Book Review: The Sexually Confident Wife

Hot off the presses is The Sexually Confident Wife by Shannon Ethridge.  You may have read some of her other books such as Every Woman’s Battle (the companion book to Every Man’s Battle), or Completely His.  I pre-ordered my copy from Amazon and it arrived late last week at about 10:30 a.m.  My husband called home from work several hours later and asked “Whatcha’ doing?”  I replied, “Still reading The Sexually Confident Wife.” Then he commented “That’s so HOT!”  With that kind of response, I could tell that my husband was hoping that I was enjoying the book as much as he wanted me to.  I’m sure that he thought if I was able to grasp some of the confidence building concepts in the book that it could only be a win/win situation for the both of us.  Now that I’m finished reading the book, I’m sure that he will not be disappointed.

I know that we are never to judge a book by it’s cover, but ladies, this book is very aesthetically pleasing with its hot pink and white script on a black background.  And the transforming words in between the binding are even more pleasing than its look.  Shannon’s transparency leaps out of the book beginning with page one and runs its course through the entirety of her work. In chapter one she challenges the reader to gauge her level of sexual confidence with a list 69 questions to bring areas of strengths and weakness to the forefront to keep in mind while reading the remaining chapters. Shannon Ethridge intertwines whit, wisdom and common sense as she delves into issues, such as the past, expectations, and wrong teaching that can eat away at a woman’s self-confidence.  The Sexually Confident Wife is full of well researched truths as well as illustrations from her life, but also experiences from women and men that she has encountered through out her ministry.  Not only does she address serious issues, but she has helpful advice about sex positions, sex toys, lingerie and communication that will enhance the freedom that is found in the marriage bed.  A couple of my favorite passages were about how to swirl chocolate and vanilla together (although, I’m much like her husband, Greg, and will go to a multi-flavor ice-cream shop and order vanilla!) and how to pass on sexual confidence to our daughters.

I believe that this brave book will touch most women on many different levels and encourage them to make some changes for the better. Not only is Shannon Ethridge helping wives, but she is also assisting in tearing down that stereotype that “good girls” or Christian women should be ashamed to enjoy sex and if they do, then they shouldn’t dare speak about it!  No matter where the reader lands on the sexual confidence scale, it will remind her that there is always room for reexamination and improvement. So, with full confidence, I can highly recommend this book to our readers to add to their sexual arsenal.


  1. Great review on a great book. I have been dealing with insecurity issues for YEARS and was thrilled to see this book when it was mentioned on the Generous Wife. Went out and bought it this weekend and finished it last night. I immediately felt changes, and though I know I have a lot of work to do, the book pointed out many things that I could actively do to change my perceptions. I have requested DH’s help with some of those things.

    For instance, she mentions our insecurities about our appearance (and who doesn’t, at least occasionally, feel that their DH would prefer it if. . .my butt was smaller, my breasts were bigger.) There are quotes from men describing what they like in a woman’s body, and they are not describing Angelina Jolie. Isn’t it interesting that we think our butts are huge, but our hubbies love that we are different from them. I took this and ran with it. I asked DH to give me feedback when I am complaining about something he sees as positive, be it physical or personality wise. For instance, I hate my ears. Once, when I wore my hair pulled back in school, an upperclassman called me Dumbo. I mentioned it recently to DH and his response was, “I love your ears.” “Why?”, I asked, thoroughly expecting that he would not have an answer. Well, he showed me just why – the backs of my ears are VERY sensitive and the way my ears are positioned makes it easy for him to do just what we both enjoy.

    I also enjoyed the sketches or “real” women enjoying intercourse, and there is no doubt they were enjoying themselves. On another note, the book jacket is great, but what I really like is that I could remove the jacket to see a plain black book with the only thing identifying the title to be “S.C.W” on the spine. I was able to take the book to work because of the discreet cover.

    I would recommend this book to anyone – I intend to ask DH to read certain parts of it, too. I look forward to enjoying sex as it was meant to be and teaching my children to do the same when they are married!

  2. This book looks great. I can’t wait to read it! Thanks, you two, for the reviews.

  3. Ohh Yea! I was looking to read a book that would be uplifting and encouraging for me as a Christian Wife who wants to be confident in this area. Thank you for the reviews!!! 🙂

  4. I just bought this. It’s on order. Thank you for making me much more secure in my purchase! I can’t wait to read it!

  5. I just got my copy and love it! THanks for recommending it!

  6. I just got this and I’m in the process of reading it. I like the way she helps me understand that it’s really a mental thing for me. I have body image issues and unfortunately it’s spilled over into my sex life with my husband. He is the most amazing man in the world and he just happens to be my very own sexpert, but that still doesn’t change the way I feel about my body. This book has helped me to open my eyes and see that I really am a sexy, confident woman that is desirable and loved completely by my husband. Thanks for the recommendation on the book!

    Have any of you heard of the book Red Hot Manogomy? Any input on it?

  7. I haven’t read it, but I know others who have and they have said it’s great. In fact, one of the writers we used to have on CN did a review on it. You can read it here:

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