Middle of the Night Lovin’

One of the fondest memories my husband and I have of our honeymoon is waking up in the middle of the night to have sex and then falling back asleep. We do it rarely now, but it’s fun when we do.

The other night I woke up in the early morning and got to feeling especially amorous towards my husband. Oh, I was so close to getting something going. What stopped me? This thought: “He might be annoyed at me waking him up for sex.” Now, in all honesty, you do need to understand from your husband if he would in fact be annoyed at being woken up. Some people really do not like it. It wrecks their ability to function properly the next day. My husband confirmed for me that it is, indeed, OK for me to interrupt his sleep for some middle of the night lovin’ and yet I expect that it wouldn’t be welcomed every night, which is fine by me. After all, I’m not a machine. 🙂

These are good positions to consider using for middle of the night sex:

When you have sex during the night, it’s almost dream like because you are so sleepy, but it’s not without passion. The whole reason we are doing it is because we don’t want to wait another moment. The passion is just different. It is slow and rhythmic.

My husband says the best part about it is that there is no guilt about going to sleep right afterwards. 😀 Of course, he is mostly teasing because we are both always quick to fall asleep after we have sex.

So once you have talked to your husband about what he thinks about this, the next time you wake up at night reach over and start a little hand job. See how he responds and if it is favorable, go for it!

Ben Wa Balls: A Toy Review

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Okay, so Peppermintgirl’s article, The Secret To Better Sex, got me to thinking. I have recently purchased a set of those ben wa balls that she had talked about, but I’d only tried them once, a few months back. I wonder if I could wear them all day long?

So I inserted them this morning as soon as I got up. I have the small weighted kind, like the picture above. They are not on a string. They are shiny and gold looking and are heavier than they look. I believe they are made that way on purpose. You are supposed to flex your PC muscles to keep them in, and in turn, it strengthens your pelvic floor muscles. The fact that they are weighted makes it a little more difficult. Amazon has a couple different kinds, but none of them have good reviews. I got mine at a different company and they were not as cheap as amazon has them.

My Morning

So I put them in as soon as I got out of bed. Then I went and made breakfast for my family. I got my kids on the school bus and jumped in the shower. Afterwards I recall thinking so far so good. Then I got dressed and came and spent some time online.

Around 11:45 I realized that I needed to go to the grocery store. The problem was that I don’t wear panties. The only ones I do own are thongs. I started wondering what in the world would I do if one of these balls fell out and rolled down the isle of the grocery store? I went and raided my drawers and found a pair of men’s boxer briefs that I usually wear when I work out. I felt better knowing that I had a “safety net.”

My Afternoon

Just before I left, I needed to go to the bathroom. Wouldn’t you know that I totally forgot about the balls (because you can’t feel them in there!) and as I started to pee, I heard two loud CLANKS as they both fell into the toilet. What a predicament. Of course this would happen to me. I had to grab my dish washing gloves and fish them out. Then I had to sterilize them and reinsert them. I realized then, that the balls had stayed in for around four hours before they fell out. Whether that is good or bad, I have no clue.

So I went to the grocery store and to get me some lunch. I came home and did some laundry and ate and got back online again. I continued my day, as I would have normally. My kids got off the bus and my husband came home from a business trip. He and I knew we would make love tonight. He had hinted at it and so had I. But I did not tell him about the ben wa balls. I decided to leave them in and just see if he happened to notice them.

My Night

During foreplay I kept expecting him to say What in the world am I feeling in there? But he did not. I grinned to myself and decided to see how far we would go before he realized something was different. We then made love as usual, and he never knew they were inside me. The only strange thing that happened was that he finished way earlier than he usually does. He said he couldn’t help it. He was shocked when, afterwards, I removed them myself in front of him. He couldn’t believe that I had those inside and he didn’t feel them.

Conclusion

I think I did a good job of holding the balls inside myself all day long. They only slipped out once in 12 hours. Once inserted, you can’t feel them at all inside. I had read in a couple of places that said ben wa balls can heighten your arousal during the time that you wear them. I really didn’t notice anything different than usual though. It did get tiresome a couple of times, having to keep doing kegels all day long! But I think that is the point, right? To make you exercise your muscles down there so that they become stronger.

Making love with them inside was pretty cool. I really didn’t expect them to affect my husband though. I’m wondering if they were bumping against each other in there and vibrating and maybe that is what was feeling so good to him? I think I’m definitely going to have to do some more experimenting with these, and see if last night was just a fluke. We need to try them in different positions. I don’t think my husband will mind.

So I guess I can see how the balls would strengthen your muscles. I have to admit to being glad that I’m not wearing them today. I may try to use them a couple times a week from now on, and see if I notice any difference. If I find that they don’t do much for me, then I’m not out much money. I think these would be good for women who have a hard time remembering to do their kegels, like me. So I will give the balls a rating of 2 pepper hearts on our scale below. The rating may would go up, if I used them consistently and saw that they did, indeed help strengthen my pc muscles.

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The Secret to Better Sex

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How would you like to heighten your arousal, increase natural moisture (lubrication), feel tighter during intercourse, and have stronger orgasms? What about your husband? He could have better control over his ejaculation and have a firmer erection!!!!!  All you need is to dedicate at least fifteen minutes a day and you too can see these results in about four to eight weeks.  Do you want to know how?  You can achieve all this simply by doing Kegel exercises.

Doing these exercises increase blood flow to your clitoris and vaginal wall thus giving you all the benefits stated above. Your husband will need to tense his muscles until his penis jumps. Obviously a firm erection will be easier to tell if his penis is jumping or not. These muscles force out his ejaculation and cause blood flow to his penis leading to a nice firm erection. These are the same muscles that stop urine flow for both men and women. When you are not urinating flex these muscles as though you are trying to stop the urine flow. As you are flexing these muscles you should also tighten your rectum like you are stopping gas from escaping. I know women don’t pass gas but let’s just pretend we do for this exercise. 😉 While you are flexing your anus do not clench your butt cheeks!! Flex these muscles for 5 seconds and then release. You can even do what is called elevator kegels. These are done by tightening your muscles slowly, stopping once in awhile like an elevator door opening and closing. Try picking an activity that you do often as a reminder. You can do them as you talk on the phone, during commercials or while you are checking out your favorite message board. It is recommended that you do these exercises three times a day for five minutes.

While you are flexing you can add some resistance with your fingers, your husband’s fingers, a dildo or your husband’s penis. Some women rave about Ben Wa Balls. These are inserted into the vagina and held in place by flexing these muscles. This next product has my curiosity peaked. It is called “Myself“. It isolates the muscles that need to be worked out. Apparently it also shows you your results. I am result driven and will be looking into purchasing one of these babies!!!

One of my friends has a hard time holding in her urine. If she laughs, sneezes, coughs or jumps there is no holding it back. I say “I know, you don’t have time to do kegels” in a tongue in cheek way because there is always time for kegels. Heck, just the fact that I will feel tighter to my husband was reason enough for me. OK, you got me. The fact that I can have stronger orgasms motivates me too. Wow, you people already know me so well!!

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Fun on Friday Nights

Have you been dating your husband? My husband and I continued dating after we got married and although we haven’t been going out consistently every week, it is a priority for us. Friday nights are the night we try to make it happen at LEAST once a month. Sometimes we double date with another couple or two, but most of the time it’s just us.

Date nights are beneficial because they remind you why you fell in love. They are times to rest and relax. Try not to “talk shop” while on your date nights. Although you may need to talk about some of the stressful parts of your day, don’t allow that to take up your entire conversation for the evening. Protect the time you have together and be intentional about loving on each other. Make it your mission to try to learn something new about your spouse every time you have a date. If you like dressing up, do it. Sometimes I run into people I know while I’m on a date and they ask, “What are you so dressed up for?” I tell them I like to make a little extra effort on date nights. If I feel sexy, I know I present myself to my husband as sexy so that goes a long way.

We have dated through seasons of plenty and seasons of need, seasons with kids and seasons without, seasons of high amorousness and seasons of feeling like we weren’t connecting on any level and I can tell you that beyond a shadow of a doubt, dating made every season better. Sometimes it took more creativity and sometimes it took great determination, but it was worth it every time.

If you are not in the habit of dating, surprise your husband one night. Make arrangements for a wonderful evening together and invite him to make dating a priority with you from now on.

Some Ideas for Date Night

Dinner and a movie

Swimming or skating at your local recreation center

Window shopping

Sipping lattes at a coffee shop

Visit the library and sit quietly together and look through your favorite magazines

Go for a walk

Visit the beach

See a concert or theatre production

Watch or participate in a sporting event

Rent a gaming system if you don’t have one

Go to the dollar store and spend $10 on something fun for your bedroom

Serve someone in need together (I wouldn’t recommend this for every date because it is not as focused on your relationship, but it does show you your spouse in a new light)

Plan and dream for this year and the years to come

Visit a zoo or an aquarium

Tour a vineyard or have your own private wine and cheese party

Mini golf or bowling

Visit a museum

Go to a book store and browse around. Try to find a book that would benefit your love life.

Position #2 Cowgirl / Woman on Top

  

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I am going to talk about my favorite position known as “cowgirl” or “woman on top”.  You can experience orgasms in this position are like no other orgasm you have ever experienced.   If you are a very visual person use mirrors. Set them up so you can see the two of you making love  without straining my neck. (I’m thinking our next bedroom may have to have mirrored walls and ceiling.)   Most husbands loves this position because he gets to lay back and enjoy the show.  What really is exciting about this position is seeing how excited it gets your husband.  You can physically see that he is aroused plus his breathing picks up a notch or two.  Your excitement will feed off each other.

Let’s talk about getting into position.  The husband usually lays flat on his back to start.  Then straddle him so one knee is on either side of his pelvis and ease yourself down onto his penis.  (Another variation is to squat with your feet flat on the bed.)  At this point you may like your husband to stay still and not thrust so that you can figure out what movement is working for you.  Now the movement can vary.  Some women like to move in circles; up and down; or more back and forth so you can grind your clitoris on his pelvic bone.  

As you are doing your movements you can get some leverage with your arms by holding the bed frame, your husband’s shoulders or chest.  If you need some added stimulation first reach down and make sure your clitoris is exposed.  You or your husband can either stimulate your clitoris using fingers, hold a bullet vibe in place or your husband can try to sit up a bit more.  If your husband sits up, make sure he has plenty of pillows behind him so that your mind doesn’t start to wander thinking about if he’s comfortable or not.  You can even use a jelly ring like this for added stimulation.  It’s stretchy enough to accommodate any size penis. 

So you are in position, you have your movements down and now for the extras.  This position frees your husband up to do whatever he pleases with his hands.  He can fondle your breast or caress your rear.  You, in turn, can reach down and caress his testicles and perineum (the area between his testicles and anus), run your nails over his inner thighs or caress your own breast.  When he is really aroused you can get into the “squatting” position.  I save this squatting position for last for two reasons.  First, it gives a very different sensation which sends him over the edge pretty quickly.  Secondly, it is a tremendous workout for my legs.  I can only keep this up for 15 minutes before my legs start shaking but focusing on his enthusiasm and the wonderful sensations I feel keeps me going.

I hope someone can get some helpful hints out of this article.  If you did not get the answers you were looking for and are even more confused, I apologize.  Feel free to leave a question either below in the comment box or in our ‘Got Questions’ section and we will get back to you as soon as possible.

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There He Blows!

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So, you are giving oral sex to your husband and you are almost at the finish line. He is giving you the signs that he is almost at climax. What do you do? There are several options here to choose from, and we’re going to talk about each one.

Before you start oral sex, make sure that both you and your husband know how you plan to end it. You should talk to him before hand and let him know what you are and are not comfortable with. If you are newly married, don’t expect yourself to be able to jump right in swallowing from the start. You may need to ease into things and see how it goes. I applaud you for blessing your husband with the gift of oral sex at all! So talk to him and let him know what you are thinking. When he comes, you will both benefit from knowing what to do at that point.

If you are new to oral sex you may not wish to swallow your husband’s semen at first. This is perfectly fine. In fact, I think it may even be better if you don’t the first few times. Instead, watch it! Yes, I’m serious. When your husband is ready to explode, move out of the way and watch it squirt out. If he is on his back, just continue to pump him with your hand while he comes and you’ll see it land on his own body. It’s highly erotic to watch and it will get you used to seeing it. You can easily clean him up with a hand towel or washcloth.

Then think about letting him come on you. (No, it’s not a sin.  For more information check out Where the Semen Goes.)My husband loves for me to give him oral sex and then stop just at the point of orgasm. Then either he or myself will continue to pump him with our hands while he comes on my breasts or neck or even my face. If he is aiming for your breasts, again I encourage you to watch him come! This will help to get you used to seeing it and feeling it. Scoop some up with your finger and give it a little taste!

Another option is to get him to orgasm and then open your mouth and stick out your tongue. Let his come hit you on the tongue and kind of run back out. Many men find it extremely erotic to see their semen running out of the mouth of their wife. You can let it drizzle out the corner, or drip off your tongue and down your chin. It’s almost a creative way of “spitting,” because you aren’t actually swallowing any of it. You are just using it as a nice visual for your hubby. Again, a washcloth is all that’s needed for clean up.

If you absolutely cannot handle the previous paragraph, then spitting into a Kleenex or towel afterwards is also an option. If your husband comes in your mouth, you can just hold it there until he is finished, and then discreetly deposit it into a cloth. He may not even notice, and the fact that you let him finish inside your mouth at all may be more important to him than you actually swallowing.

I’ll add here that you can also give oral sex with a condom on your husband. They make some nice flavored ones now that don’t have that yucky latex taste to them. If you do it this way, you do decrease the feelings and sensations that your husband is getting, but he will be able to come into the condom when he is finished. Very quick clean up.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to swallow. Talk to your husband and find out how important it is to him. Find out which “finish” he thinks he would like the best and then go from there. Sometimes you may need to reach a happy medium by compromising. If you do want to try and learn to swallow, then I encourage you to read my next article: Drinking Him Down. I’ll give some tips and tricks that may make it easier for you. Above all, just keep oral sex fun, no matter how you and your husband decide to end things.

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Drinking Him Down

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So what exactly is that white stuff that comes shooting out of my husband’s penis? Have you ever wondered that? Seminal fluid consists mainly of water, minerals, sugars, proteins, sperm, and other various nutrients. You are ingesting most of those things daily anyway. Well, except for the sperm. Women usually have two major problems with swallowing their husband’s load: taste and texture. Let’s look at both these issues.

I have asked women what they think semen tastes like, and I have gotten many different answers. The most common things women say is that it is salty, bitter, metallic, and reminds them of Clorox. Doesn’t sound very flattering, does it? Well, I am of the belief that all men taste different, and diet can have somewhat of an impact on how a man’s seminal fluid tastes. I have read that it will taste stronger or heavier if a man is a heavy meat eater. I’ve also read that you can improve the taste by asking your man to cut down on the amount of meat (particularly red meat) that he eats, while increasing the amount of fruits and veggies that he is consuming. I have heard women swear that pineapple juice works wonders. But if you expect to see results from this, he needs to be drinking pineapple juice in large quantities, not just a glass with dinner. If you would like more specific information, then you can check out this link: Sperm Taste – 10 Simple Tips For Better Tasting Semen. You may wish to print it out and have your husband read it with you. I remember the day my husband came home with a 64oz can of pineapple juice and a smile. I laughed because I knew exactly what he had in mind.

As for the texture, I’m not sure there is much help for that. Semen is kind of thick for a reason, and it really can’t be thinned out too much. Some women have described it as being like”mucus” because of its consistency. Again, that’s not very flattering. I’ve heard that having the man drink large amounts of water may possibly thin it out a tiny bit, but I’m not really sure how accurate that is.

Your husband may secrete some pre-ejaculatory fluid that is clear or colorless. It is usually secreted during intercourse, and helps to aid in lubrication. I have found it to be sweeter in taste and I actually look forward to seeing it, because it means that my husband is very turned on!

Okay, so now we’re ready to think about the physical act of swallowing. If you are still reading this, I am going to assume that you’d like to do so. I will tell you that years ago I really did not care much for swallowing myself. I thought it was odd tasting. I didn’t really have the best attitude about sex at the time though. Sometimes I’d swallow and then go running to the kitchen for a Dr. Pepper to wash the taste out. Sometimes I’d get up and spit it into the sink in the bathroom, or into a towel by the bed, and then go running into the kitchen for a Dr. Pepper to wash the taste out! The first thing that changed with me was my attitude towards sex. When I had my sexual awakening, my attitude about everything sexual changed. The way I viewed his penis changed, and the way I viewed his ejaculate changed as well. Since then, I’ve not minded the taste at all!

If the taste is what is keeping you from swallowing, there are a couple of tips I have to share with you. You could try to use flavored lube. You could also chew three or four altoids or cough drops beforehand. Another idea would be to gargle with Scope or Listerine just before you start oral sex. All of these things will help to mask the flavor of his semen, thus making it easier to swallow.

Now, when he is getting ready to orgasm, and you know it is coming soon, try to take him deeper into your mouth. If you have a really bad gag reflex, you may want to think about using Good Head. You apply a good-sized amount on your finger and place it on the far back roof of your mouth, then swallow it. It will coat your uvula and numb it so that you don’t gag. (If you don’t have this readily available you may want to try that Chloraseptic throat spray because it also numbs the back of your throat, just don’t use too much, because it can also numb his penis too!) If you can take him in deeper, then when he comes, it will squirt to the back of your throat and bypass your tongue and taste buds. You can just immediately swallow.

If you can’t take him in deeper, then you will need to decide if you want to swallow a little at a time (after each squirt) or just once. Some women say it’s better to just catch it in your mouth and wait until he gets it all finished, and then swallow one time. This is what I usually do. It helps if you just relax and let it happen. If you get all nervous and tense, then you could end up gagging or getting choked. So just relax and be ready for it. If you do it this way, then you can also open your mouth a little after it is all collected, and let him see it before it goes down. Many men say this is a major turn on.

If you have tried many of the suggestions above, and you still can’t seem to get used to swallowing, don’t get discouraged. I’m sure your husband will say that this is not the most important thing in your marriage, right? You are doing a wonderful thing by blessing him with oral sex, period. You can practice when you feel like it, and when you don’t feel like it; you know that there are alternatives. You shouldn’t feel pressured to swallow just because your friends do or because you read somewhere that all men secretly want that. The truth is that most men care more about the oral sex than they do about how it ends. So communicate with your husband and discuss this issue together.

Make this fun and exciting and something you two can experiment with and practice together. A positive outlook can make tons of difference. If any of these ideas help you, please write to us and let us know! We love hearing success stories!

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The Beauty of The Song of Solomon

The book of Song of Solomon is so beautiful. I was once told that a bride and groom were given a copy of it so that they would know how to express love to one another in their sexual relationship. I can see why. It is full of passion and intoxicating love, the kind that brings delight to the Lord. Often I read through it and imagine that my husband and I are the Lover and the Beloved.

Here are some portions of the Song of Solomon that I treasure, written in my own words. Not that the beautiful poetry of the original writer is lacking in any way, but sometimes it is nice to see things in a fresh way.

Beloved

Your kisses intoxicate me more than the sweetest wine.

Kiss me, oh Love, kiss me.

No need for cologne, your presence near me is enough. My senses soar.

Hurry, take me away with you. Take me to our sacred place.

Love

Beautiful, oh how beautiful you are, my Beloved.

Your eyes shine with purity and depth of understanding.

Beloved

You, oh Love, are handsome, so handsome. You sweep me away.

We share a rich and healthy marriage bed, constantly watered by our love for God and for each other.

Love

Oh beloved, compared to all other women, you are a vibrantly colored flower among thorns.

Beloved

I belong to you, and you to me; our bodies for the enjoyment of the other.

Love

You have stolen my heart, oh Beloved, I see no flaw in you. You have stolen my heart with your beauty, with just one look from your eyes.

Beloved

Wind of God, blow on our Love.

Let the fragrance of my love be poured out.

Let my Love come and enjoy his fountain.

Love

Oh Beloved, I have come to your fountain.

In every way you have filled me with passion and sustaining love.

Beloved

My Love, is outstanding among all other men, shining with the beauty of integrity and God-fashioned form.

His face shines like gold.

His eyes are filled with purity and the wealth of wisdom.

His lips are so soft on my skin and, oh, how they intoxicate me.

He holds me with strong arms, his body is brawny and beautiful.

He is my Lover, he is my Friend.

Love

Oh Beloved, your beauty is too much for me.

The locks of your hair tumbling around your bare shoulders overwhelm me.

Even sitting next to royalty and women beyond number, you are perfect and unique. They would all praise you and call you blessed.

Daughter of the King, even your legs and your feet are beautifully sculpted as precious jewels, the work of our amazing Creator.

Your breasts are perfectly formed and please me constantly.

Your eyes are deep with wisdom and understanding.

Your head is a radiant crown, your hair captivates me.

You are beautiful and delightful, oh Beloved.

You stand regally and with grace.

Your breasts, your lips, your very breath, are filled with soft sweetness, intoxicating me daily.

Beloved

Receive my wine, oh Love, let in flow into your mouth.

I belong to you and your passion for me is great.

Let us go away together, let us spend the night in a solitary place together.

We will wake early and walk together through our vineyard of love; and we will make love in the sun.

Fantasies

I’m lying in the sand. The sun is beating down upon my naked back and legs. A breeze comes by and fills my nose with the smell of suntan oil. He’s using the oil on my back and it feels oh so good. His hands are so large and strong. He moves them down to my bottom and applies more oil. I spread my legs a little to make sure he has room, and… then the bus pulls up and I’m yanked back into reality as my kids come running up the driveway. Oh man, that was a good one! My husband and me, alone on the beach. I wonder when we can make that one happen?

Fantasies. They are a natural part of a healthy sex life. I mean, of course I’m going to fantasize about my husband and I in some strange and exotic place making hot love! There is nothing in the bible that says that I can’t.

Fantasies can cross the line and become sinful. God wants us to keep our hearts and minds pure, and focused only on our spouse. So if we fantasize about someone other than our spouse, it is sin.

Matthew 5:28 (King James Version)

28But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

I think it’s pretty clear that our Heavenly Father does not want us to lust after anyone else. Thinking of sexual scenarios between yourself and other people would definitely cross that line. This would include that handsome man you saw at the grocery store, as well as movie stars and singers. Just acknowledging that someone is attractive is okay. But when you start to mentally undress that person, or picture yourself with that person in an intimate way, that is where sin sets in. This would also include a fantasy of you and your husband and another person.

Genesis 2:24-25 (King James Version)

24Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

We are one flesh with our spouse. There is no shame in having sexual thoughts and fantasies about the one you are married to. When I masturbate, I’m usually remembering the last time my husband and I made love, or thinking of the possibility of the next time we will make love. Sometimes I make up a whole new place or time, but we are always married and together.

Philippians 4:7-8 (King James Version)

7And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. 8Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Again, God’s word tells us to think on things that are good and pure. God joined you and your spouse together and your marriage bed is undefiled. Let the peace of God help to guard your heart and mind and keep your thoughts focused on yourself and your spouse. Sex between you two is not dirty. It is lovely and good and just and meant to be.

I want to encourage you to share your fantasies with your husband. Sharing fantasies together can be a very intimate and arousing thing. You may even be able to make some of them come true! Oh, and you remember that fantasy I was describing at the beginning? The one with us on the beach? Well, years ago my husband and I did indeed make love on a deserted beach, in the middle of the night. It was a fantasy of mine that we made come true, and it has given me a lifetime of memories to hold on to.

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Valentine’s Day Inspirations

It is January 14 which means that in one month people all over the world are going to be celebrating LOVE. I like finding creative ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Ways that don’t involve my husband spending upwards of $100 on roses. Ways that reduce the amount I am allowing retailers to monopolize on my love life. And ways that communicate my one hundred percent devotion to the man I am spending my life with.

What to give?

Here are some gift ideas. Some of them are common and some of them are more creative.

~ Write or find a romantic or sexy poem, or a write a collection of erotic stories about you and your husband

~ Lingerie

~ Ingredients for human sundae

~ Sexy coupons

~ Offer him a sex menu where he can choose different “services” from. This thread at The Marriage Bed forum has a lot of really creative ideas for this.

~ A variety of forms of chocolate for a Chocolate Sexual Bliss Night; chocolate sauce, chocolate body powder with a feather for application, pieces of chocolate to place on different erogenous zones on your body for your husband to enjoy.

~ A collection of sexy photos of you. You can have a girlfriend take them or use a timer on your camera.

~ Silky scarves if you have been talking about playing around with light bondage.

~ A new collection of songs to make love to.

What to do?

~ Dinner and a movie. Although it isn’t creative, having a dinner by yourselves to talk about the things you love without interruption is valuable beyond measure.

~ Go for a walk and ask each other creative questions you don’t know the answer to. Try to learn something new about each other.

~ Talk about your dreams for the next year and beyond while driving down a country road, and stop for some car nookie if you are brave enough. 🙂

~ Plan a meal to cook together at home alone.

~ Set up a picnic in your living room.

~ Think of three positions you haven’t tried and see which one you like best.

~ Themes can be a fun way to celebrate a holiday so things like chocolate, the color red or hearts can be worked into a great them. Just think of a color, object, flavor, or anything else that expresses love to you and go with it.

If you have more creative ways to spend Valentine’s Day, please leave it in the comment section.

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