Q&A: Anal Sex & Hemorrhoids

“I know this is not a tasteful category, but can you write an article about anal sex and hemorrhoids?  Can you still have anal sex with the different types of hemorrhoids? What precautions should you take? I need some experienced help!”

We seem to discuss everything else on this site, so why not hemorrhoids?  🙂  Unfortunately, I suffer from them too, so I can write from personal experience here.

I never had hemorrhoids until I gave birth.  Pushing out that 9lb+ baby just really did me in down there.  I had to learn fast about alleviating the pain and burning associated with external hemorrhoids. I still have issues with them from time to time, and having them has indeed affected my desire for anal sex.

Most of the time hemorrhoids come and go.  If you are having a bad bout with them, then you need to abstain from having anal sex until they are all healed up.  Try to get more fiber and whole grains in your diet so that your digestive tract can become more regular.  When your bowel movements are soft and easy then you will have less chance of your hemorrhoids acting up.  Having to strain because of hard stools will inflame your ‘roids and make them swell, burn, and itch.  Then you will have to start all over again with the creams and medicated pads and cooling gels and cool baths to try and get them to go back down.

If you have your hemorrhoids under control and they aren’t swollen or bleeding or bothering you at all, then yes, you may be able to have anal sex without any pain (using plenty of lube).  If you try and it does hurt then I strongly advise you to STOP, because you could cause further irritation and swelling. I was able to have totally pain-free anal sex a few times after I got hemorrhoids, but again, I had to wait until they were not inflamed.  In the last couple of years though, we have given up anal sex mainly due to my hemorrhoids.  I just never know when they are going to be bothersome to me, so we have just migrated away from anal sex altogether.

If your hemorrhoids are extremely bothersome then you should totally abstain from any type of anal play and see your physician for treatment. I hope you are able to get yours under control.


  1. Gosh, thank you Cumingirl for putting yourself ‘out there’, so to speak. I admire your bravado and candid reply to a truly difficult question.

    I am of the same opinion as you regarding anal sex as I am truly concerned about aging and messing up a perfectly functioning anal sphincter. Yes, I realize that statement is a highly debated subject yet I have to go with what I am feeling deep down inside about taking care of my gracefully, aging body.

    After all, only I can feel what is going on and need to take extreme care of myself for the long haul.

    Having said that, I have experienced some intense orgasms from our infrequent times together. I am glad I was brave enough to give my husband and I this incredible experience and not to shut it out of my mind and life for fear of the unknown.

    Onward and upward in our sexuality with our men 😉

  2. I also only experienced hemorrhoids after having children (big babies will do you in!) I had the worst time with them after my youngest baby.
    One thing that changed during the last pregnancy was the fact that I weighed more than I did in any of the other ones. I think the weight factor really affected them, just making the problem worse. After I got over the worst of the problem, I still couldn’t seem to completely get rid of them until I began some LIGHT cardio every day. I would just walk slowly for about 20 mins. or so. After a few days they were completely gone. I have since then increased the intensity of my workouts each day and lost a very decent amount of weight, and I haven’t had a problem since! I also find that doing my kegels consistently really helps keep things working properly down there also. (no leakage, etc.)
    I’m so glad that this problem is gone and that I can enjoy fully giving my body to my DH again! 🙂

    Oh, and try incorporating at least two tablespoons of extra virgin coconut oil into your diet each day, (in your oatmeal, on some toast with honey, etc) it works as a natural stool softener, along with all of it’s other health benefits.

  3. What if you suffer from constipation? Can you still have anal sex?

  4. I would be cautious in engaging in anal activities if you are having issues back there. It is a good idea to try and get yourself more ‘regular’ by increasing your whole grains & fiber intake, regardless if you are planning on having anal sex or not. I’m not a dr. I just play one on CN 😛

  5. haha, thank you! (: I’m thinking of getting a colon irrigation….

  6. Ha ha Cumingirl, funny to read … hey, there are doctors of the soul, too. Keep trucking lady. You are awesome on this site.

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