Female ejaculation (FE for short) occurs when a clear, watery fluid is expelled through the urethra. (Not the vagina.) Although the fluid does pass through the urethra, it is not urine. This fluid seems to be made up of some of the same substances/vitamins/proteins that make up seminal fluid. Surprised?
It is believed that these fluids are produced in the female prostate. Yes, you read that right. It’s actually the paraurethral glands, but many people refer to them as simply the female prostate (plus it’s easier to say and spell). Although this topic still has differing opinions, many researchers say that these glands (female prostate) fill with fluid when a woman becomes sexually aroused. From what I’ve read, the paraurethral glands are located near the G-spot, along the wall near the urethra.
I have read that clitoral stimulation actually can be key in female ejaculation. Remember my article on the clitoris? How large it is? Well, it is believed by many that the more clitoral stimulation a woman gets, the more aroused she will become, thus increasing the amount of fluid built up in the female prostate. Stimulation of the G-spot also helps increase the amount of fluid, since the G-spot is right next to the paraurethral glands. That fluid can be expelled several ways.
Sometimes the fluid builds up to the point where it just starts seeping out. It overflows and mixes with vaginal secretions and artificial lubes (if they are being used). When this happens, you and your husband may not even notice. Many times though, that large wet spot on the bed afterwards may indeed be secretions from you instead of your husband!
Other times the fluid builds up until the point of climax. Once orgasm hits, the muscle contractions help to expel the fluid. When you are making love this may easily go unnoticed by you both. However, if you have increased your arousal and then decide to experience orgasm by other means, like oral sex, it is possible that your husband will see or notice your ejaculation.
The amount of fluid can vary from just a couple drops to a few ounces, and yes, it is safe to ingest it. If your body lets the fluids seep out a little, then you may not have much in the way of an ejaculation. And just because you experience FE once, does not mean you will or should do it every time. Every woman’s body is different and there are different kinds of orgasms. The same is said for FE. I also know several women who say that they experience FE without orgasm at all.
This is a totally normal and natural part of sexual intercourse for some women. In my next article, I’ll talk about what you need to know if you are trying to learn to do this yourself.
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Christian Nymphos 
ej is awesome! it is def worth working for! im so glad that you talk about this subject.
Nclovebed,
it will happen! The main thing to do is relax. When your husband is stimulating your g-spot If you experiance a sinsation like you have to pee, then most likely you are capable of acheving FE.
What I have found when Im about to ej I really do have to literally push it out, and I can’t just push it out either, I have to relax and gently push down at the same time. And before doing this I will need plenty of foreplay, and lots of g-spot stimulation (some cliterol stimulation also helps, but when I’m going to ej Make him stop stimulating my clit because it can distract me from ej) finger stimulation works the best for me. But i will have to gently push and hold it while focusing on the I have to go feeling, my DH can actually feel when it’s going to happen because he will feel presure and it will move down into my gspot and my gspot will bulge and become hard (sorry if this is tminfo). But it’s really all about relaxing and practice. What works for me may not work for u, but it won’t hurt to try it! Hope this helps!
Well the main thing I can say is to research it on line, and maybe search for a book on like amazon. There aren’t alot of books that really explain it in very much detail, and the ones they do have are not Christian and have alot of pagenishm and taoism. There is an ebook I don’t have it but I want to get it, it’s called Sexual Skills For The Christian husband, I don’t remember the authors name, but his wife also wrote a book, Sexual Skills For The Christian Wife, they are ebooks tho, but from what I have read they have alot of good information. If you type that in your search box it should come up.
I actually just learned how to ej maybe two months ago, I have researched it alot and have really found that it’s different for everyone, like from alot of of the information I have read they said that when they feel they are ready they just push it out, but for me it’s graduel and I have to start pushing and hold my musles in a relaxed state of pushing for a minute or so. Do you ever have to pee really bad and then finally you get to go, but it’s actually hard to go and you have to push until u feel it’s just about come out, and then you push a little harder and it does? Well if you have that’s like the same as how it feels for me when I ej.. And anouther thing, I have not experianced a FE while Oing yet. 🙂 it has either been before or after O.. And also go pee BEFORE you try to ej 😀
Been a long time since anyone has posted on this, but I just ejaculated for the first time the other night. WOW!!! It was awesome. We were in the shower and my DH was giving me oral. He started freaking out, in a very good way, when I started ej. He loved it!! He said it was soooo sweet tasting!! WOW!! I loved the feeling too! If anybody wants to try for this, you won’t regret it and I doubt your DH will either!!! I have tried to do it to myself, but couldn’t get anything. But my DH’s fingers did the trick. I think I couldn’t relax enough, but could when he was doing it. Relaxing is the key!!!!! You have to relax and “go with the flow” LOL!!
I remembered my first time i ejaculated I thought an orgasm was the greatest feeling until I ejaculated for the first time. It is so relieving I always wondered if it feels the same way it does for my husband. My man absolutely loves it when I ejaculate and I will say it’s much easier to do in the shower when your more relaxed and not so worried about getting your bed so wet. This might be TMI but is it common for me to just have little gushes or is it suppose to squirt out at once?
WOW! I’d read about this here about a year ago but only about two months ago did I start experiencing it. Glad I already knew what it was- I was a little less startled 🙂 The first time it happened I was using a vibrator (I just got my first one a few months ago, so it’s new for me). Just a little came out, but it felt awesome. Then my husband discovered this new “trick” of mine in the shower and was determined to explore further… over the past few weeks he has become a master at using his fingers to make this happen, and I find that the more we do it the more I release. I honestly have been soaking through, like, three t-shirts. It’s crazy. I can’t believe I had never heard of this before. Now it’s my favorite thing.
It seems to work best when I get plenty of clitoral stimulation first (he uses his fingers to great effect, and it also seems to help if I’ve used the vibe earlier in the day). I feel the pressure building, then he uses his fingers right near my g-spot with firm strokes, and I start gushing. Sometimes I have to push, other times it comes almost without me realizing it. It is the best feeling. (I’ve given birth a few times so stretching is not uncomfortable for me, and this is when “fisting” sometimes really appeals… I get to the “More More More!!!” stage and that seems to satisfy it- WOW!!!)
It makes me think of SOS 4:15 describing the Beloved as “a garden fountain, a well of living water, and flowing streams from Lebanon.” Crazy to think that I read that now with totally different eyes than I did a few months ago…
I love that sites like this exist especially when your like me and don’t had friends you can open up to. My question is I can’t seem to ejaculate or even orgasm unless I am laying down on my back. My husband and I would love for me to be able to ejaculate while in a standing position. Are there any tips or positions that will help me achieve this? I seem to be relaxed but it doesn’t seem to work.
Spice Girls, do you think you could dig up some info on how to make your lady juices taste sweeter?? I think it’s dietary related, I know there is personal chemistry involved, but it might be a fun topic. 🙂
I’ve only experienced FE recently, and WOW! it’s the best!!! I couldn’t believe anything could be so great. I mean, I love having multiple orgasms, but this is such an incredible experience on it’s own. I have no control over it, and was shocked when it first happened. My dh loved, loved, loved it!
I have two ways so far that I can FE. I hope I can describe this in an acceptable way….The most reliable way for me is during vaginal intercourse, after I’m super aroused, for my husband to remove his penis and manually use it to stimulate the whole clitoral area. Then FE just seems to happen, not every time, but most of the time, don’t know why, and I have no control over it whatsoever. I think dh really likes that he totally controls that:) But, I can also FE now when I’m in the top position and having multiple orgasms, so that’s nice also.
I think I prefer to FE when I’m on bottom because it’s easier to make sure the towel’s in place. When I’m on top and the towel has to be in place on both sides of dh, we’re more likely to get the sheets wet.