Q&A: Warming gels and lubes

We had a reader ask the following question:

I’ve often seen in stores “Warming Gels” Some inexpensive KY brand. some a little more pricey. Do you have any experience with them? What about using them with Oral sex? Thanks!

Back a few years ago when my awakening began, DH and I experimented with getting my arousal level up, and one of the things we tried was “warming lubes”.   We tried several different kinds, and I am trying to think back to my opinions on them.

If you go to amazon.com and search for warming lubricants, there are so many to choose from!  I believe we tried Astroglide warming , Durex, KY Yours and Mine, and one other that wasn’t really a warming lubricant, but was a cream that you applied directly to the clitoris to get a “tingly” sensation for arousal purposes…for the life of me, I cannot remember what it is called, but I bought it at Walmart.

I know that my husband and I haven’t had much success with Astroglide of any kind.   KY Yours and Mine was really disappointing to me.   The commercials made it look like something any marriage bed couldn’t do without, but I found it kind of  “meh”.  It did give a tingly sensation for me, but when ours “met”, there were no fireworks.   I always thought it was kind of a dud.   I think the Durex was probably the one I liked the most out of the three lubes I tried, but it’s been forever since I used it.

Overall, I found, for myself, that I have really sensitive skin, so they didn’t always work as well for me as I would have liked.  You do get a tingling sensation, a warming sensation that does get you “going” so to speak, but they always ended up feeling like they were burning my skin…but then again, I do have very sensitive skin there, and I could have used too much in my attempts to get aroused.  I would be willing to try them again, since it has been years since I used them.   In moderation, they would probably be fine since my labia seem to be the most sensitive area now a days,  and not my clitoris.

So ladies, what experiences have you had with warming lubricants and gels?   Which ones have you tried?  Which ones did you like?  Which did you not like?   Please feel free to add your comments below.


  1. I can relate to what you’re talking about with some feeling like they just burn your skin. We tried the clit cream that you were talking about. The one I used was called Cleopatra’s Secret. Not only did I have burning and not that much fun…I also ended up with a UTI. Now that being said the shop owner where I bought it from said that it was a top seller and that women love it. For me – not so much, but hope you find something you like.

  2. I’ve tried the Durex warming and tingling lubes and although they did seem to give a heating or tingling sensation, it was more distracting than arousing and did feel like burning after a while.

  3. We have X-Scream from Pure Romance, an at home sales company. Absolutely love it! We don’t use it every time, but when we do . . . !!!!!!!! Its the only thing we have tried.

  4. We tried the KY Yours and Mine and ended up on the bathroom floor with my DH tryin to pour water into my vagina while I shrieked, “It burns, it burns!”

    Funny now. Not so funny at the time.

  5. We tried those to once… only once. The pain -I felt like my vagina was on fire. Never again.

  6. I am so sorry about your experience with Yours and Mine. It sounds all too familiar with me, too, though….

  7. My experience sounds like yours, curlygirl, except we used the regular KY warming gel. I remember screaming “it burns!!”, too. I much prefer the cooling gels, myself. There’s already too much heat there for my liking. 🙂

  8. Yeah, I got the KY Y+M with a coupon for cheap…. glad I did because as soon as I opened it, I tossed it…. I could smell whatever the ingredient was that causes the “tingling” (menthol, maybe?) and it smelled way too strong for my skin! I can’t even tolerate Vicks VapoRub on my regular skin, no way I was putting that stuff down there.

    I have also bought the KY “Intrigue” but haven’t tried it yet.

  9. We picked up a product called Shunga “Secret Garden” female orgasm enhancing cream. It is pricey. Over $20 for 1 ounce. I’m not sure how it would be for those who have sensitive skin. It has peppermint oil in it as one of the last ingredients.

    I really like it, it seems to help get things going down there if I need a little extra somethin’ somethin’. For me it hasn’t made my orgasms any different but does help me get in the mood a little faster or if we have time for lots of fun.
    My girlfriend who recommended it said it helps her go from 1 to 3 orgasms very quickly.

  10. I’ve never had a burning problem using a lube until a few nights ago when were having sex and we didn’t start off with lubrication because I made enough myself. I started to get dry in the middle and that’s when the FIRE came! No lube had ever made me burn like that, and we had to stop while I used a cold wash cloth to stop the burning. It was the KY His & Hers, which I also feel wasn’t anything special. For clitoral stimulation I have tried the KY Intense, and another one that we got with a sex toy we ordered, but I can’t really say they are so explosive or anything since I have only had my first orgasm experience January of this year.

  11. My dh and I decided to try a cheap brand from the dollar tree store it has a very light sensation and smells great. I wouldn’t suggest using unless u start with it though. That’s when it could feel like its burning u. But even when that has happened to me it lasts less than ten seconds. Then it feels normal again. The best part is that its only a dollar.

  12. Hubby and I use KY Yours & Mine now and then, and sometimes their 2-in-1 massage oils. Feels real good. The only KY product that was a major disappointment was the Kissable Sensations. It’s meant to spice up foreplay, but for us, it was just a mess.

  13. Oh, I’m sorry, that is just funny to hear.

    Like most of the posters here, I found KY Yours & Mine to cause a painful burning sensation. I don’t like it at all.

  14. For us, I’m being very nice if I rate the KY ‘Yours and Mine’ stuff as eh. It wasn’t what I was hoping for when I surprised my DH with it.

  15. I take back what I said on the KY Kissable Sensations. Last time hubby and I had a night to ourselves, I gave him a promised massage with a surprise ending: a BJ. Man, did I go wild! 😉 It’s still a bit messy if you use too much on one area, but man was it fun.

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