This week I chose an outer-course position to write about. It is considered an outer-course position because it does not involve any penetration. Why would a couple want to have outer-course? It can be used as foreplay (all the sweet spots are being stimulated directly), some women have physical conditions where penetration is painful, or some couples just like to add variety to their marriage bed.
To get into position lay tummy down on your bed or floor with a pillow placed under your hips. A pillow is not necessary but it will make things more comfortable plus it can prop your rear up for easier access to your clitoris. Your husband gets behind you facing the same way, just like typical rear entry, except he won’t be entering your vagina. Instead he will be rubbing the top part of his penis through the backside of your upper thighs and over your vulva and clitoris. Make sure his penis is well lubricated before you begin so that he can move easily without friction. Each thrust should tease and titillate your most sensitive areas. If you get to the point where you can’t stand for him to not be inside you then entry is easy enough but you may want to either use extreme pressure against the bed, your fingers or a toy to keep the clitoral stimulation going.
After you reach orgasm, and you are ready to focus on him, he can place his well lubricated penis on your rear end and move his penis back and forth between your butt cheeks rather than between your thighs. This will give him direct stimulation right under the head of his penis, which is where he is most sensitive. You (or he) could always squeeze your cheeks together to form a tighter sensation. Enjoy!!
***Even though there is no penetration pregnancy can occur especially if he ejaculates at the opening of your vagina. If you are trying to avoid pregnancy then other precautions should be used.
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Christian Nymphos 
I think my DH and I will try this next time I am on my period. Don’t you think that would work?
We used to do something like this in the shower while standing up. It was awesome. I am definitly going to try this!
Before I got a diaphragm, we used something like this during my fertile times, except that we called it “shooting my back”. After getting me thoroughly around (sans penis), he would spray my back with apricot or almond oil. Then he would scoot up and down my back, starting lightly, then gradually intensifying how much weight he put on me. Both of us could climax in this one. If you are being really careful to not get pregnant, keep a towel and wipes close by, and have him wipe you off very carefully, right away. Once or twice it has gotten in my hair, so I suppose you can be extra careful if that is going to bother you.
This is a good one when you are post-partum, crazy for climax, but too sore for PIV, or for him to be rubbing past a C-section incision. (We have experienced it both ways!)
I was researching ways to stimulate the clitoris with the penis . You’d think there would be a ton of info on the net -NOT. I had to dig deep for this. Sometimes less is definitely more. This position sounds, intimate, sensual and very effective. I’m really tired of all the raw wham- bam thank you maamm garbage online, We need more sex info written by women.