For us, it’s hard getting a sitter for our kids. Both sets of grandparents live out of town, although we do use them from time to time. We don’t have other extended family members nearby and we just don’t feel right leaving them with the neighbors. While we do ship the kids off to grandma’s house to spend the night every couple of months, we sometimes feel like we need some quality time together in between those times. We have found something that works perfectly for us… DAYTIME DATES!
Both of our children are in school now. That makes daytime dates possible for us. We pick a day that we want to spend together and my husband takes a vacation day for that date. Then we don’t tell the kids! We wake up acting all normal on the morning of said date, and put the kids on the bus for school as if nothing is up. Then, as soon as they are gone we have the entire day together…until the bus brings them back home that afternoon. We know that we have from 7:45am until 3:15pm to fit in whatever we can!
Morning sex is always a possibility, and we don’t have to be quiet. Then we can leisurely get dressed and go out to breakfast together or go to a coffee shop. From there we usually set our sights on shopping for something that we need, like clothes for the kids or something for the house, or even just a grocery store trip together without the kids! Sometimes we just window-shop and stroll hand in hand in a nearby mall checking out what’s going on. On a couple of these dates we have been known to get intimate in the dressing rooms! 😆
There are so many possibilities though. You can go to a park and swing together (like we did when we were dating), you can go bowling, you can play tennis or go to the batting cages, or you can go see a matinee! You could grocery shop and come home and cook lunch together or you could find a nice restaurant for lunch. You could take a walk or rake the leaves together, all the while having fun with each other. The important thing here is just being together and having your focus be on each other.
We have been having one or two daytime dates per month, and it’s really been so good for our relationship. I so enjoy the time that I get to spend with my husband, and it helps me to relieve stress and be in a better mood when my kids get off that bus in the afternoon. So everyone wins!
I know that for some of you this idea may be impossible right now. We weren’t able to do it when our kids were little. We had to wait until they were both in school, and me being a stay-at-home-mom helps too. But think about it and see if there is any way that you could make it work for your situation at all. Even a HALF a day may work for you and your spouse. Just remember that there is no rule that says your “dates” with your husband have all got to be at night!
If you are able to work out having a daytime date with your husband, leave us a comment and let us know how it went!
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