Weekly Poll #4: Do vibes help you orgasm?


  1. No, never used one and we have been in constant discussion about this subject for a year. I am extremely mulit orgasmic. Gosh, with orgasms like mine, I cannot imagine what I would do with a vibrating toy going at me. I think I might have an out of body experience, truly.
    Thought of a vibe for self pleasuring but have been learning how my body works without any aids and to be frank, I am totally fine with what I can do simply with loads of lube and my own hands.
    TMI, I know, but there are a few women who will read this poll and groan with possibly feeling that they are not doing enough for themselves. Ladies, if you are having awesome climaxes like me, voila. I can climax, or multi climax, without anything other than myself or my darling. I’m content, for now !!! ;-).

  2. I haven’t used a vibe since being married. It was something I felt convicted against when I was single and I still don’t feel it’s something appropriate for me in my marriage.

    That’s just us though…

  3. I have a vibe we use together sometimes when ml, sometimes not. We have been married for 8 years and haven’t always used them. Now, we have a few toys to spice things up.

  4. Good timing with this post… we just purchased our first vibe the other day and have had fun trying it out so far. We’ve been married for almost a year and I sometimes have difficulty reaching orgasm, so we are hoping this will help us both to learn what works for me. So far, so good, but we’ll have to do some more practicing before I can make a fully educated judgment! 😉

  5. SMP,
    Ditto, 🙂 I’d have to answer no to the poll. We’ve been married 22 years. We both have a high sex drive and I’m very multiorgasmic so we never felt the need to use any toys. I can’t imagine sex any better, but maybe we should try it….someday who knows 🙂

  6. While I voted no (I didn’t need one to learn how to orgasm,) I do have one. We use it pretty infrequently, and only when we’re together as part of foreplay, or if I haven’t hit my peak by the time he has. I don’t usually like to use it then though, cause he tends to fall asleep pretty quickly, and then I feel like I’m left alone to take care of myself, and I just don’t like that.

  7. I had toys before marriage (I knew that God wanted me to save myself for marriage and that was the only way I could. It turns out that I have a very high drive) and still have toys. He knows about them and actually is turned on knowing that I play with them. or just with myself daily We have used them together but very minimally. I am also able to reach orgasm with two fingers so I never needed them but enjoyed the variety and still do. I actually encouraged my Mom to get her first vibrator. I think that we should feel empowered as women. It is not a substitute for my husband but it gets me nice and warmed up for him when he gets home from work!!!! Yummmm….

  8. Cowgirl,
    I enjoy reading your posts. You have a great attitude about sex. 🙂

  9. I voted “yes” as my husband and I have a few we like to use together. However, after 8 years of marriage, I am still what I call pre-orgasmic. A friend suggested hormones may be the problem here, as my husband and I have an otherwise fantastic sex life. Seeing my OB next month, and would love any prayer support.

  10. I voted no, for the same reason as sweetonhim, I didn’t need it to “learn” to orgasm but we use it to facilitate occasionally, and in different positions it can really Heat things up!

  11. been married 9 years, never used toys until the last year-ish, hubby & i have always been very open with communicating about sex so i’ve orgasmed pretty much from the beginning. (gesh, this sounds like i’m trying to brag, i’m really not.) we both enjoy using vibrators together, & he loves to watch me use one solo. unlike smokeypuss, i’m not a fan of using my own hands prefer vibes or glass dildos instead. (TMI i know but i think that’s rather the point of this site!) 🙂

  12. I don’t think it sounds like bragging. 🙂 That’s great for you, and just goes to show how important communication IS so that both partners leave the marriage bed happy and satisfied. And I wouldn’t worry too much about giving too much info either, like you said, most other posts are pretty open as far as the details!

  13. we have them put i never used them to learn how to orgasm. we seldom use them at all. i’m multiorgasmic. my husband and i have alot of fun without them.

  14. I found this site by accident – what a great website! I don’t consider myself religious, so I don’t come to you from that angle. What I like about it is the honest and frank talk about sex — by women. Sometimes erotic sites are just a bit too cheesy or dirty or something … and there are no real people just saying “oooh, you know I love it when he does it like this … and we just tried that and it was great.” It feels like a conversation with your girlfriends instead of a sex website. I have always loved sex, but I am not that good at talking about it, and there are lots of things I have always wanted to try, or just learn about. I just got my first vibrator a couple of months ago… at the urging of my husband. It is impossible not to orgasm with that thing, and I enjoy it with him and alone. In fact, I think I might just buy myself a second, smaller one that is more discreet so I can have it around all the time!

  15. I know this is an old poll, but since I’m new to this site, I’m checking everything out and asking questions as I go along. This seems like a dumb question but, how do you use a vibrator? Do you keep it still or move it around? Many years ago we got one that was like a butterfly and you wear it, but it didn’t do anything for me so I haven’t used it since. Were we supposed to do something else with it? I am completely ignorant in this area. For me, orgasms take a long time to achieve and I want to make it easier for DH (not to mention spice things up if I can). But I need some info. I don’t want to search the internet because of what comes up. BTW, love this site!

  16. I can understand your confusion. I’m getting a pebble vibe (so named because it looks like a smooth pebble you find on the beach and is about the same size and shape) that’s categorized as a clitoral massage device. Most of those can sit comfortably against the pubic bone and the labia.

    Before deciding on reusing a vibrator or getting a different kind, I would suggest taking time out to explore what kind of stimulation you enjoy. Do you go wild with direct or indirect clitoral massage? Are you a G-spot fan?

    While it’s not by a Christian author (and also can be quite blunt) and has photos that you may not be comfortable viewing, I would still suggest giving the book Sex: How to Do Everything, by Em & Lo, a shot. They break down a lot of topics that may be confusing, including manual, oral, anal play, and yes, sex toys :).

  17. I had always been highly orgasmic until last spring when we both just had to work harder at it. That is when I got my first vibe. Gotta say that my inexpensive bullet is the way to go for me. The rabbit is most effective when I use it externallly.

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