Question: I would like to be able to orgasm while my husband is inside of me. I have orgasmed orally and with fingers for so long, I am not sure if it is possible. I am 43 and would love to be able to orgasm together –any suggestions?
I would view being able to orgasm through oral or manual stimulation as a great indicator that you can achieve an orgasm through intercourse. You already know what one feels like and what it takes to push you over the edge.
Think beforehand about which position would give you the most clitoral stimulation. Why clitoral stimulation? Because women who have orgasms through intercourse are more then likely having their clitoris stimulated, they just are not using their fingers or a toy to do so. Personally, I recommend either “Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)” or “Cowgirl”. You could try having him stimulate you orally or with his fingers just short of bringing you to orgasm. When you are ready to get into position don’t be afraid to adjust. If you are in “CAT” move around so he is in direct contact with your clitoris. The same goes for “Cowgirl or WOT”, if you are not getting the right stimulation on your clitoris then prop your husband up with pillows and/or really grind down on him to get the right amount of pressure. Here are some great illustrations from ‘The Marriage Bed’ that explains the benefits of grinding (or sliding) vs. thrusting.
There really is no shame in having him stimulate you manually during intercourse if you are unable to do it without using any means. A bunch of positions the expose the clitoris for stimulation with either fingers or a vibrator are listed under our ‘Positions of the Week’ section.
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