“I am getting married in February – we are both virgins – I am making as much preparations for our first time together physically as I possibly can using books, this website and your links – but I wondered how we should prepare spiritually. Should we pray before we ‘do it’ for the first time? Prob seems silly but I am a bit nervous!”
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! What an exciting time for you and your fiance. It sounds like you are doing a wonderful job of thinking ahead, and NO, you aren’t silly for asking about this!
Making love for the first time is a very special moment. You and your husband will be joining yourselves together physically as you never have before. I believe that God smiles whenever two of His children marry and make love. He gave us this wonderful gift to share with our spouse, so of course you can pray beforehand. Marriage is a triumvirate, with God as the Head. You two will rely on both each other and Him.
Many couples who have been married for years still pray before sex, asking God to bless their union or to help them please one another or to ask for fertility help, etc. No prayer is unheard, as our Heavenly Father cares about all that is on our hearts. There are some couples who even will pray during the act, although I have to admit that praying is the last thing on my mind during sex 😳
Cinnamon Sticks also has a series of articles dedicated to engaged couples such as yourselves, that you might also find helpful. I encourage you to read them together if you haven’t already:
- Why Wait For Wild, Crazy, Awkward Honeymoon Sex
- Fantastic Honeymoon Sex Guide For the Virgin
- Sex & Intimacy Questions To Consider With Your Future Spouse
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