Take Care of Those Toys, Girls!


This is just a short reminder to everyone out there that you need to be taking care of and cleaning your sex toys after each and every use.

When using lube with a toy, please read the package that your toy came in, to see what lubes, if any, should not be used. Water based lubes are okay for every toy I do believe. They are also the easiest to clean up. A little soap and water and that’s it. It’s the silicone lubes that have issues with certain toys. You should not use a silicone lubricant with a silicone toy or with a toy that is made out of one of the new “realistic” type of materials (such as Cyberskin). It can damage your toy. But silicone lubes are really good for water play and with your waterproof toys.

Cleaning your toys is a MUST. I use Before and After toy cleaner. It’s easy to use and does not have to be used with water. You can spray on and wipe off. Silicone dildos can be boiled or even put in the dishwasher to be sterilized. (Never put anything battery operated in your dishwasher though.) Jelly and rubber toys are harder to sterilize because they are porous. Using a condom over porous toys will actually help them last much longer. You should wash porous toys thoroughly with anti-bacterial soap and water. I found a really informative site that lists different types of toys and how best to clean them. It also tells of special considerations for Cyberskin toys, which need to be dusted with cornstarch after they are washed. Take note that this is NOT a Christian site, and they do sell some things that I take issue with, but this information page is really good. Click here for that information.

Your battery-operated toys will last longer if you remove the batteries when storing them. I have lost two nice toys in the last few years, from battery erosion and leakage 😦 And you certainly don’t want mold or mildew growing on your toys, so please make sure that they are fully dry before putting them away, in a nice private place. We all know that our toys won’t last forever. But if we take care of them properly, then they will certainly last longer.


Don’t Let That Period Blot Out Your Fun!

I’m starting to feel crampy and bloated.

That can only mean one thing: my period will be here soon.

That is a bummer for a variety of reasons, the least of which is that GingerPapa and I have both been under the weather lately and there hasn’t been as much conjugal activity as usual. So now I’m getting ready for 5-6 days of The Red Menace, and I’m in the mood for love.

What to do?

Well, there are all sorts of things that we can do. Now granted, for the first couple of days I’m crampy and sore and want to be left alone. But by the third day we have to start making alternate arrangements.

Before I even start the list I want to mention that I know very well that some people go ahead and have intercourse during their period. We’ve tried it, but I just don’t care for it. If it works for you, run with it, but it’s not my favorite thing to do.

So without further ado, here’s a little list of ideas to tide you over:

1. Breast sex. This is something that I really enjoy on occasion. I love for my husband to play with my breasts, and so it’s really cool visually for him to go from sucking them to molding them around himself. We add a little lube to my cleavage, and away we go! He can ejaculate on me, which is a great visual for him.

2. Oral sex. Although oral play is a regular part of our lovemaking, I don’t often give him oral all the way to completion because we’re doing so many other things. So during my period sometimes I like to just take him in my mouth and do the whole whammy. It’s a nice surprise for him. But it’s not totally sacrificial, because I really get excited to see how excited he’s getting and well, it’s all good.

3. Anal sex. I think that Cumingirl has done a great job of describing the how-to’s of that. All of the usual foreplay, but with back door entry.

4. Semi-vaginal sex. We’ve done a sort of modified vaginal thing where he doesn’t actually enter my vagina per se, but I kind of wrap my outer labia around him, and he slides up and down. I’m not sure how to describe that better.

Some couples like to do manual sex at this time. Cumingirl has written a great piece on that, complete with a link to an instructional site.

Some couples also like to do something dubbed “The Scarlet Kiss.” The freshly showered wife inserts a clean tampon and then her husband proceeds to perform oral sex on her, just avoiding the area with the tampon. Not for everybody, but it’s an option.

So when it’s getting to be that time of the month, surprise your hubby with some new ideas for the bedroom. You’ll be glad you did!


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