Position #79: The Randy Raft

My husband and I have done this one before, but we didn’t have a specific name for it.  I was happy to find it on Cosmo and I love the name they gave it!  If you have a pool then listen up cause this is the perfect summer position!

This position is for those of you with above or below ground pools, or who have access to a lake.  You take a simple inflatable lounge raft (made for pools) and have the wife lay down on it on her belly.  (Make sure you are in shallow water.)  She then scoots down to where her bottom is even with the edge of the raft and her legs are hanging off.  The husband walks up to her and grabs her legs and holds them up.  He positions himself in between her legs and is able to penetrate while holding her legs up.  She holds on to the raft while he is holding on to her thighs thrusting.  Cosmo has the perfect little picture of this position, found here.

Pros: The wife is able to be lazy and just lie down on the raft, letting her husband take control.  Very easy and relaxing!  This position can be used with vaginal or anal sex.

Cons: Make sure you don’t get sunburned!  Water may interfere with penetration so you may need a silicone based lube.

Tip: The wife can also turn over on her back for a change of pace.

The Importance of Thinking Sex

It may surprise you that although the CN girls are all focused on loving our husbands well and building deep intimacy in our marriages, some of us still sometimes have trouble keeping our drive up. I am one of them. If I get distracted because life gets busy or if  I expend too much energy on other things, it is easy for me to find myself struggling with a lower drive. And in my marriage my husband is the same way. If he is under a lot of stress or distracted by life he also finds that his drive is lower.

The best trick I have learned for changing the downward spiral in sex drive to an upward spiral is to make it a priority to think sex. Assuming that my husband is loving me well, because this is not as easy if I am feeling unloved, sometimes sexual arousal begins with a choice. A choice to think about your husband in a sexual way. If you find yourself in a place of apathy towards sex it really helps to focus your mind on sex with your husband. You might be going through your day caring for your kids and taking care of life, but if you take a moment to think ahead to the evening when you have the house or your room to yourself it can really help. Think about snuggling on the couch to watch TV or however you tend to spend your evenings at home and take it a step further to mentally choose that once you are there you are going to be an active participant in whatever happens.

After you have made this choice, it’s a really good idea to communicate what you are thinking to your husband so he can be involved in meeting you where you are at and you can journey through this mental foreplay together. Email, text or call him and let him know that you are looking forward to being with him in the evening. He’ll enjoy being involved in the process.

It may not sound as romantic as being swept away in emotional attraction, but if the alternative is continuing to allow yourself to be satisfied with less sex than is healthy for your marriage, thinking sex is a really good way to refocus you on sexual intimacy.

Weekly poll #8: Are you happy with the intimacy in your marriage?

Monday’s Mission #67

Your mission this week is to think about another couple or two whom you and your husband are friends with. Call up the ladies and plan a group date to bless your husbands. You can surprise them completely with everything or just have a few surprises about the date. Have fun encouraging your friends to love generously. You might want to do a fun filled day at the beach or a very romantic at home dinner party or dinner out at a restaurant. Just plan a fun evening for you all to celebrate your friendship and your marriages.

Position #78: Two On a Chair

Like it hints in the title, you will need a kitchen chair for this position.  The wife simply gets on her knees on top of the chair and leans over the back.  The husband stands behind her and then places one of his legs up on top of the chair beside her knees.  He is then able to crouch down and enter from behind.  The position will look  like this.

The husband holds on to his wife’s hips while the wife holds on to the back of the chair.  He can switch legs and vary his arm placement as needed for comfort.  This position will also work for anal sex as well.

Pros: The husband is able to fondle his wife’s breasts from behind.

Cons: The wife’s knees may become sore unless she has a chair pad or cushion in the chair.

The Generous Husband/Wife

The Generous Wife and The Generous Husband have been links on our blogroll since the beginning of Christian Nymphos, and with very good reason.  Paul and Lori Byerly are the creators of The Marriage Bed, a site that ministers to married couples worldwide.  Among the tons of information and resources available on their website, they also have their other two sites.  Lori runs The Generous Wife and Paul runs The Generous Husband.  They have recently revamped their sites, and we’d like to take this opportunity to point you in their direction.

Men, we strongly encourage you to check out TGH. Paul has turned it into a blog, where he writes about the different aspects of marriage, and encourages men to reply and discuss things in the comment section.  Sometimes his blogs are short and to the point and other times they are meatier and make you think.  TGH is a Christian blog wrote by a man, (read his bio) aimed at MEN! For months now we have received email after email asking us if we knew of a blog like ours, for MEN; and now we have one that we can 100% whole-heartedly recommend!  Paul has told us himself that he would love to have more men leaving comments and discussing his blog posts.  He also has a page full of book recommendations and a page devoted to pornography, it’s destructive nature, and how recovery is possible.  You can still subscribe to TGH and sign up to receive daily email tips for utilizing generosity in your marriage.  Here is what his schedule of tips looks like:

Monday – Friday’s tips will be one each for the five love languages.
Saturday’s tip will be of a sexual nature.
Sunday’s tip will be of a spiritual nature, praying for/with your wife.”

Likewise, Lori has TGW revamped into a very nice blog as well.  (To read more about Lori, click here.)  Wives can read and comment/interact on her blog posts and receive her daily email tips too!  She also has a page for vacation ideas and another page for prayer requests. 🙂

We would like to encourage all of you to register for an account on either TGW or TGH.  Both sites (along with TMB) are a wonderful resource and huge blessing for marriages young and old.

Weekly poll #7: Have you faked an orgasm?

Monday’s Mission #66

Your mission this week is to consider how your bedroom could be more romantic. Does it need to be tidier? Could you add a dimmer switch? Candles? Music? Is it comfortable to be in? Do you feel relaxed in there? Could you add anything to make it more inviting for you and your husband? We want to be sure that our bedrooms are a place where both you and your husband enjoy spending time.

Position #77: Shower Sex 2

In Position #24: Shower Sex, Cinnamonsticks described a position where you are facing your husband.  In this sequel, I’ll be talking about a position facing away from your husband.  Please note that in this position you will need a very sturdy shower rod.

For this position the couple is in the shower.  The wife turns to face the side of the tub and the husband stands behind her facing the same way.  The wife lifts one leg and puts it up on the side of the tub, and then reaches up and holds on to the shower rod to keep her stabilized.  (This will only work if you have a very sturdy shower rod.  If your shower rod is a simple tension rod that can fall easily then please do not attempt this.)  The husband is able to enter from behind and hold on to his wife’s hips to help with thrusting while she is holding on (not hanging on, there is a difference) to the shower rod above.  You can see a picture of this position on Cosmo by clicking here.

Pros: You get to enjoy making love while having hot water cascading down you both!

Cons: Couples with large height differences may have a problem with this position.

Sneak Attack

When was the last time you did something unexpectedly to your husband?  I am talking about totally blindsiding him?   The move I am going to describe can be done almost anywhere at any time and best of all, it takes no skill what-so-ever.   It is a great way to spice things up without going too far out of your comfort zone.

What could this ultra simple move be that can be done virtually anywhere?  It is simple.  Just sneak up from behind and do whatever comes naturally.  Coming in from a different angle gives your husband different sensations and it also gives you a totally different view than approaching him from the front.  Some ideas to tantalize your man are to take your nails and gently graze his back, starting at the base of his neck, along his shoulders, down his buttocks, and to the back (and inner thigh) of his legs.   He will most likely be putty in your hands at this point.  You can whisper your inner most thoughts into his ear, be as descriptive as you can. 

Don’t be shy about fondling him from this position.  He will receive totally different sensation from your hand grasping his penis at this angle opposed to head on.   The hand placement won’t be totally foreign to him because this is similar to the hand position he would use to masturbate.  You can make it unique by paying attention to other erogenous zones while you are stroking him.   Fondle his testicles from behind, keep grazing his buttocks, or tease his anus if he is into anal play.  These are things he would not be able to do very easily on his own and I guarantee it will drive him wild!!

Easy enough, right?  I am sure some of you already include this move in your bag of tricks but I just wanted to remind you girls that you don’t need to go crazy to spice up your sex life.  I know many women like having face to face contact with their husband.  If that is the case, you can you this as foreplay and then move so that you are face to face or position him in front of a mirror so that you can see his expression.  Remember, changing things up is what helps to keep the fires burning.   Have fun!!

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