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Monday’s Mission #80

Your mission this week is to find a sexy Christmas song and use it in the bedroom. Do something that fits with your bedroom style, whatever that may be for you. Strip or dance. Get into a cowgirl position and then lip sink it to him while you ride him. Or just having it playing during love making or a body massage. There are lots of fun songs you could choose. The Sounds of Blackness have a great song called “Holiday Love” or something like “Santa Baby” would be good. Feel free to suggest bedroom and song ideas in the comment section.

Position #97: Lotus Inverted

This is an erotic missionary position that is great for all of you yoga wives out there.  To start out with the wife will need to get into the Lotus position, as seen in the above picture.  She then lies back, but brings her folded legs back with her.  The husband is able to enter her and assume his position on top.  Her folded legs will be in between their bodies.

This position, although hard to do for any length of time, is something that may be appealing for women who like to feel restrained at times.  This is because the wife’s legs are caught in between both spouses and she is unable to use them.

Pros: Tight entry for the husband.  Erotic kissing.

Cons: The wife needs to be very limber and flexible for this one.  Clitoral stimulation isn’t possible.

Outside Adventures

“You talk a lot about taking sex out of the house, whether it be in the backyard, the pool, at the beach, etc.  Do you have any advice on how to do that without being an exhibitionist?  We don’t have a pool, but if we did, we’d love to try #79.  Unfortunately, I can’t imagine how that would work out without all of our neighbors getting a front row seat.  Even an out-of-the-pool backyard adventure seems to me like it would be hard to do discreetly.  One day, we plan to have lots of trees lining our 1/3-acre lot, but for now, it’s pretty easy to see in our yard from all sides.  And then there’s the beach.  This is our lifelong dream (from a lot earlier than we should have been thinking about it), but how do you do that without owning a piece of private beach?”


Unfortunately, some people’s homes are just not good for outdoor sex.  We live in the country and have woods on all sides of our house that make our backyard more private.  We can also go into our woods to have some fun if we want.  Your backyard sounds pretty open, but if you put up a wooden privacy fence or line it with trees, that would help.  You could also put up a tent in your backyard and just go out there really late after your neighbors are all in bed.  I also know a couple who built their son a very large tree house in their backyard…and then used to sneak out in the middle of the night to have secret “romps” out in it!  If you have a patio or back deck, you may be able to utilize it if you put your mind to it.   If none of these ideas are right for you, backyard adventures may not be in your best interest at the moment.


We have made love on the beach twice now, and I’m talking about busy tourist attracting beaches in two different states.  Both times we waited until around midnight and went walking on the beach, then we found a secluded spot and went way up into the sand dunes where people don’t normally walk at night (they usually walk down towards the water). Once we took a blanket to lie on and the other time we just took an extra large beach towel to use.  There aren’t many people out walking after midnight, so the beaches are nice and quiet except for the waves!


Sometimes circumstances prevent us from doing things outside, and so it may be better to get creative about indoor spots.  If there is just no way you can think to do anything outside where you live, then focus your attentions on inventive and creative things inside.  I happen to know firsthand how exciting it is to make love in a walk in closet! 🙂  Stairs can make for interesting sexual encounters too.  Oh, and don’t count out your garage!  Many times expanding your thinking beyond your bedroom can open up a whole new list of ideas for you both!  But don’t give up on outdoor adventures; cause you never know when circumstances may change and you may be able to work something out yet!

Weekly Poll #25: Sharing our site with others

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