Do any of you ever feel that you are putting way more into pleasing your husband than he is putting into pleasing you? After all, men do get aroused easier and orgasm faster.
I can only speak for myself but if any of my spice sisters (or any of our readers) feel differently I’m sure they will speak up. Our blog is not just about pleasing our husbands; we are encouraging women to embrace their sexuality. Many women have been suppressing their sexual urges because they have been taught (either through church, by parents or just from society alone) that it is wrong. It is not wrong and completely natural. God made us this way. If pleasing my husband makes me happy, and he pleasing me makes him happy then don’t we both win? Marriage is not about keeping score. It’s about building a bond, through God and then that spills over into our marriage.
(My only disclaimer is if you are in a marriage where your spouse puts your needs second, time and time again, then you need to make him aware before resentment sets in. )
Men do become aroused easier, but that is no reason to neglect those special things that cement our bond. A good marriage takes a lot of hard work, open communication and it requires a team effort. You and your husband are on the same side and you should be each other’s biggest cheerleader. Intimacy is not just about ‘getting off’. Here is a food analogy for you. Let’s say you are hungry and you satisfy that huger with junk/fast food day after day. All that fast food is going to take a toll on you in the long run. Your hunger may be lessened but you body will be missing out on serious nutrition that helps your body run effectively. The same goes for a marriage. If you are only interested in keeping yourself satisfied sexually then the other half of your marriage suffers and your bond is weakened. Soon you will be feeling empty. I love knowing that I make my husband feel like the most special guy in the world and in the long run I think it helps him be the best husband he can be.
Remember that the best way to be blessed is to be a blessing yourself.
Christian Nymphos 