Advanced Oral Techniques

Many husbands view oral sex as the most intimate thing a wife could do for them.  Cumingirl has already shared some great oral sex tips in her “Tasting His Fruit” article.  I am going to share some techniques that can be used once you are fully comfortable with performing oral on your man.   Feel free to try them out.

The Hoover:  First get your husband’s penis nice and wet licking all around because it will help to have him well lubricated.  If this alone does not bring him to a full erection then try the “Hoover method”.  Put the top part of his penis in your mouth and gently suck.  As you are sucking,  begin pulling him out of your mouth at the same time.   This double pulling action increases the blood flow to his penis bringing him to a full salute.

Peppermint Stick:  Once your husband is fully erect  experiment and see what is working on that day.  (It’s true, men like variety just as much as us women do.)  Start at his base and run your tongue around his penis like the swirl on a peppermint stick. 😉 As you circle around, slowly move up to the head of his penis.  Make sure to cover your teeth with your lips as I do this.   Teeth at this point may not be a good thing.

Butterfly Flick:  This is where musical talent comes into play.  Pretend your husband’s penis is a banjo and strum it with your tongue. He may love for you to do this movement up and down his entire penis with most of your focus on his frenulum, which is the membrane right under the head of his penis.

Hummer: If you moan with just the right amount of pressure on his penis you can make it vibrate.

Love Nips:  Some men are greatly turned on by a very light grazing of their wife’s teeth.  Gently (very, very, very gently) scrape your teeth as you are going up and down on his penis.  You don’t want him start hearing ‘Jaws Music’ playing in his head.

Deep Throat:  Start with one of the other techniques and then try incorporating this into the show.  One of your hands should be grabbing the base of his penis.  Slowly bring him in deeper by removing one finger at a time.  So if you are using all four fingers to hold him remove one and go down a little further.  Let your mouth get adjusted to the deeper penetration and then remove another finger until either you run out of fingers or it just is not comfortable to go any further.  You may find that you are able to take more of him in if you stick your tongue out as you are bringing him in.  Then you can caress the head of his penis with the back of your throat.  If you want to add some flavor, grab a lube like “Good Head”.  This also helps numb the back of your throat.

Another technique you can try while giving your man oral is to push on his perineal.  (For a detailed description, click on the red letters.)  This can really intensify his orgasm.  Just make sure your nails don’t jab into him.  If you do have long nails a knuckle works just as well.

Sometimes the things that happen accidentally are what drive him to ecstasy.  Don’t be afraid to experiment just make sure you report back here so we can all learn how to pleasure our husbands better.  Bon appetite!!



  1. I cannot do the hummer without laughing, LOL. But I am getting better at the deep throat! Great tips peppermint girl!

  2. Cumingirl, try giving him a hummer and deep throat at the same time. He’ll love it!!! 😉

  3. excuse the pun, but I suck at this, this was never really part of our sex time until a year or so. We love to keep trying, but it just does not work…

    please give advice, I would really love to surprise him!


  4. Hi Beagle-babe. Did you read Cumingirl’s “Tasting His Fruit” article? She has some good advice for wives just starting out. If you still have a question I think I would need you to be more specific on what’s not working out. You can feel free to explain more here in the comment box or if you rather be more discrete you can respond under “Got Questions” and we will get back to you ASAP.

  5. HI,

    Yes I read it, I learned more than I really ever knew! Will let you know if I have any other questions as time goes by!

    I’m glad I found your site, its given me a comfortable place to learn and share with others the values of marriage.

    Than you so much!


  6. Bought some kiwi-strawberry flavored stuff today, can’t wait to try it out!, along with all the new info I’ve been reading!


  7. Unfortunately for my husband, I have a high gag reflex. He would love it if I could finish what I start!

  8. I’m like you Charmed. I really want to finish him off, but so far it hasn’t been too successful. The best thing I have found that makes it work is to have a mint in my mouth when I do it, which, depending on the type of mint, gives him a unique sensation. That gets me the closest to finishing him. I’d love to master that one… Thankfully we have years to practice.

  9. The Blow Job is one of the most powerful weapons we wives have in our arsenal in the fight to keep our wonderful husbands out of the hands of the wicked women that would love to take them away from us. Many of us may not have quite the appetite for sex as often as our man does but a quickie blow job will keep him satisfied.

    My Husband and I regularly have sex but I don’t ever want him leaving the house with a hard-on some woman could use to take him away from me so if we didn’t have sex the night before I’ll usually take care of it right after his morning shower.

    “A Blow-Job a Day Keeps the Mistress Away”

  10. I love giving my husband oral but many women can’t for different reasons whether is physically difficult or because of proximity. I would feel badly if someone read this and started panicking because they feared infidelity would set in. Think of all the husbands away serving our country or just traveling on business. Our husbands are responsible for staying faithful. Just because he didn’t get a BJ on his way out does not mean that he has the right to look elsewhere for release. Marital satisfaction comes from many other emotional factors. Infidelity is not a day to day struggle. When someone is unfaithful it is usually for much deeper reasons then not receiving oral that morning.

    If he needs sex that frequently he can find other alternative too. He can ask for a hand job, or take things into his own hands and masturbate. I hear what you are saying about keeping him satisfied but us woman need to be satisfied as well. Many of us do have a higher drive then our husbands and sometimes that means that you just need to take care of yourself.

  11. i’m sorry if I gave that impression. No husband has an excuse for infidelity. I’m just saying it’s a good way to help him in his fight with temptation.

  12. Anything that increases intimacy with your spouse gets thumbs up from me. It’s a very loving, giving act. I am sure your husband feels very blessed.

  13. hubby is fairly large… while performing deep throat, i could take him past the back of my throat and down, but my gag reflex wont allow me… any advise on how to “swallow” him?

  14. If you can’t deep throat him but want to give him the feeling of being “consumed” you can try what I call “the tube”.

    Grasp the base of the shaft so all fingers are wrapped around his penis. Put your mouth down to your pointing finger if you can. Now move your hand up and down while keeping your mouth over the top. So if you move you hand then your head if automatically bobbing up and down in the same motion as your hand.

    That way his entire penis is being stimulated.

    I hope that makes sense.

  15. Peppermintgiril…I use this “tube” method when my gag reflex is more sensitive than other times. It’s a great alternative!

  16. ya, i think you hit the nail on the head when you said i want him to have the feeling of being consumed…. “the tube” sounds like a really good alternative for now, but what i really want to be able to do is take him in right down my throat so he can finish down there. i also just want to be able to feel his testicles against my face or chin during oral which has never happened. i’ want to try laying on my back with my head hanging off which may create a more direct route into my throat, but i want to be able to control it seeing how it may inhibit breathing a tad… any other ideas?

  17. Making you mouth and throat line up with his curve is a good idea. You can also try to stick out your tongue beyond your lower lip. Bring his penis in as far as you can, for as long as you can and then pull out and repeat. You don’t have to keep him down there the entire time. As far as the breathing goes, just breathe normally. When he is about to enter your throat hold your breath without taking that huge gulp of air like you would if you were going under water.

    Good luck!!

  18. something my husband looooves is that i combine a blow job and a hand job. i start with a blow job to help lube him up and then i switch to a hand job until it gets a little dry. then i just keep switching back and forth from one to the other. he thinks he’s the luckiest man in the world when i do this to him!

  19. LOL, me too!! I tried humming and could not stop the giggles that time. Maybe it was because I tried to hum a song…lol, LOL

  20. by accident the other night I went deeper than I ever have on my husband. Instantly it was a hit. BUt something I discovered was that I love going really deep. I don’t know what it is but I resiprocated oral sex by up to this point out of curtousy and as time went by I grew to appretiate it more and more. BUt for some reason I love to go really deep on him. I can feel my throat streaching and I like it I don’t know. Does anybody else feel this way?

  21. tried the hummer last night and when I asked if H could feel the vibrations he said “Uh no I just thought there was a ghost in the room.” LOL my moans were spooktacular not spectacular but he added that “the rest is working for me” 🙂

  22. I would try the 69 position. It will give you ultimate control over depth and pace and the angle will work better for deep penetration. And, if your husband is anything like mine, he’ll love the view and you’ll probably get some welcome attention as well 🙂

  23. Absolutely! I think it’s a mix between the feeling of accomplishment for being able to take him deep, the pleasure of knowing I am giving him an incredible experience and the intensity of act itself. It is an extreme feeling to be able to deep throat. I love it!

  24. Just another hint on deep throating. Sometimes it is easier to get in the full penis if you are lying on your back with your head hanging over the mattress, it opens up your throat. The husband then controls the penetration depth. You can reach back and place your hands on his hips to put pressure on him to either stop or push. This is the position that opens your throat up the most and helps with the gag reflex.:)

  25. I have tried the hummer twice but can’t really do it. H is gifted in the “girth” dept and completely fills my throat is that why? I just can’t get any vibration going in my throat when he is in there.

  26. I am a newlywed and I have some concerns about swallowing the semen. well I’ll be honset I fidn it disgusting, but I want to satisfy my husband and try new things.. any advise to help me become comfortable with this?

  27. As a newlywed, I think you can give yourself permission to try new things gradually – you don’t have to do everything in the first few weeks or months. You definitely don’t have to swallow for oral to be really exciting for your husband; you can just let it flow out of your mouth.

  28. I also find oral and definitely the though of my husband’s semen in my mouth disgusting. Not disgusting as in I don’t think anyone should do it just disgusting as in I can’t personally bring myself to do it.

    If I’m giving him oral and there’s pre-cum I have to stop because it’d make me wretch.

    I can still find plenty of ways to satisfy my husband and I’m comfortable with the fact there may (or may not) be a day when I’m comfortable with it.

    You and your husband will find the things that work for you. Just because other couples find one thing amazing doesn’t mean you two will. Just be willing to try things out occasionally but don’t feel you have to do things you don’t enjoy.

    Also, if you’re not enjoying it your husband probably won’t either.

  29. Tommy girl, no worries its not vibration in the throat, different notes hummed or moaning causes the most vibration in the lips and you can use that to stimulate his head

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