Using games to spice up your sex life!

I don’t know about you, but there are some really fun games out there to play. I’m not talking about sex games (yet!), but regular board games like Monopoly, Pictionary, and Scrabble….or card games like Poker, Uno, Spades, Phase 10 or any other game you enjoy playing. Ever thought about spicing up a game with your spouse? Any game you can play with a friend can become a spice in your sex life with your spouse when you add the word ”STRIP” to it!

Let’s take poker for example. I am sure that strip poker has been played throughout the centuries. If you lose a hand, you have to take off an article of clothing. No fair cheating by loading up on clothes before the game starts! Put on some romantic music, candle light, and break out the playing cards. If you are really bad at poker, you could make your spouse a very happy person! But how about other games….Pictionary would be very interesting… could play this way., if your spouse doesn’t guess the word you drew, you take off an article of clothing…or maybe even DRAW something that you would like to do to your spouse and have them guess. Things could get very HOT that way!! Monopoly is a nice long game….if you have a monopoly on a property and your spouse doesn’t have the money to pay rent, maybe you could trade a *favor* like oral sex, a hand job, or something along that line to pay the rent. Scrabble….hmmm, you can only spell words related to sex or sexual acts you would like to do with your spouse….triple word score could really be a way to score big with your spouse.

There are also games that are sexual in nature. My husband and I once played a computer board game called Bliss. ( It was my first sex game, I was a bit nervous about it, but it was with my husband, so we played. This is a game that can be customized to the level of arousal you want for the game. There are several skins for you to choose from for your game board. Each spouse has a profile that they fill out at the start of the game with things you are willing to do and things you are not willing to do. You choose! If you have toys at your disposal, you tell the game what you have or what you are willing to use. You tell the game what clothing you are wearing at the beginning of the game. Bliss also allows you to choose your arousal level at the beginning of the game. My husband is always NUCLEAR! Me, I may be warm or cold and need warmed up a tad to get things going for me. Once all your personal data is loaded into the game, you are ready to play! It was fun the time we played it. My husband is ready to play it again!

As long as what happens in your marriage bed stays in your marriage bed, there is no reason to not explore other ways and means to get you ready for good, hot, passionate sex with your spouse. If playing a game gets you there, have fun playing!

aka nutmeg nympho

Pleasing Your Wife

If you were to go to a dinner party would you just plop down and start stuffing your face? I’m going to assume that as you are reading this you are shaking your head no. First you would let the hostess know how thankful and excited you are to be there. Apply these same rules when engaging in cunnilingus. Let your wife know that: enjoy going down on her just as much as she enjoys receiving it, 2. There is no rush. You would stay there all day if she would let you, 3. That you love her scent and taste. These three rules will help your wife let go of her inhibitions thus making it easier to focus on the wonderful sensations you are giving her.

Now if her scent and/or taste bother you there are some steps we can take to try and diminish that as much as possible. You could try to encourage her to shower or bath before hand, you could try using a flavored lubricant or you could always try using a dental dam. Glyde “LOLLYES” is highly recommended for oral use. They come scented, colored and transmit sensation very well. You can find them at sheerglydedams or blowfish. One last thing before we get started, learn how her body responds to different stimuli. When we are in the heat of things it’s hard for me to verbally tell him where to go or what to do. Well, unless you are in a verbal mood and then there is no problem telling him exactly what you want him to do. More often he can reads your groans, moans and breathing. You can even grab a hold of his head just to make sure he does not change a thing.

For all the women out there you too can make this experience more enjoyable for your man. Praise him. Let him know how much you love and crave the feel of his tongue on you. Make sure you keep yourself clean.  If you are looking for more details on how to shave this area you may want to check out cumingirl’s “Pubic Shaving: for Women” thread. Another thing that you can do is “accidentally” graze his penis with your leg or whatever is readily available. You will most likely see a very positive reaction.

I strongly believe that variety is the spice of life. Try different techniques and see how she responds. You can be my guest to use this as a sort of guide. Be sure to create some sexual tension throughout the day. When you are ready to get started, make sure that you are both comfortable. He could be there for awhile and it would be a major bummer if you were at the edge of an orgasm and your husband suddenly developed a neck cramp. Have him start with some long, rhythmic ice cream licks. Then he can insert his finger or toy into your vagina while his focus starts to zone in on your clitoris. At this time what he does may varies. The one thing that is constant is that he should make you feel like you are the most delicious thing he has ever placed his lips on.

I’ll go over some various tongue techniques that are discussed in, “She Comes First” by Ian Kerner. A flat tongue technique allows you to grind into him and it allows him a breather without loosing your connection.  Diagonal or horizontal strokes may be added in now. Make sure he goes over your clitoral head as he does this. Remember to do one or the other, don’t alternate one of this and one of that and really drag that tongue!! If you are getting tired revert back to the flat tongue technique until you are ready to go again. The “cat lick” is a series of short but precise licks all over the vulva. First avoiding the clitoris and then with more arousal comes more attention to the clitoris. “Follow the leader” lick is a nice different feel. Have your index finger follow the path of your tongue. Now for a biggie, “the suction cup”. He encloses his mouth over your entire clitoris and gently sucks while using his tongue at the same time. This is when most women do not want there husband to change a thing!!

Speaking of not changing a thing, if you are about to climax instruct him to not speed things up!!!! Just keep that steady pace and you will be sent over the edge.  Here are some tell tale signs of an orgasm. The vagina may throb like a beating heart, muscles tighten (especially legs), breathing quickens, body may become flushed and you may start yelling out phrases you never thought you would hear come out of your mouth.

There are those rare occasion where an orgasm just is not in the cards. Those experiences are just as meaningful as the ones that do end with an orgasm or two. It still feels incredible and it fills your visual rolodex.  One of the most giving, unselfish, loving things a husband can do is to perform cunnilingus on his wife. Remember that if one technique does not work on a given night it may work later down the road. Enjoy your journey and happy travels!!!!!


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