Sexual Sin: Jesus annointed by the sinful woman

I find it interesting that even though the Bible tells us that “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” [Romans 3:23], there are still people in life who just thrive on pointing out your sin without seeing the log in their eye. KWIM? Thus is the case in today’s story from Luke 9:36-50.

Jesus spent a lot of his earthly ministry with sinners. This bewildered the Pharisees to all means. I mean, why would Jesus want to stoop to their level? The Pharisees might have thought “Shouldn’t he spend more time with those of us in the temple, teaching us than spending time with all those sinners?” The Pharisees thought very highly of their ability to keep all the laws of Moses, and the bagillion that they tagged on to them. I can’t even imagine attempting to keep all those laws. But here in our story today, Jesus takes the time to dine at the home of one of the Pharisees. It was then that a woman came in. She had learned that Jesus was in town and she came to the Pharisee’s house in tears, and sat at Jesus’s feet and used her tears and her hair to wash his feet. She kissed his feet and then she took the alibaster jar of perfume that she had with her and poured the perfume on his feet.

The Pharisee, named Simon, saw this and commented, “If this man were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is—that she is a sinner.” [Luke 7:39]

Great, Simon. Thanks for pointing that out for us! The woman already made a HUGE decision to come into your house in the first place….in tears at that, but she felt that it was important enough to get past her sinful behavior to see Jesus. Sure, this woman might have been a prostitute, it really doesn’t say what her sin is in the passage, but I feel like she was repentant of it to be in tears at Jesus’ feet. I know I’ve been there.

Jesus knew this and decided to make this a teaching moment for the people reclined at the table. He told Simon and the others this parable. There was a man who was a moneylender. He loaned one man 500 denarii and another man 50 denarii. Neither man had the money to pay him back, so the man decided to cancel their debts. Now which one would love him more? Of course, Simon replied that the man who owed 500 denarii would. Then Jesus proceeded to tell Simon that when he came into his house, that Simon did not wash his feet (as was customary), but the woman used her own tears and wiped his feet with her hair. Simon did not give him the customary greeting of a kiss, but this woman did not stop kissing Jesus’ feet from the time she entered the house. Simon didn’t pour oil on Jesus’ head as was customary, but this woman poured expensive perfume on his feet. Because she had the “greater debt” and loved more, Jesus forgave her sins and told her to go in peace, that her faith had saved her.

Well, this became the topic of conversation in whispered tones…only GOD can forgive sins….who does he think he is?

I, myself, came into my marriage with sexual sins. Lots of them. It really took me a long time to forgive myself for them and my marriage bed suffered for them. The thing I forgot was that I asked God to forgive these sins, and he did, but I let Satan hold those same sins over my head for a long time. I didn’t forgive myself, when my Lord had sent those sins into the Sea of Forgetfulness. He probably looked at me many times when I would ask forgiveness for them over and over again and say, “My child, what sins? ” It wasn’t until God reminded me and I realized that Jesus had taken on those sins for me. The burden of them was no longer on me. He had taken that yoke from me and I felt so much lighter and my sexual awakening began at that point.

Is Satan pressing past sins on you? Have you asked God for forgiveness? Then just as Jesus told this woman, “Your sins are forgiven.” [Luke 7:48] Leave them to God. Are you engaged and you are afraid of sins that you take into your marriage? Dear child of God, give them over to God. Receive forgiveness and don’t allow Satan to pester you about them any more. Just remember Jesus’ words in my last blog entry, “Go and sin no more.”[John 8:11]

Are you ready for the Old Testament? Next we’ll take a peek at some women there who had problems that caused them to sin and drag their DH’s right in with them.

Monday’s Mission #20

 Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is to make two copies of the sex survey here  in the comment section.  Fill one out on your own and give the other to your husband.  Share you answers and enjoy the discussion that follows!!

Position #28: Corner of the Mattress

This position is a variation of woman on top that will allow you and your husband to be vertical if you enjoy that.

To get into position have your husband sit on the corner of the bed rather close to the edge. You can then either straddle him with your knees on the bed or standing on the floor. If you opt to kneel, you may prefer to have him sit back a bit further from the edge so that you have more of the mattress under you for leverage. Standing allows you to use the floor to press against as you move on your husband.

This position is great because it is easy to accomplish and is good for clitoral stimulation if you are a wife who benefits most from woman on top positions. In this position you will be able to press in close to each other and either grind or slide your way to ecstasy. The only problem I could foresee with this position is that a foot board, if you have one, may be an obstacle depending on it’s style.

Using Lubricants During Oral


After writing Position#25: Fellatio Laying Down we received a question about using lube during oral.  They wanted to know the benefits of doing so.  When I wrote the article I was referring to putting lube on the testicles.  This allows you to fondle them with greater ease and you can rub his perineum (if he likes that) without causing friction.  Some women even have a difficult time getting the penis wet enough for easy gliding with their mouth and a lubricant would help.  If you produce a copious amount of saliva then you most likely will not need to do this and you can just use you mouth to moisten up the area.


Another reason for using lube during oral is you may not want to swallow and prefer to finish him manually.  Saliva dries pretty quickly and a lube allows you to switch without worrying if you are chaffing him or not.  If you are going to use a lube during oral I do recommend using something that is pleasant tasting such as coconut oil.  This way you can switch things up.  Once you apply a lubricant for manual you can still switch to oral after without tasting that chemical taste that some lubricants have.  Either way, it’s always good to have some on hand.

Using A Strobe Light

Looking to throw a little fun or excitement into your marriage bed? Why not try a strobe light! They are fairly inexpensive and can be purchased at most malls or even online. Here is a link for one at amazon.

Strobe lights can make for a lot of fun! You can adjust the speed of it so that it will flash slowly and sensually, leaving you mostly in the dark. This just gives you a very brief glimpse of each other every couple of seconds. It’s a nice compromise if one of you likes it dark and the other likes to see the action. Put on some sensual music and see how this enhances things.

You can also adjust it to flash very, very fast. I will tell you from experience girls, that putting it on this setting can be hot! HIGH SPEED + FAST MUSIC + RIDING ON TOP = AWESOME SEX! It gives both of you a really nice show, so if you are a visual person then watch out! 8)

I will caution you that some people get dizzy or nauseous from this activity, so you may want to be careful the first time you try it. If one of you likes it but the other doesn’t, then it’s possible to negotiate and meet in the middle. Maybe the person who doesn’t care for it could wear a blindfold (so that the strobe light didn’t affect/bother them). That way the person who enjoys the strobe light can get a good show, while the other person can relax to the sensations he/she is feeling in the darkness behind the blindfold.

We haven’t done this in such a long time, but after writing this I’m finding myself rather eager to do it again! As a sex toy I’d give the strobe light four pepper hearts, because when I’m in the right mood, it can really make things very erotic!

The image used at the beginning of this article was found at Sevenoaks Art.

Sexual Sin: The woman caught in adultery

I love Jesus so much for his forgiveness and his love for sinners. I am one of those sinners who does not deserve his love, but he gives it to me anyway. This is the story that I used to confess to my FH when we started dating. I wanted to get out in the open my past, to give him the opportunity to take me or leave me. I am happy to say that he took me!

This story is based in John 8. This story takes place in Jerusalem. Jesus had just returned from the Mount of Olives and went to the temple to teach. The Pharisees were trying ever so hard to find a reason to accuse him of false prophesy or blastphemy. So here they come into the temple with a woman in tow who was caught in the act of adultery. Now my question is, “Where is the MAN who was in the act of adultery as well?”, but the Pharisees were SO into the letter of the Law, the woman could have been the easiest catch. Who knows….maybe she was having an affair with one of them? But I digress….

So here is this poor woman. Who knows what condition she was in being “caught in the act” and here she is, humiliated, in front of all these men in the temple. The Pharisees commanded that the Law of Moses be enacted on her, which would have meant being stoned to death. What is Jesus doing during all of this? Stooped over on the ground writing in the dirt. What in the world would the Savior of the World be doodling in the dust? The Bible doesn’t say, but thinking he isn’t paying attention to them, the Pharisees keep going on.

Finally Jesus looks up at them and tells them, “He who is without sin amongst you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.” (John 8: 7 NASB) and he goes right on writing in the dirt. Now these Pharisees must have seen and known what Jesus was writing because one by one, they turned and walked away. When Jesus looked up, he saw only the woman and himself and he asked her where they all went. She told him no one had condemned her, to which he replies, “Neither do I condemn you; go. From now on sin no more.” (John 8: 11 NASB) You see, the only one left there without sin was the Son of Man. Just like I said in my last blog entry, Jesus came into the world to save the world, not to condemn the world. So he forgave the woman and told her to sin no more. He gave her another chance. Did she take advantage of it? We don’t know.

But you know, it is really easy to sin. It was really easy for Adam and Eve from the beginning of time, so why would it be any different for any of us? Sometimes in life when our marriage isn’t going right to us, it is so easy to look for an easy fix…an affair like this woman was involved in. We don’t know much about her at all. Was she married? Was she having an affair with a married man? Was she looking for love in all the wrong places? All we know about her was she was caught having sex with another man. Dear ones, there is nothing that God cannot fix in your marriage. There are times when we need to go to our Abba Father with all our tears and sorrows, not to another man to fulfill our needs. Christ is sufficient for us all. If you have defiled your marriage bed, you can be redeemed by your Father in heaven. Do as Christ told this woman, “go and sin no more.” If you are even considering stepping outside of your marriage bed to meet needs, don’t even go there. Go to the Lord in prayer. Ask Him to help you. Ask Him to help fulfill your needs. Ask Him to help you change to be the wife he intended for your DH. Our time table is not always God’s, so be patient. God’s timing is perfect.

And yes, there is another story coming….in the Lord’s time.

Monday’s Mission #19

Your mission this week is to plan a romantic picnic in your bedroom. You may want to get a selection of new ice creams to try out together (I have a weakness for ice cream and ever since I heard this idea from a sister over on The Marriage Bed I have been wanting to try it), or perhaps a platter of fruit with chocolate sauce for dipping, or a tray of wine and cheese with crackers. You may even want to prepare a full meal to share together. Whatever you and your husband would enjoy. Feel free to add ambiance with candle light and music if you wish to. This is a wonderful way to share in a nice conversation before moving on to any physical intimacy you might enjoy afterwards.

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