How do the CN girls do it?

“I was just curious. I love my husband, and we have a great relationship.
I do not have the same sex drive as he does. I work full time, have teenagers, house, church, and all the other things that take my energy and time.  I am curious how the Christian nymphos have the time and energy they are investing.  It sounds like they are having sex 6 and 7 times a week, Wow, where do you all get the energy and the time?”

Well, we all get up at 5:30am and shower thoroughly, shave all crevices, brush our teeth, and apply perfume and/or sweet smelling lotions. We then sneak back into bed smelling all fresh, where we proceed to wake up our husbands up with oral sex.  After morning sex, we go make a three-course breakfast for our families and send everyone off to school/work. We attend aerobics/pilates/kickboxing classes weekly to keep up the cardio, and we eat protein bars to help sustain us. We masturbate five times daily to keep our drives up, and then we have a gourmet dinner ready when our husbands come home from a long day’s work. We then give our husbands a foot rub while they watch the game on TV. During half time we have sex again and then we wash up and retire for the night. Isn’t that how it works at your house? 😆

I hope you at least smiled just now. We certainly don’t keep up schedules like that, and I don’t know anyone who could. We come from all walks of life. A couple of us work full time or part time, and a couple of us are stay-at-home-moms. We all have at least two children and we all attend church. We know all too well about time restraints and feeling low on energy. We don’t always have the time or the energy to do all that we want to do, but we know that should not be used as an excuse to refrain from nurturing our marriages.

As a woman, I can say that one of the best things I have that helps keep me motivated is Christian girlfriends. When I hit a rough patch and my libido drops, and my attitude turns sour… you had better believe that my Spice Sisters are there to encourage me to help lift me out of my own pity party. They remind me to count my blessings and to keep looking up. When I get too busy and start venting and complaining about life’s daily struggles, they help me to regain my focus.

No, we are not all having sex every single day, nor did we mean to give the impression that we are. We six women are using this blog as a place where we can all write about important sexual issues and topics, and at the same time reach out to other women and bring them into the fold. And in doing this, we are actually helping to encourage ourselves in the process. I may not be in a very sexual mood today, but if I’m in charge of writing up the “Position of the Week” you had better believe that my mood will probably change after thinking about doing that position with my man! Writing on this blog kind of forces us to “think sex” and therefore helps us to keep those creative thoughts at the front of our minds.

You asked how we have the time and energy to invest in this. The answer to that is fairly simple. We make it a priority. I wake up in the morning and go over my to-do list in my head…pack lunches, check the blog, go to the grocery store, do the laundry, thaw the meatloaf for dinner, oh, and try to remember to send my husband a sexy text or put on something sexy under my clothes for later tonight! For me, making a mental list is essential to getting everything done in my day. Many times I even have to write it down. I know that I need to pick up milk for my family because it’s a need. I know that I have to wash our laundry as well. Adding one simple thing each day (or trying to) that pertains to my marriage or my husband really helps to keep the fire alive. Sure there are days that I forget or days where I run out of time and don’t get everything done, but the point is for me to try and make a conscious effort to THINK about my husband and/or our sex life. When things don’t work out one day, I just try again the next.

Believe me when I say that we do understand. None of us claim to be super-wives or sex goddesses 24/7. We are simply striving to do our best to be the wives that we know Jesus wants us to be for our husbands. I hope this has cleared up any misconceptions you may have had about us, and I’m so glad that you wrote in asking us about this! I wrote this article on behalf of us all, but I’m sure that the other Spice Girls may choose to leave their own replies in the comment section below.

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