When was the last time you did something unexpectedly to your husband? I am talking about totally blindsiding him? The move I am going to describe can be done almost anywhere at any time and best of all, it takes no skill what-so-ever. It is a great way to spice things up without going too far out of your comfort zone.
What could this ultra simple move be that can be done virtually anywhere? It is simple. Just sneak up from behind and do whatever comes naturally. Coming in from a different angle gives your husband different sensations and it also gives you a totally different view than approaching him from the front. Some ideas to tantalize your man are to take your nails and gently graze his back, starting at the base of his neck, along his shoulders, down his buttocks, and to the back (and inner thigh) of his legs. He will most likely be putty in your hands at this point. You can whisper your inner most thoughts into his ear, be as descriptive as you can.
Don’t be shy about fondling him from this position. He will receive totally different sensation from your hand grasping his penis at this angle opposed to head on. The hand placement won’t be totally foreign to him because this is similar to the hand position he would use to masturbate. You can make it unique by paying attention to other erogenous zones while you are stroking him. Fondle his testicles from behind, keep grazing his buttocks, or tease his anus if he is into anal play. These are things he would not be able to do very easily on his own and I guarantee it will drive him wild!!
Easy enough, right? I am sure some of you already include this move in your bag of tricks but I just wanted to remind you girls that you don’t need to go crazy to spice up your sex life. I know many women like having face to face contact with their husband. If that is the case, you can you this as foreplay and then move so that you are face to face or position him in front of a mirror so that you can see his expression. Remember, changing things up is what helps to keep the fires burning. Have fun!!
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:). This is how I usually initiate middle of the night sex, since my DH sleeps on his side with his back to me. I think he likes the feel of my breasts against his back! 🙂
It really does give a totally different sensation rather than the face to face encounter. Great point about the breasts!!
I agree txbuilder, a nice subtle throat clear may help our husbands to not be startled if they aren’t aware of our presence in the room. Nice safety tip!!
Different people have different responses to scenarios or love communications. My wife experiences a real sense of my love for her when I care for her feet. Rubbing them with creams and ointments to soften the skin, is one of her favorite things for me to do for her. While I on the other hand, am especially moved by her touching me in some way while she talks with me. I don’t mean touching my genitals to arouse me. I mean during a regular conversation in the day. If while talking to me, she puts her hand on my shoulder during that conversation; I feel a connection to her that is a communication unto it’s self. While I hear her words i.e. ” We need to think about what we want to take for the potluck supper tonight”. Through that hand on my shoulder I feel “I love you beyond words and I am so honored to be married to you”.
I might suggest to you wives that I am not the only one that feels this way. Try placing your hand on your husbands shoulder, arm or hand while you talk with him and see if he isn’t moved by this.
I completely agree this is an awesome maneuver. The only problem I am having is the fact that above yu mentioned “The hand placement won’t be totally foreign to him because this is similar to the hand position he would use to masturbate.”. Isn’t masturbation considered a sin?
Please read through the articles in our Masturbation category (left side bar at top of page) to get a complete understanding of our opinion regarding this practice.
My husband LOVES when I sneak up behind him and do this, it is my way of conveying to him that I am in the mood. He used to have such a hard time with knowing because I would have a hard time showing it. It is a simple way for those of us who aren’t as flamboyant in the bedroom at initializing sex. It has two purposes this simple move, first it lets our husband know that we ARE in the mood because lets face it sometimes we don’t tell them loud enough sometimes 😉 and two it really does tell them how sexy they are to us because me and my husband went through a time when he felt almost neglected because he was always initializing and always showing me that he wants me and I never reciprocated that want most of the time. Even though we are the ones who require alot of physical contact to let us know we are sexy, wanted, beautiful to them, we must remember that they need the same contact to know how special they are to us. It doesn’t need to to be as often because one time lasts a while 😀 but if you don’t keep it up they DO start to feel neglected and we make them feel like they are sex crazed or something. Trust me I know 😉 Anyways I wanted to add my 2 cents worth 🙂