Ladies, you’ve got to admit, that it is SO easy to tear our men down. Really easy. You get in a disagreement or an argument with him. Maybe a real doosey of a fight. Maybe he came home late from work and didn’t call you. Did he forget your birthday? Anniversary? Talk bad about your mother?
I know it is SO easy to go to work and start ranting and raving about your husband. Do you get on the phone and vent to your best friend or on a message board?
Satan makes it really easy for us to do this. Gossip on our lips. Tearing our marriages down brick by brick. Why do we do this? Why would we tear down the hearts of the men we promised to honor and cherish all the days of our lives no matter what? No one promised us that marriage would be a bed of roses….yeah, those roses might have been on our bed on our honeymoon, but years later, when times get tough, it’s probably been a long time since we’ve gotten any flowers period. Are we honoring God when we dishonor our husbands?
Ladies, we are definitely dishonoring God’s design for our marriage. Listen to God’s words in Ephesians “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29) What benefit is it to anyone that we speak so poorly of our husbands and tear them down?
This is my challenge to you. Even when the times are tough…even when you don’t feel like it, find one good thing daily to say about your husband. Post it on his Facebook page…say it to one of his coworkers…let him overhear you telling it to your friends…tell his Mom….tell him how much you love and appreciate him. Ladies, I challenge you to be a Proverbs 31 wife. ” A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.“ (Proverbs 31:10-12, emphasis mine) Do you have a spouse that is not a Christian? Then make your love and devotion to him be a message by example of your love and devotion to God.
What do I do? Anything I can to help my husband know that he is loved, respected and appreciated. I am not the best at it all the time, but I do leave messages on his Facebook page. I make sure that I do whatever it takes to try to make life as stress free for my DH as possible. We are going through a very stressful time right now where DH isn’t home as often as he used to be due to family matters he is taking care of. Me…I am at home, trying to keep his house and care for his children, so that when he does come home, he can feel loved and respected. I try to model Christ for him. What do you do to lift up your husband?
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11