Anilingus is defined as oral stimulation of the anus. Some people call it rimming or anal-oral sex. Most people are either for it or against it. Very few people are neutral. If you are really not into this then you may not want to read this article. I will be writing about this slightly taboo subject here, so don’t say you weren’t warned! 😆
First, let’s discuss rimming for the husbands. If your husband really likes having his perineum massaged or caressed or rubbed during oral sex or intercourse, then he may very well like having oral attentions there. Some men would never dream of asking for it though, so it may be up to you to take the first step. If you want to suggest trying it, then you could both take a shower together and make sure that you are all clean first.
You can start out with oral sex. Suck and lick on his testicles as well, and then dip down to his perineum area. Stay there for a while if you want, and make him anticipate what you are going to do! While you are giving this oral attention to him, it’s beneficial that you are giving him a hand job at the same time. Or, to make it easier on you, you could ask him to stimulate himself while you are doing this. When you are ready, dip your tongue down to his anus, and gently graze over the area as if you were licking an ice cream cone. See if it makes your man spasm or shudder! (If it does, that’s a good thing!) Then, just continue to move your tongue all around his anus area. You can go in circles or just flicking back and forth. Don’t be afraid to apply some pressure!
You have different options in how you and your husband want to finish. Your husband could masturbate while you are rimming him. Men who respond well to rimming say that it really increases the intensity of their orgasms. Your husband may want you to bring your mouth back to his penis to finish him. If so, you can still use your lubed finger to rub him there while he is reaching his climax.
Rimming for us wives can easily be added to the oral sex repertoire. Again, just make very sure that you are super clean down there. A shower just beforehand would be optimal. When your husband is giving you oral delights, he can just move his tongue a little lower than usual. He can graze over your anus delicately or apply more pressure if you like that. For maximum pleasure I suggest that you figure out some way to keep the stimulation going on your clitoris. You can do this by using a small vibe, using your own fingers, or if your husband is coordinated enough, he can keep his fingers on you himself!
There are health issues that need to be taken into consideration when thinking about rimming. You should make sure that you take extra lengths to be clean down there when you are going to incorporate any kind of anal play into sex. But something even more effective is using a dental dam. Amazon even has them for sale! A dental dam is a good way to prevent disease, especially if you want to actually insert your tongue a little (which some men love and some men hate, by the way). Here is a link that shows you how to make one out of a condom yourself.
I wanted to include this in my articles about anal play and anal sex, because some people think Christians don’t practice this. Some Christians are curious about it, but afraid to ask someone (I mean, who are you going to ask about this subject? 😳 ). Just make sure that you are practicing good hygiene and taking precautions to protect both you and your spouse against disease.
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My husband and I have tried several things regarding anal play, such as touch, toys and sex, but never this. He is not really interested in receiving this, which is odd since he likes being stimulated back there with fingers and toys. He did it to me this past weekend and I was stunned at how hard a climax I had. I didn’t know what he was doing and it just felt too good to make him stop. Two nights later after my shower, he had me again this way with the same result. I am pretty embarrassed by it, but it feels so good I’m not going to say no if he keeps wanting me this way.
This site has impacted my life because I would have just been embarrassed, ashamed and guilty about it in silence a year ago. Now we sat down and prayed and opened the Bible and Song 6:3 really spoke to us. I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine. My husband has been wanting me that way for almost a decade, but had never told me. My recent renewal of heart towards lovemaking and communication with him gave him the courage to take me the way he has wanted to take me, and I am ecstatic he did! Not just for the pleasure involved, but also in that we are closer to each other and closer together in our faith than ever before.
setteriknow, I was SO GLAD to read your above comment! How wonderful it is that you now have freedom in your marriage bed without shame and guilt! I am just so thrilled for both you and your husband 🙂
hey cumminggirl. great article! my husband and i are newly weds. ihaven’t talked about or done anal although i think it will become apart of our sex life in the not too distant future. i know he would love a rim job or me to give him some anilingus because he goes crazy when i get close. I’m not against it, but i’m just not into this.. i want to be for him.. he’s not pressuring me at all… any idea how i could get into it? will it just come in time?
Hi funone! Some things or ideas do tend to “grow on us” in time. Anilingus is something that I never contemplated doing for years, and my husband never asked me to. It just occurred to me one day, after being married several years, that I wanted to do it to him.
There are also some ideas that just never seem to grow on us. You said your husband is not pressuring you at all, and that’s great! But please don’t put pressure on yourself to do something that you aren’t comfortable doing. There is no way that I would have been comfortable with this when I was a newly wed!
I don’t really feel like i’m pressuring myself… i just want to experience hubbie in everyway possible and vice versa… just reading your little article is getting me very curious about the topic. i think just reading it is getting me into it 🙂
I absolutely agree that this is something that should not be rushed into quickly. I would have definitely not been into this when I first got married. But now that we’re going on about 10 years and we feel comfortable with it, we’ve made it a semi-regular part of our repertoire.
Anal sex is one of those polarizing things that can be either very positive or very negative. Remember that it’s your pleasure and so have fun with it. I love to be rimmed while being fingered vaginally. The combination is absolutely incredible for me and it’s something I never would have even thought of before marriage. Good Luck
My husband did this too me for the first time last night! It was AMAZING!
Never would have imagined this taking place but with all the shower sex we have it of course happened! It was the most mind blowing experience of my life and is every time we do it since. It is currently one of my favorite things to receive. Couple this with others forms of play and I can’t get my eyes to roll back out of my head. We clean extremely well and then shower never knowing when the opportunity might rise to take advantage of the situation. The feeling is so intense that I have orgasmed merely from it.