There are certain activities and practices related to sex that always stir up the comment “But don’t they do that in porn?” Whether we are talking about anal sex or shaving the pubic area completely or masturbation or a variety of other things, over and over we hear this.
This really shows a lack of the ability one possesses to carry thoughts to their natural conclusion. Porn is also filled with people having sex, but no one is running around using porn as a reason to stop having sex. The truth is that long before porn became widely acceptable by our society, these activities and practices were being used for many different reasons and not all of them even sexual.
But let’s say that, in the example of shaving, the only reason we do it is because of the influence of porn in our culture. So what. It isn’t a sin to shave. Why would it matter? We don’t believe it does.
So our basis for weighing what we do and don’t do in our sexual relationship with our spouse as pleasing to the Lord is not what happens in pornography. It is what God has outlines in Scripture as right and honorable. How has he told us to relate to one another, not only in our sexual relationship, but outside of the bedroom as well. We serve one another as He has called us to and we don’t bring third parties of any kind into our bedrooms.
If you want to challenge us that something we have said is wrong, we welcome that, but please do not use the argument “They do that in porn.” It doesn’t hold water here.
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