Q&A: “Born Again Virgin”

We recently received the following email:

My question is about the phrase “born again virgin”. I have and continue to counsel lots of high school and college students that have given and in some cases have been robbed of their purity before God’s timing in the bounds of marriage. I want to give them biblical hope of how the Lord can restore but i also want people to know the cost of sin. Have you guys heard of a woman being physically restored to virginity? And what are some good verses to confirm the the restoration of our Jesus?

As we discussed this question we wondered if it was referring to a miracle whereby the Lord Jesus physically reconnects the hymen. If that is the question, I would answer that although I haven’t heard of that particular miracle, I do know that He has done many other creative miracles and it is not out of the bounds of reason to presume that he might do something like this. Having said that, the bigger issue is that His character and history show that He is unlikely to do something like this and leave a person in a poor spiritual condition.

Jesus cares a great deal about the state of our soul and if we have experienced wounding I have most often seen any physical healing come out of first being healed emotionally. So if a young, unmarried person gave away more than they wished to (or it was taken), the Lord’s history shows that He would be most likely to first walk with the person through repentance (in the case of promiscuity) and forgiveness, and free them from the chains of sin. At that point He may or may not reconnect the hymen.

If you are referring to the practice that I am familiar with where an unmarried person repents of their sexual sin and then recommits themselves to a higher standard of sexual integrity, I know that it is common for young women and men to renew their commitment to purity after having been promiscuous. There is no direct scripture reference about it so we can only take the wisdom from the Word as a whole and apply it.

So for example, we know that when we confess our sin he forgives us and then goes on to purify us (1 John 1:9) and He removes the sin completely from us (Psalm 103:12). We specifically know that he addressed people who had a sexually promiscuous past and said things like He is a God who restores to us “the years that the locusts have eaten” (Joel 2:25). He is a God who restored His people back to His service after they had failed and upon repentance (David, Peter, Me, You).

In researching for this article I also came across this parable of Jesus taken from Matthew 21. Interestingly, I have read over the Bible (specifically Matthew) many times and studied it at length and I truly did not know this was in here…. God shows us what we need when we need it.

28“What do you think? There was a man who had two sons. He went to the first and said, ‘Son, go and work today in the vineyard.’ 29” ‘I will not,’ he answered, but later he changed his mind and went. 30“Then the father went to the other son and said the same thing. He answered, ‘I will, sir,’ but he did not go. 31“Which of the two did what his father wanted?” “The first,” they answered. Jesus said to them, “I tell you the truth, the tax collectors and the prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God ahead of you. 32For John came to you to show you the way of righteousness, and you did not believe him, but the tax collectors and the prostitutes did. And even after you saw this, you did not repent and believe him.

Jesus is addressing the chief priests and elders in this passage. I love the heart of God expressed here. When it comes to kingdom work, he would much rather have thieves and the sexually immoral who have repented, than people who say they follow him, but do not actually DO what he asks them to.

So I would encourage anyone who wishes to recommit themselves to sexual purity to do so and study how Jesus received all who came to him in true repentance.


  1. Thank you. Jesus have shown us by example the way to love each other in this life, we have to walk it not just talk it. We have to accept others who are different in look and in upbringing (how their were socialize) into the body of Christ for iron sharpens Iron to make them disciple of Christ (DOC) and all of it done in love.Nuff said!

  2. I think we need to tak e in consideration when looking at these particular situations, that we are often time forgiven of our previous sins, when we walk in true repentance. I can not agree with cinnamon sticks enough, there first has to be true repentance, and a desire to follow after God’ way of doing things. Paul told both the church in Corinth, and Galatia, that when we are born again that we are new creatures, and that the old things pass away and that everything is new. We need to keep this is mind. This is what helps me deal with my fiance. She is a virgin, and I came from a very promiscuis pass. When I found out, she never had sex, for awhile, I felt like I didn’t deserve to be with her. My brothers in Christ reminded me that in
    2 Corinthians 5:17 ,and Galatians 6:15 that we are new creatures, not the same anymore, then when we first came to Christ. This is also the scripture that many christians turn to when they talk about a second virginity.
    I have heard one of my sisters, say that she literally felt like a new virgin, like she believed that God had, restore her physical virginity. Didn’t really get into detail, and I didn’t ask.

    I also have heard of doctors that are reformong the hymen.

  3. Thank you for the insight shared, it has really helped me accept that God walks with me on the path of true repentence.

  4. Both my spiritual mom and myself have been blessed to be a blessing by having our Father God restore that which was not meant to be given to anyone but our covenanted soul mate. In my mom’s case, her hymen was restored even to the physical! Myself, I felt (and saw in the spirit) a scum rise to the surface of my skin and then lift off and dissolve. It was as if my body’s stored memories in my muscles FORGOT that abuse and my immoral choices. I don’t think Hubbs and I checked the sheets the first time (if it was in the sheets at all, lol), but in my case my restoration DID include a feeling of tightness and newness for our first encounter. So it was more a complete cleansing and sensation of “first time.”
    It can happen! Amen to cinnamonsticks, repentance and forgiveness are pretty much prerequisite. Not to put God in a box, He can do anything He wants to reach someone, but based on His character and mode of operation as laid out in scripture, this sort of manifestation will follow a cleansing of heart and mind, or releasing Christ-like forgiveness to the one who stole it from you….
    God bless all of you who desire His ways of purity and restoration! He is a limitless and loving Papa who will withhold no good thing from you!

  5. Hello.. i have been searching for someone with an answer similar to yours.. my girlfriend and i prayed for her to be restored spiritually, emotionally, and physically.. God did it.. but even after seeing it with my own eyes i began to doubt whether or not i saw that restoration take place when not being able to find anybody out there who had seen something like it.. please get back to me when you see this message.. God bless

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