Q&A: Vaginal Tightness

“Due to age, my hubby does not find me “tight” enough. Any suggestions for lotions and/or creams that would be suitable to use to tighten up the feeling in my vagina? I have read about kegels, etc., but the old muscles are pretty much like jelly.”

Don’t underestimate the importance of doing regular Kegels.  This isn’t something that you can do for a week and then stop if you don’t see any progress.  If you do them correctly, regularly, and over time, you or your husband should notice a difference in a couple of months.  As with any exercise it’s important to continue doing them long term or else you risk losing any benefits you’ve gained from them.

There are creams and lotions out there that claim to “tighten your vagina” in an attempt to make sex better for you or your husband.  I happen to have one here called Like A Virgin that I bought from a sex toy party.  I tried it in the hopes of my husband noticing… and the night I used it he couldn’t tell a difference at all.  I never tried it again, although I wondered if maybe I didn’t use enough.

Vaginal tightening creams are even sold on Amazon.  They actually make your vaginal walls swell, thus making it a tighter fit inside.  I’ve heard positive and negative reviews on such products and believe that it really must vary with each individual woman.  If you are a woman who is prone to vaginal or urinary tract infections, you may want to think twice before trying such a product.

Finally, let me point out that there are some sexual positions that make things feel tighter for the husband.  You may be interested in reading more about this here:  Positions To Boost Confidence.

If any of you women out there have had a personal experience with a vaginal tightening cream, please leave a comment.  Or if you have a testimony dealing with Kegels that you’d like to share, please do so!


  1. I am wary of any creams and things. I’d rather go the natural way, so after your last brilliant article on Kegels, I started practicing like a good girl 🙂

    Though I do these exercises at random times, I found that the most fun is to do them during sex. I did it the first night without warning my husband, and I drew a suprised gasp from him. I innocently asked if he could feel it. Needless to say he loves helping me with my Kegels :). If he goes slow, it takes a lot of concentration and some effort to release on his in-thrust and squeeze when he slides out. But it’s great fun for both partners!

  2. After having four children, I NEEDED to concentrate on diligently doing my kegels. I did not notice a difference right away, but after a while of keeping up with them, I really did notice a difference. When you get to the point where you can do them during LM and your DH can feel it (like vermillion was saying), then you know they’re starting to work. The other cool thing about kegels, is that after I’d been doing them for a while, I started having better orgasms, and different kinds of orgasms! Woo hoo! Better for him and me. 🙂
    Also, just a side note, if you incorporate a gentle “bearing down” (similar to pushing, but not too hard, you don’t wanna end up with hemorrhoids) rhythm during LM, it apparently feels incredible on him. I got a similar reaction as vermillion’s DH when I tried that for the first time. 🙂

  3. I actually use Fun Factory Smart Balls Pelvic Exercise to make kegal exercises more fun.


    I love them.

  4. Just can’t let this one pass, though I’m new to this site and normally a ‘lurker’… Kegel muscle exercises have been a huge factor in transforming our sex life. After having had 6 natural births and being married 26 years I am reaping the reward of a wonderful sex life. Having known about Kegel muscle exercises for years I’ve always been skeptical and found them a hassle. Well, this year I’ve become a believer. Just investing a little extra energy in doing them has yielded the result of my having my first orgasms ever. I’m a believer! My hubby definitely feels the difference too.

  5. I knew about Kegel exercises but have only done them for a total of 15 minutes over the last 12 years so I agree with Lovinmyman. The Smart Balls are fantastic. The woman at the shop where I bought them told me that the midwives in Austria (where I now live) recommend them all the time to women and that they work rather quickly. I put them in one morning and wore them around all day long and my husband said he noticed a difference already. You should get them!!!!

  6. My husband bought me a certificate to a local sex toy store for Christmas, (PS, I don’t recommend going- buy online! Crazy stuff in there!) and after reading many articles and researching, I went today and bought 3 toys- a doc johnson bullet, a clitoral massager, and the balls that are discussed here. The funny thing is, I’m assuming I know what to do with these toys, but I don’t SPECIFICALLY know.
    Since the balls are mentioned here, what am I supposed to do with them? There are 2 that are attached and they are much bigger than I thought they would be. Do I insert them both in my vagina and keep them there for hours at a time? Any use during sex?
    What are some options to do with the bullet massager? external, internal, vaginal, anal, clitoris?
    One last question, I need some toy storage creativity. My Christian parents were/are sexually active, and snooping around in their bedroom as a kid, I found their vibrator. It didn’t scar me or anything, but I dont want my kids finding my toys when they get older. I read that you can’t store them together…I was hoping for a lock box to put in our bedside drawer…any ideas? It’s not that big of a deal, but I’d rather keep them for our eyes only!

  7. Yellow, I went looking in the makeup storage section at Walmart. I found a Caboodles box that was black, and had two zippers, so I bought a very small lock and key (also from Walmart) and put the lock through the two zippers. The bag has little elastic loops all along the inside that a vibrator can stand perfectly upright in (to keep them separated) I swear the person who designed it had toys in mind when they did, because, other than being on the small-ish side (I can probably fit 8-10 toys), it is perfect. It actually came with a little survey thing that asked “What will you keep in your Caboodle?” and one of the answers was “That’s my business!” (or something like that) I keep the box on the top shelf of my closet, and the key under my mattress. 🙂 I know some toy companies sell boxes with locks specifically for toys, but I think they’re more expensive, and I just didn’t want to wait for one to ship! Have fun!

  8. I also wondered about the two balls that are attached, Yellow…I forget what they’re called, but I almost bought some the other night. They are very similar to ben wa balls, but from the web site I went to, it seems that the ones that are attached are lighter and therefore easier to hold in. The site suggested using them for a while first, then when you are able to keep them in for long periods of time, progressing to ben wa balls. I have tried neither, but I want to because I have a hard time with kegels! Can we have an update on how you liked them? Or if anyone else has used them and wants to share, I think Yellow and I would appreciate it. 😉

  9. I’ve really been hearing good things about the Smart Balls and have been wanting to try them… just haven’t forked out the cash for them yet. I’ve heard other women say they were way better than the ben wa balls.

  10. Thanks! It seems more convenient than two separate ones too. I think I might give them a shot.

  11. Well, my update- I tried the balls out for the first time this afternoon. I immediately couldn’t keep them both in and as I walked one came out. The funny thing is, it felt really good with one in and one out b’c there are small balls inside each ball- they “jingle” but without the noise. As I walked, the vibrations felt good on the outside and I didn’t have to worry about keeping them both inside. I suggest staying at home the first time you try them….don’t go to Wal-Mart! I’m getting used to them…wondering how tonight will be with the hubby!

  12. I think muscle exercises anyather time and especialy during sex,the tight and release is the best.

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