Q&A: Testicle Play!

“My husband is in Iraq and I expect him back in the next 2 to 5 months.  (No return date on his orders, so just a guess.)  Anyway, I am planning for his return, as I miss him very much.  I would like to try new techniques on him, so I’ve been getting ideas from this site.  One thing that I’d like to try, because I think he’d love it is giving oral attention to his testicles.  However, he is very hairy.  Does the husband shave down there, or is there something to use to cover it?”

Yes, men can and do shave down there!  You can read more about it in my article Pubic Shaving: The Man’s Turn! I was so pleased when my husband decided to start shaving for me.  He doesn’t shave all of it, but he does shave the hair on his testicles and perineum area, because he knows that it helps me when I’m giving him oral sex.  He keeps the hair on top, above the penis, because it doesn’t bother me as much.

Before he started shaving, we had tried just using lots of coconut oil to lube them up.  I thought that maybe it would help, but it didn’t.  I would still end up with stray hairs in my mouth or between my teeth and I’d have to stop and get it out in the middle of trying to please him.  It was frustrating.

You asked about men shaving because you say you are interested in giving oral attentions to his testicles.  What a wonderful thing to do!  Many women forget about them and focus solely on the penis.  The testicles can be an amazing source of pleasure for men.  Here are some things to try when you are going south with your mouth:

Easy does it! Make sure that whatever you do, you start off very easy and gentle.  If he likes what you are doing you can always get a little rougher as you go along.  Watch his facial expressions and body language to see if he is enjoying it, wanting more, or needing you to back off a little.

Use lube! His pleasure is greatly increased if you use lube on his testicles.  It will help things feel better for him.  Your tongue and fingers will glide around so much easier.

Suck one into your mouth. That’s right!  Instead of just licking them, suck one gently into your mouth.  While you have it in there, then put your tongue to work!  Use your tongue to circle all around it and caress it.  Then make sure that you release it gently and suck in the other one.  If you are able to get both testicles in your mouth at the same time, without hurting him, then good for you!

Hum while sucking and licking. Sometimes the subtle vibrations of your mouth are blissful for him.

Gently pull downward on one or both testicles. Some men have reported that this technique is quite erotic and sends them through the roof.  You can use your mouth to kind of ‘suck’ it downward, or you can use your lubed fingers to pull them gently downward.  Again, make sure that you aren’t pulling hard on them!

Use a small vibe. Any vibrator will work, but a small bullet is perfect.  This will give stronger vibrations than that of humming.  Lube that baby up and then circle it around his testicles and perineum area.  If you find a spot that is especially sweet, then hold it there for a while, as you are still working your tongue around other parts of him!

Get up close and personal with your entire face. Don’t be afraid of letting his testicles touch your cheeks and/or nose.  If they are well lubed (and they should be) your nose can also be used to give pleasure at the same time as using your tongue.

Incorporate “left-rights” into your play. If you don’t know what I’m talking about here, then right now as you are reading this, stick out your tongue.  Don’t open your mouth.  Just stick out your tongue through your closed lips.  Now, instead of flicking your tongue up and down, move them from side to side (left to right) very fast.  Try using this technique in between his two testicles.  Remember to start out lightly, but if he wants more then apply more pressure and do the left-rights more aggressively.

Ask about teeth. I do not advise that you use teeth at all unless you ask first.   Some men like a light grazing of teeth while others do not like to feel teeth at all.

Take requests. Yes, I’m serious.  Ask your husband what he would like you to do down there.  There are actually some men who like a very light, repeated slapping of their balls.  Other men really like the feeling of hot breath.  Another thing you two may want to try is having you giving all this oral attention to his testicles while he is masturbating himself.  That can be a very intense orgasm!  So ask your husband if there is anything new that he’d like to request of you!

I think it’s great that you are trying to think of some new ways to please your husband orally!  What a blessed man he is!  I’m sure if anyone else has any suggestions for testicle play, they’ll leave them in the comments.  Good luck!


  1. I’m currently in Iraq. Before I left, my wife gave me special memories that I’m able to think back to and remember her love. Means a lot to me!

    If I hadn’t asked her to do this, we would have never know how good it was… so don’t be afraid to ask guys!

    Variations? try it in different positions around the house–start with the shower!

    BTW, I shave to make it easier/better/more enjoyable for her.

  2. i love giving my husband oral… but I hate those hairs in my mouth. I’m not sure I could do this kind of thing, because of the hair.
    I’m hesitant to ask him to shave. I mean, I’d like it if he did, but I wouldn’t want him to feel emasculated.. And I wouldn’t want him to be offended or to feel like I think he’s gross or something, if I asked him to make so drastic a change. I do shave, and he really likes it, but I think that he never thought of asking me to do it.

    I want to be clear – it’s not like I’m afraid of him or that we don’t communicate (even though we could improve on that.) it just feels like a sensitive thing to ask My Man to do.
    Any input?
    thanks! (p.s. this site has really helped me to be comfortable about trying new things, and to find new things to try in our marriage bed, it’s nice to hear from so many more experienced older women about things I could do to please my man)

  3. Did this to DH last night! He says THANK YOU!

  4. So glad you were able to bless your husband in this way! 🙂

  5. I can’t encourage the women too much to try this with their husbands. Of course, go slow at first, get comfortable with each other, etc. I know everyone is different, but I can’t imagine a man not enjoying this. It’s a good thing sweetonhim is so honorable, as she could get me to agree to anything while doing this.

  6. Yeah for testicle slapping!! My husband absolutely loves it when I let his testicles hang (when I first get him out of his underwear) and I lightly slap them back and forth. He will get really hard quickly from this. I don’t know why it works but it works for him.

  7. I was very uncomfortable with the idea of shaving (or trimming!) when my husband first asked if I would do it for him. After trying it and seeing how much he liked it I feel much better about it and enjoy showing off for him. Experiencing that it was easier for me to tell that if he would consider trimming I thought I could give him better oral (something that I was also wary of at first but got used to with time (and now love to do for him!)). It makes oral so much easier! And he is happy to shave as it increases his sensitivity to my touch. Plus, if he/you don’t like it it really is not too drastic a change – that hair does grow back! If he thinks is it emasculating you could let him know that because you can see him so much better when he shaves that it is very hot and the opposite of emasculating!
    Hope this helps, sorry I sound a little scatterbrained 🙂

  8. There are benefits to a guy shaving. It makes them more sensitive and it can make their penis look bigger, so maybe if you framed the positives it won’t seem like such a weird request. I’m sure you can find a non-offending way to bring up the issue, like talking to him about what you read on this site 😉 “Honey, I was just reading that some men shave to increase sensitivity during oral sex. Can you believe that? They say it really makes it mindblowing for both partners.” That way he has no pressure but the idea is out there.

  9. My husband uses hair removal cream on his testicles (shaving is very hard to do!). It is amazing! Feels incredible for both of us. I recommend a hand job in conjunction with plenty of oral attention to the balls. You can always do this when you need a rest during a regular blow job as well.

  10. that rapid side to side dealio with my tongue between his testicles…uhhh yeah H was all over that! Thanks I am always trying to improve my performance in this part of our sex ife. Want to make up for all the lost time when I wouldn’t swallow…for 20 years! Now I give him oral 2 or 3 times a week at least and we have never been happier in our marriage 🙂

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