wanting you to take him fully into your mouth, then start going upward, licking his shaft with your whole tongue as if it were an ice-cream cone. When you get to the head, circle it a few times and then take it shallowly into your mouth a couple times. Then stop and make eye contact with him. Let him know that the fun is just starting. This would also be a great time to talk dirty to him or say something like: I love the taste of your ______. Then take him into your mouth as far as you are comfortable with. You can use your hand to grab hold of the base of his penis…and hold it in place while you are taking him in and out of your mouth. There is NO RULE that says you have to go super fast at this. I wouldn’t go slowly, but you don’t have to act like you are sprinting towards the finish line. Moan and allow your mouth to make wet sounds…he’ll like this. Look up at him from time to time. If you can, you could use your other hand to fondle his balls at the same time, or caress his anus. (Many Many men really like that. Just find out if he does, or you can do like I did….I just did it one day without asking, and although he was embarrassed about it afterwards, he admitted that it felt AWESOME to have his anus rubbed)
Anyway, if you can find a rhythm, then let your hand and your mouth work together. With your hand wrapped firmly around his penis, take your mouth all the way down to where it is touching your hand, then when you are coming back up, just bring your hand back up with you. See if you can keep your lips touching your own thumb and finger at all times. That way, your hand is almost like an extension of your mouth (instead of two separate things) and your mouth and hand will be working together to bring him there….and if you have him lubed up pretty good, he may not be able to tell where your mouth ends and your hand begins.
While you are doing this, you can be using your tongue to make swirling motions on the underside of his shaft. Especially when you are coming up and your mouth is right on the underside of his head, because that is an especially sensitive area on him. You can make your tongue go back and forth or if you want some creativity, you can try to do a figure 8.
If you get tired it is okay to remove your mouth and take a break. Continue with your hands though…..one pumping him up top and the other down below fondling and caressing him. Again, if he is into dirty talk, then use this time to talk to him. Tell him things and ask him if he likes what you are doing to him. speed up as you know he is nearing the finish line and try to get your mouth back into rhythm with your hand again. Make sure that you are pumping him with a firm hand stroke. Some women do not hold a man’s penis very firmly. They think they will hurt him or it’s fragile or something. But, if you don’t pump him firmly enough, it may take him longer to get there. So make sure you have your entire hand (all your fingers) wrapped around him.
Find out how he likes to finish the best. If he really likes it when you swallow, then towards the end, tell him that you want to swallow his come. Tell him you can’t wait until he explodes in your mouth. That may be a huge turn on for him to hear and may help to get him over that edge of climax.
There are some things that can give oral sex a different feeling for your husband! Try chewing up several altoids right before you go down on him. He may get a new sensation from it. I’ve heard from a couple ladies that a small piece of ice will help too, although my husband doesn’t care for that one.
If you are worried about the taste, either of the lube or his come, then you may benefit from flavored lube. There are several good flavored ones out there. I personally love caramel.
If you have a quick gag reflex, then you may want to think about trying some Good Head. You put some on your index finger and stick it on the back roof of your mouth. Then you swallow. It coats your uvula and numbs it, making it easy for you to take your husband’s penis deeper, and you don’t gag!
Once you find out the things that he does like and the things that he does not care for, then you will be able to get him there faster and you will feel more confident in your abilities. For a more in depth look at how to finish your husband, read There He Blows!
So come on ladies! Let’s all decide to taste our husband’s fruit this week!
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Wow! Awsome post , I’m also married and I love having sex with my husband. This is a great blog, thanks for reminding everyone that your sex life isn’t dead just because ur married.
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Very good point! I think both men and women are likely to get more oral when they are clean.
When my wife receives my genitals into her mouth with pleasure and desire I feel such acceptance; I feel wanted, desired. My wife feels this desire or expresses this desire seldom. I am thankful for the desire she does have but I would also feel more loved if she desired me more.
I can not think of a more intimate, accepting, totally loving act of acceptance, desire, passion then my wife wanting to lick, suck, smell, and taste my genitals and and swallow my semen. My wife and I have never talked about her tasting/swallowing my semen and I am very apprehensive to bring it up because I think she will think that it is perverse and disgusting.
How have you communicated a desire that you have that you think your spouse/husband would think perverse? Do some wives truely love licking, sucking, smelling and tasting their husbands genitals with the emotional desire to receive/accept/swallow their husband’s semen?
I am sorry if this is a perverse topic.
The topic is not perverse in my opinion. Yes some wives love how giving oral sex effects their senses. Others do not. The women who write here fall at both ends of the spectrum and anywhere in between, but I can assure you that it is much more an indicator of personal preference rather than acceptance and desire for our spouses.
Please don’t let your wife’s eagerness, or lack there of, to perform oral sex to be the indicator that you use to determine her acceptance of and desire for you.
Having said that, if you would like to incorporate more oral sex into your love making then it would not be unreasonable to have a discussion with her about it. I assume you would like to give her more oral sex as well…. let her know that you desire to experience it more frequently, but that you love what you have and that if she never did it you would still be secure in her love for you. Just be careful about saying something that would communicate to her that she needs to do it in order to prove something. That could go south very quickly, especially if she is one who doesn’t enjoy the taste/smell. If she seems open to doing it, ask her how you can make it easiest for her. A fresh shower (as mentioned above), a position that is non-threatening, doing it with a small breath mint in her mouth so that the taste isn’t as overwhelming… these are all options.
How do you get past the hair? Does your husband shave or do you use a dental dam of some sort?
You can offer any of those things to your wife and see what her preference is.
I’m the wife. 🙂 My DH is hairy, and I’d like to try some of these techniques on him when he returns from Iraq. He doesn’t like shaving, and definetly not going to wax. Do dental dams allow him to feel me?
Dental dams would give him *some* feeling, but not a whole lot, especially if he has a forest growing under it! Would he be up to trimming it down? Some men will compromise by trimming it instead of shaving. You could offer to help him! My husband shaves because he knows that is my preference and he also knows he is more likely to get oral sex more often if he keeps it shaved 😎
“I’m the wife.” Sorry, jmc326. I was thinking that you were the person who wrote the previous question too…
That’s ok, just thought I’d clarify, in case I was being misleading.:)
“Dental dams would give him *some* feeling, but not a whole lot, especially if he has a forest growing under it!”
LOL He’s a domesticated Sasquatch. I love him, but boy is he hairy.
Hahaha.
He may like shaving if you pointed out how much BIGGER it made him look… I know someone who used that method to encourage her husband to stay shaved 8)
This is a great article. I love to give my husband oral sex.I really enjoy seeing how turned on he can get at the thought of it, like if I mention that I want to suck him or taste him, early in the evening he’s all to eager to help with homework and getting the kids to bed.I think this act tops most men’s fanticies
Hi, I wondered if you could redirect me to the carmel flavored lubricant? the item comes up on the link as not found. I mentioned coconut oil to dh but he hates all flavors and I think the carmel might be best. He hates fruity or candy tastes too but the carmel might work.
Thanks!
you could try trimming instead of shaving
Just to let you know, FinallyFree, conventional coconut oil, like the kind found in the baking aisle at the grocery store does not have any kind of flavor or smell, and definitely doesn’t taste like coconut. I’m not sure about virgin coconut oil, which usually is only found in health food stores and is more expensive. I recently read that they actually “de-scent” the mainstream stuff, which is weird, so it makes me think that the virgin organic coconut oil will probably taste and smell like coconuts? Anyway, just wanted to let you know bc before we started using it, I just assumed it would taste/smell like coconut. 😉
I just tried something for my DH that was a big hit! I made myself a big mug of peppermint tea, (put some honey in it b/c it’s not naturally sweet AND because putting sugar in it could cause you to get a yeast infection if you have PIV after) So DH is thinkin’ that I’m ready to relax and enjoy my tea… little did he know that the tea was not for me! So I proceeded to give him oral (not new to him), but then I took a big gulp of hot tea and held it in my mouth for a minute, swallowed it and put him right back in my mouth. 😀 Keep doing it till the tea is no longer hot…. #1- my VERY warm mouth felt incredible to him, AND #2- you end up with a minty-fresh smelling mouth!
What fun!
organic coconut oil, the kind that I’ve tried, doesn’t taste *exactly* like coconuts, but it definitely does have that smell and taste to some degree – it’s MUCH milder than say, fresh coconut, in my opinion. I personally enjoy the smell, I find it somewhat tropical and exotic, but not a bit overwhelming. I never knew there was any descented, that’s interesting. my guy doesn’t like coconuts but he loves the oil.
its funny because my husband told me the other day that he could be stranded on a tropical island and there might be a million coconuts there and no other food—yet rescuers would find him dead of starvation! He said they would all be scracthing their heads, wondering why he would die of starvation with all of these coconuts laying around everywhere 😉
I recently asked my husband if he wanted to finish in my mouth and he said “I don’t know…” which with him usually means, “I DO know and the answer is yes, but I know you don’t want to so I don’t push the issue.” So, this has been on my mind lately, and I’m gearing myself up for suprising him by telling him to try it. Good Head sounds like a fascinating product – who knew this stuff was out there?! Another problem I have (with going deep at all) is that a couple of my top back teeth are kind of jagged. Every time he asks me to deep throat, I feel one of the teeth brushing his penis and feel so bad, thinking, oh crap that hurt him, I’m one of those women who gives it “toothy”…but he swears that he loves it and doesn’t even feel the tooth. Does anyone else have this problem?
hi i would just like to say me and my husband have been married for almost 8 years .we got married when i was 16 and he was 18. and i have only gave him a bj maybe three times if that and i only do it for a couple min. not long enough for him to get pleasure out of it. and i just cant get over the taste it really makes me gag ! but i want to give him pleasure by giving him a bj . i fantasize about doing it to him all the time but once i try to something just always turns me off about i t . its always clean when i do it so maybe its just me . he does get aggrivated sometimes about it and doesnt understand why i just cant do it for him and i really dont understand myself i really think its the taste. so am i just being selfish and should get over it and just do it for him?any comments on how to make things better in the oral sex department would great !
If you think it’s really just the taste that turns you off, why don’t you try using a yummy flavored lube or something? There are LOTS of flavored lubes, etc out there. You can pretty much find your favey flavor, and wa la!, your DH now tastes great! There’s also a product out there called “good head” that is flavored and also numbs your throat a bit to help with the gagging.
If size is an issue and you find yourself gagging too much, you could always put your hand around him at the base of his penis, and use your mouth on the top half. Just make sure you move your hand and mouth in unison so it actually feels good to him. (I think the spice girls explain this in one of the oral sex- how to articles.)
One thing that works for me too, instead of the flavored lube (which is a great idea!), I usually make sure my teeth are freshly brushed, and I have used a generous amount of mouthwash. Sometimes it’s my breath on him that makes me a little grossed out. It’s becoming less and less, but it’s a great tool.
Also, with the gagging thing…don’t go really deep. Try to stay shallow and like Erin mentioned, use your hand to simulate deeper action. Also…remember to BREATHE!!! This helps tremendously. I have a very strong gag reflex…I can hardly brush my teeth for gagging sometimes. If I am very conscious about breathing deeply and regularly, it helps!
I really did not enjoy doing oral sex on my husband because of something that had happened in my past, but thanks to this website and some experimenting I am now able to swallow and deep throat and really enjoy loving my husband this way. I use a numbing agent on the back of my throat and I had tried a number of things that this site had suggested but the numbing agent is what finally worked. He was shocked, I told him it was never about his taste or him, it was about me, that I had to fix it. I gave him oral sex for 10.5 years not because I enjoyed it but because I love him but now I give him oral just because…….I can.
Diane, what kind of numbing agent do you use for this?
Just another idea for different sensations… My lip balm has peppermint oil in it. My husband really likes it when I put some on before giving him oral. 😉
Hm, I have lip balm like that. I should try it. 🙂