Anal Sex: What Does the Bible Say?

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The bible spells out many sins. God’s word tells us that adultery is a sin.It is even a commandment.

Leviticus 18:20 (King James Version)

20Moreover thou shalt not lie carnally with thy neighbour’s wife, to defile thyself with her.

Exodus 20 (King James Version)

1And God spake all these words, saying,

14Thou shalt not commit adultery.

His word also tells us fornication and bestiality are sins.

1 Corinthians 6:18 (King James Version)

18Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

1 Thessalonians 4:3 (King James Version)

3For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:

1 Corinthians 7:2 (King James Version)

2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Leviticus 20:15-16 (King James Version)

15And if a man lie with a beast, he shall surely be put to death: and ye shall slay the beast.

16And if a woman approach unto any beast, and lie down thereto, thou shalt kill the woman, and the beast: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.

The bible doesn’t, however, spell it out for anal sex. There are no specific verses that say that anal sex between a married couple is a sin. There are verses that deal with homosexuality, but not a married couple. I believe that if it were a sin, God would have included it in with the others He mentioned. But since the bible is silent on this issue, there is a debate among Christians regarding this.

This is something that you and your spouse will need to discuss and pray about. The Holy Spirit will convict you as to what is best for your marriage. If one of you has a history of deep porn use, where anal sex was depicted, then it’s possible that engaging in anal sex could become a slippery slope for you, and lead back into your old, sinful lifestyles. You’ll need to ask yourself: Will doing this cause me to lust for more or for others? Will it remind me of the pornography and cause me to revert back to that? While participating in anal sex may be okay for one couple, it may cause another couple to stumble.

Just because something is permissible, doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s beneficial to you. There are precautions and health concerns that you need to be aware of. Cleanliness is important, and so is being gentle and slow. I have heard a couple stories from women who say that they have become damaged from having anal sex, and now suffer from incontinence. I have heard more stories from women who say they have participated in anal sex with their husbands for years and have had no side effects at all from it.

Some couples may be interested in anal sex or anal play, but after weighing all the pros and cons, decide that it isn’t edifying for their marriage. I respect and understand this. I humbly ask for that same respect in the decisions that my husband and I have made. May God bless your marriage!

Related Article:  What About Sodomy?

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Anal Sex: How To Get Started

Okay, so let’s say you and your husband are into anal play, and you want to take it a step further. You are both comfortable with the idea of anal sex, but you feel like you need some pointers to help you get started. Well, you’ve come to the right article! Anal sex is easily achieved by some couples, but a little harder for others. It can be difficult to learn to accommodate your husband’s penis. Most women need to start out with something smaller and work their way up to it. Here are some things to keep in mind when you are ready to try anal sex:

Use copious amounts of lube. I cannot stress this enough. While the vagina self-lubricates, the same cannot be said of the anus. It will be in your best interest to put lube on both places (your anus and the object being inserted). In fact, if your husband is down there with his fingers or a plug, just tell him to keep the bottle of lube with him!

Start out with your husband’s finger. Seriously. He can easily use a finger cot or glove if he wants. If you like the feelings you get from his finger, then that is a good indication that you may be ready for a little more. If his finger is uncomfortable to you or feels strange when inserted, then you may ultimately not like anal sex. You may be on this stage for one night or several months before you are ready to move on to anything else.

Move up to a small anal plug. Anal plugs come in so many sizes now and are relatively inexpensive. You and your husband can even pick one out online discreetly to avoid potential embarrassment of physically going to the toy store (although I think that’s part of the fun!) You can also try having your husband try and insert two fingers at this point. The goal here is to get your anus used to something slightly larger fitting in there. Again, some of you may have absolutely no problem with this stage either, or it may feel kind of foreign to you. Make sure that you experience having an orgasm while trying this, so you’ll know what you are getting yourself into! (Remember to use tons of lube!)

When you feel you are ready to try full-blown anal sex, then start slowly. You may be surprised at the difference in size between an anal plug and your husband’s erect penis. I will tell you that getting the head in is the biggest hurdle, and after that it’s easier. Just go slowly and start out with very shallow mini-thrusts. By that I mean to just barely thrust enough to get most of the head in. When you feel like you are able to take more in, then take it a little further. Remember to add more lube each time you take in another inch.

Make sure you are in a comfortable position. Some positions are tighter for anal sex and other positions are more relaxed and may work better for you. So if you aren’t able to achieve penetration in one position, it’s possible that another may work for you. Here are some good positions we have that work for anal sex:

If it feels uncomfortable to you then stop. Do not force it if it hurts. You could potentially damage yourself.

I encourage you to take it slowly, and don’t get upset if it doesn’t work immediately. Some things take time, patience, and practice. Once you have it down, try adding a vibe to your clitoris at the same time! Many women who like anal sex, also like experiencing double penetration as well, so that may be something worth looking into.

If you and your husband are interested in anal sex, then you’ll also need to decide on going bareback or wearing a condom. The use of a condom is cleaner, and you can always remove the condom for regular vaginal intercourse afterwards. If you decide to go without one, just remember that you should never re-insert his penis (or finger) into your vagina after it has been in your anus. That is a sure fire way to spread bacteria and get an infection.

So talk to your spouse about your expectations and/or concerns. Make sure that you are both comfortable with whatever decisions are made. You may try this only to find that one or both of you don’t like it. If that’s the case, then there are hundreds of other ideas and positions to try. Pray about it, take it slow, and HAVE FUN!

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Camera Shy?

Have you ever video taped or taking still photos of your sex sessions with your husband? If not, I highly recommend it because it is so much fun. To see things from a different angle is very exciting. Watching yourselves having sex is a little strange at first, but very erotic.

You may want to try taking still pictures first that are simply a little bit risqué. Maybe wearing lingerie or nude, but with no private areas showing would be a good place to start. Then you might move to taking pictures of exposed body parts and then a certain sex act that you love. Then see if you like seeing any of that in video footage. Just play around. This is meant to be fun.

I can hear you… “What if someone finds them?” This is a very practical concern and there are certain measures you can take to greatly minimize the risk, but honestly there is no 100% guarantee that no one will ever find them. The only way that no one can see them is if you erase them once you have seen them and that isn’t as much fun (and even then those temperamental digital cameras have been known to “recall” deleted images in inconvenient times), though it certainly gives you an idea of what it is like.

Here are some of the measures you can take to reduce the chance that they will be seen by someone other than you. If there are sex pictures on the camera, then keep it in your bedroom until the pictures are removed. There are ways to secure the images/recordings in a private, locked area of your hard drive. If you can learn how to do this, then the chance of someone other than you or your spouse seeing them is reduced. Also, if you keep them on a memory card or video tape then you can keep them under lock and key. If you are concerned that someone may come across them were you to suddenly die or something, consider if the people you are closest to (who would mostly likely be going through your things in such a circumstance) would honor a note inside the box explaining what was on the tapes and that you want them to be destroyed. I think most people don’t like the idea of watching people they know having sex and such a request would be honored, but you know your family best. Having said that, if you are dead and gone, who cares. 🙂

Just a warning, watching yourselves from a different angle may end up costing you money because you may end up joining a gym afterwards. 🙂 Enjoy your photo shoot.

Sex-Where to have it

 

 

                                                                            

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Every now and then you need to get a little daring to add variety to your sex life. Some of the best sexual sessions my husband and I have had took place outside the bedroom. I’m not talking about being an exhibitionist. You can be offbeat by using the living room rug, on a beach, under the dinning room table, on the washing machine or in the bathroom. We do still use our bed most of the time but the unusual surroundings really add some excitement. Even simply checking into a local hotel for a few hours can lead to a lifetime of memories. It keeps the boredom at bay and it really takes little effort on both our parts.

We have 5 kids so most of our encounters really do need to be creative. If the kids are outside, watching a movie or playing a game we have been know to slip away. When we check into a hotel on our family trips we need to get two separate rooms or a suite. We have been known to go in one room while all the kids were in the other to “discuss our plans for the upcoming day”. Another time my husband was away on business for two weeks. After the first week my mother, the kids and I flew out to join him. We had a suite which meant that we had two full beds and a pull out couch in one big room. My mother insisted on watching the kids while we went to eat. My husband and I made a detour to our car before dinner. I commented that people were probably heading inside to have sex and here we were running outside to the parking lot. (Mom, if you are reading this, there really was a wait at the restaurant). Then there was the time in the Haunted House at Disney (yeah, I know now that they have cameras inside all of their rides so I would advise against doing this), in the water at the beach, in a boat (while watching a beautiful sunset), on a bus (one of those traveling buses with the really high seats), on an airplane, in a car while driving and in the mountains. My husband has recently moved into a new office and I hope to add that to our list soon.

If the thought of doing this outside your bedroom frightens you then you can start by doing small things to your bedroom to liven things up. We hung a candelabra above our bed and it gives off such a romantic feel. My husband has hit the candelabra with his head with resulted in him having some wax in his hair but no major injury yet. If you need some more ideas on how to spice up your bedroom I highly recommend reading Cinnamon sticks article called “Making Your Bedroom Romantic”.

It wasn’t long ago that I was trapped in a comfortable, “I don’t need to do anything things are fine” mind frame. Losing my husband’s respect was another concern that I had but just the opposite happened. He looks at me like a precious gem. I have learned that sometimes I need to step outside my comfort zone not only for my husband but for myself as well. I do regret that Disney experience on some level but we can never pass a haunted house without giving each other a knowing look.

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