Have you been dating your husband? My husband and I continued dating after we got married and although we haven’t been going out consistently every week, it is a priority for us. Friday nights are the night we try to make it happen at LEAST once a month. Sometimes we double date with another couple or two, but most of the time it’s just us.
Date nights are beneficial because they remind you why you fell in love. They are times to rest and relax. Try not to “talk shop” while on your date nights. Although you may need to talk about some of the stressful parts of your day, don’t allow that to take up your entire conversation for the evening. Protect the time you have together and be intentional about loving on each other. Make it your mission to try to learn something new about your spouse every time you have a date. If you like dressing up, do it. Sometimes I run into people I know while I’m on a date and they ask, “What are you so dressed up for?” I tell them I like to make a little extra effort on date nights. If I feel sexy, I know I present myself to my husband as sexy so that goes a long way.
We have dated through seasons of plenty and seasons of need, seasons with kids and seasons without, seasons of high amorousness and seasons of feeling like we weren’t connecting on any level and I can tell you that beyond a shadow of a doubt, dating made every season better. Sometimes it took more creativity and sometimes it took great determination, but it was worth it every time.
If you are not in the habit of dating, surprise your husband one night. Make arrangements for a wonderful evening together and invite him to make dating a priority with you from now on.
Some Ideas for Date Night
Dinner and a movie
Swimming or skating at your local recreation center
Window shopping
Sipping lattes at a coffee shop
Visit the library and sit quietly together and look through your favorite magazines
Go for a walk
Visit the beach
See a concert or theatre production
Watch or participate in a sporting event
Rent a gaming system if you don’t have one
Go to the dollar store and spend $10 on something fun for your bedroom
Serve someone in need together (I wouldn’t recommend this for every date because it is not as focused on your relationship, but it does show you your spouse in a new light)
Plan and dream for this year and the years to come
Visit a zoo or an aquarium
Tour a vineyard or have your own private wine and cheese party
Mini golf or bowling
Visit a museum
Go to a book store and browse around. Try to find a book that would benefit your love life.
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Christian Nymphos 
We have made a priority that every Wednesday night is our date night. We do not commit to anything else at church, but drop our kids off at their Wednesday night church activities and we go out. Last Wednesday, we went to dinner then to a bookstore. It was a very nice time.
We use Friday nights as a date night so we can stay up late most of the time. Some times we use Saturdays as a backup, and nap after church on Sunday. We can not afford a sitter every week, and we do not live near relatives. Our friends have grown children, so trading off doest work. This lead to “at home date nights.” These are just as special as going out. They are more relaxing. We get the children movies, and let the older ones supervise the younger ones. Then we shut ourselves in our room with snacks, candles, bubble bath, games, music, etc. We have enough room to slow dance if we choose. lol. Sometimes it’s 3AM before we go to sleep.
Date nights have done WONDERS for our marriage. I actually got the initial idea from an old friend who’s parents used to do it every week during the week. During a time where we felt like we were falling apart, we decided to make Wednesday nights our night. Most often, we just leave the house and get a simple dinner somewhere and go window shop at local stores. We both get excited about it in advance (he usually wakes me up in the morning saying “it’s date night tonight!”) and I use it as an extra motivation to get a little more dressed up etc. It’s worth the time! We don’t have kids yet, and I’m sure that will add extra complications, but I hope we’re able to maintain the tradition somewhat when we do.
I hope this wont be too long but I think this article bears being brought back to the forefront.
I was sure that my H wouldn’t go for the weekly date thing. I wanted to do it and knew it would be good for us so I began planning intimate things for us every couple of weeks. He loved it. then I found CN and he loved it even more. I didn’t call them dates or anything I just really made him happy by broadening our sexual horizons.
Still I wanted to date him in some fun, out of the bedroom ways too. So this is what I did. I chose a date when our remaining @ home kid would be with friends all day and over night and I asked him to reserve it for a date with me.
I sent him tantalizing texts with clues for the week or two before but he didn’t have a clue what he was in for.
What he was in for was a recreation of our first months of dating. I had him pick me up in our hang out place. I was wearing a replica of the outfit I was wearing when he decided to ask me out. I got a hold of my actual car from back then and we drove it to the house where he was living at the time (1988) and we recreated our first kiss out in front of it. Then we drove home and I made pizza and we played a word association game where we shared the first memory that popped into our heads about us when we were just starting out. We laughed and cuddled and kissed and at the end I asked if he would like to do something every week and he happily agreed.
Afterwards we went to bed where we engaged in activities we never did when we were dating 😉
Call it feminine wiles or just knowing my man well enough after 20+ years but since then we have only missed one Saturday night and that was due to sickness and we made up for it the following week…boy howdy!
Our dates have ranged from elaborately planned ones like the first two candle lit dinners to following through on some of the sexy fun activities we discuss here on CN but I can honestly tell anyone that asks that our date nights have allowed me to express my love for my husband in a way that has deepened and intensified our emotional and physical intimacy.
My LL is time, his is acts of service so when we make the time for me to do nice things for him, the sparks fly!
DATE your men ladies!
In light of this thursday’s article on Winter Date Ideas, thought I would bump this up