We had a comment about possibly blogging about physical limitations impeding sex lives. While none of the Nymphos have any permanent physical limitations, I believe I come the closest, so I decided to tackle this subject.
I never thought that I could possibly have so many problems once my 40th birthday past. In the last year, I have had several new body problems that have caused my DH and I to evaluate and communicate that best ways to remain intimate with each other on a regular basis.
I had foot surgery first and was off my feet for about a week, and after that it was several months for my foot to be completely pain free. It’s been 4.5 months since the surgery and I do still have flair ups on occasion, but my husband still had needs (as did I!). What did I do? DH and I communicated quite a bit and tried to find positions that kept my foot far away from him when we ML. WOT was my favorite position at that time, but we had to give it up for a bit because I couldn’t get comfortable at all. We attempted a lot of variations of the missionary positions and even used doggie with my foot far away from him.
My latest health hurdle has been my sagging insides. On my last visit, I was very worried about what seemed to be a *tumor* inside my vagina. It was huge and it impeded our sex. It really hurt! Come to find out that my insides were starting to sag and my bowels were very weak and they were pressing into my vagina! My vagina is starting to prolapse a bit, too, which isn’t a very nice feeling at all. I am doing my very best to keep my bowels regulated, but we are discussing alternate positions that would help with this new problem as well.
It has been a very interesting ride, all these changes in my body, but I cannot stress the importance of communication. With every new change my body is going through, communication with my husband is the most important goal to overcoming the new challenges in our sex life. Wives, if something is painful, tell him! Try to be open to try new positions that might be more comfortable and that would accommodate physical ailments that you may have. Talk to your doctor and get suggestions for things that could help and let him/her know your concerns regarding sex. My doctor knows that intimacy with my husband is very important and I will do whatever it takes to keep my sexual relationship with my DH strong. With me, I have to deal with suppositories or stool softeners to help my bowels empty before sex. I am willing to do this for the sake of our intimacy. Health issues DO NOT have to impede your sex life. Where there is a will, there is a way, that is my motto. Husbands, be sensitive to your wife’s issues regarding sex and health issues. Mostly, both spouses should reach out in prayer to God our Father, who gave the gift on marital sex and wants you to ask for His help in regards to your health problems and your marital intimacy. Never leave Him out of the loop. He is always there willing to listen and to help.
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