Interview With a “Feet” Couple (Part 1)

We have been hearing more and more about couples who enjoy using their feet during their intimate times together… so we set out to find one such couple to interview!  Below is part one of our interview of a couple who love using feet in their marriage bed.


1. What exactly does it mean to “like feet?”

Hubby: Simply stated, it means that you are partial to the feet of your spouse as opposed to those who prefer their spouses breasts, butt, legs, or otherwise. It means that you enjoy gazing at the bright nail polish of her latest pedicure, the symmetrical order of her toes, the deepness of her arches and the round suppleness of her heels. It means that you can find the sight of your spouse in nylons and heels especially exciting and can be turned on just by the delicate dangling or dipping of any shoe that she has on her foot.

Liking feet is not something which I believe is an acquired taste that one merely develops. I was aware of my attraction to feet at a very young age and I believe that based on several studies it is entirely possible that I had a predisposed liking towards feet. I also subscribe to the imprinting theory and I believe that my fascination for feet may have been imprinted at an early age by someone who innocently let me massage their feet during story time to keep me occupied. I have studied the accounts of many others who also like feet who can also recall similar instances in which they felt that their fascination for feet was innocently awoken by similar circumstances. It is not something that abates over time. Liking feet is a lifelong fascination that requires an open minded and loving spouse who can embrace this uniqueness. Above all, as our blog states, I believe that liking feet is fun and okay.

Wife: Also I consider liking feet to be when a person loves to have their feet touched in a sexual or non sexual way. In my case, it improves the intensity of my orgasms to have my feet touched during sex with my husband. I also love to have my feet massaged nightly or during quality time with my hubby. If I don’t have foot sex or receive proper foot attention on a regular basis I do tend to become irritable.

2. At what age did you decide that it was cool to use your feet during sex? (i.e., did you ever masturbate with your feet before meeting your spouse?)

Hubby: Once aware of this fascination, I didn’t think about using my own feet for sexual purposes as much as I was thinking that I needed to eventually find an open minded spouse who wouldn’t find my fascination weird or abnormal and would be open to trying foot sex or foot jobs in the bedroom. I can say that I was indeed blessed to have found her early in life.

Wife: I was 19 the first time that I had foot sex with my husband. To me it was a good thing that satisfied both my husband and I. I took psychology classes in College so I understood sexual contact, reflexology, and fetishes which were considered normal to a point. To me foot sex felt right and pleasurable with my husband.

3. Is this something both of you agreed upon right away at the beginning of your marriage or have you incorporated it in later years?

Hubby: I believe that honesty is the best approach. I told her early in our relationship that I was partial to feet. I truly believed that if she was the right spouse for me, that she would be able to accept this unique part of me and eventually embrace it. I took it slow and tried to explain to her why I liked feet, what I liked about her feet and especially let her know how pretty I thought they were. We did research together and then we started slowly with pedicures, foot massages, foot kissing and I let her decide her comfort level when trying foot sex. We experimented with foot jobs and foot sex and then talked openly about what we liked. With patience and understanding, her feet quickly became more and more comfortable with any activities in the bedroom and today, nearly twenty years later, it can be said that her feet often have a mind of their own and that they are indeed a large part of our sex life.

Wife: My husband and I talked about everything when we first became a couple. He was open and honest about his attraction to feet which felt right to me. I was open to trying it because I knew from my studies that different people were attracted to different body parts. I knew about foot fetishes from psychology books I read in High School and in College. To me it was a normal thing and a way to connect with my husband.

4. Does every sexual encounter between you include some sort of foot play?

Hubby: I would say that not every sexual encounter includes foot play. But her feet do tend to become involved probably at least 95% of the time in my estimation because we both know that it is something that turns each other on and that we both enjoy. It can be simply flirting, to foreplay, or something more. We do try other things in the bedroom just to keep things exciting and passionate that don’t involve feet and we are never shy about experimenting sexually.

Wife: Almost all sexual encounters between us include some type foot play. I achieve a more intense orgasm when my feet are touched during sex and I feel that my husband gets a better climax if my feet are touching him. We have been doing it for so long that foot play is a natural part of our sexual relationship.

5. I personally believe that having a full blown fetish can be unhealthy for couples. Fetish= not being able to get or maintain an erection without _______. (In this case, feet) Do you believe this is a fetish for you both? How do you feel about the healthiness of your relationship with regard to your focus on feet?

Hubby: The use of the word fetish in conjunction with feet tends to be a bit over dramatized and often carries a negative stigma due to harmful stereotypes portrayed in the mainstream media. I prefer to think of it as a foot fascination. But if the fascination is the only method in which one can achieve sexual gratification then it can indeed present a problem within the relationship. If unchecked to the point that a person ignores their partner’s sexual needs and selfishly only satisfies their needs then they would require professional help. However, in my extensive studies, I often reference an accepted classification tier that describes the five levels of those with any type of fascination. Most people fall within the first two classes and have an otherwise normal sex life. Those rare individuals who fall into the class three or above on the five tier classification cannot.

In our case, I don’t feel that this is a fetish for the both of us. We explore many other varieties and spices in our marriage bed that don’t involve feet. However, my wife does really enjoy having me touch her feet and I relish the opportunity to touch them as well. And it is this simple touch that quite often leads to other things in the bedroom. I think that this enhances our sexual intimacy in regards to frequency and quality. We are very comfortable with each other sexually and we have no problem communicating to each other about what we enjoy and would like to try within the bedroom. I believe this is because we have been able to embrace my foot fascination and incorporate it into our sex life without reservation. We have a very active sex life and we are still very much in love with each other even after nearly twenty years of marriage. My wife often calls me her sole mate as well as her soul mate and I am blessed to be both.

Wife: I personally feel that a fetish can be healthy in moderation. I don’t believe there is anything wrong with a fetish as long as you are in control and it doesn’t cause physical harm to you or your spouse. If you are talking about people who have a fetish that drives them to do illegal or forceful things to satisfy it, then yes that would be unhealthy. But in my opinion, a foot fetish is not harmful. To me the strong connection that my husband and I share with feet is healthy, fun and helps us connect on a different level than most couples.

Come back next week for part two of this interesting interview!


Weekly poll #64: Circumcised or not?

Monday’s Mission #119

Your mission this week is to try the creative foreplay technique mentioned here. It can be a lot of fun to get on the edge of aggressive like this. It builds excitement. Sometimes slow and relaxed sex is good, but it that’s all you’re having, try kicking things up a notch. 🙂

Sentence Starters

Finish the following sentence in the comment box:


When my husband uses his fingers to ________, it sends me through the roof!


Q: Sex Positions for Pregnancy

We had someone write in and ask us for a list of favorable positions to use during pregnancy. I thought it was a great question so I pulled some of the positions from our Position of the Week feature that are likely to be comfortable, though some of them may require some slight alterations depending on what stage you are at and you and your husband’s body shapes. I haven’t included man on top positions because they are likely to be more uncomfortable although my husband and I did a version of a basic missionary position all the way up to the end of my pregnancies.

First is a list of woman on top positions where you are facing him:

Second is a list of positions where you are on top and facing away so your belly isn’t feeling squished:

Lastly I want to mention that if you have the option of making love underwater it can be very helpful in taking the weight off your belly so if it works in your situation there are some great underwater sex positions as well:

So I hope this list is helpful to our pregnant readers. 🙂

Weekly poll #63: Orgasm in dreams

Monday’s Mission #118

Your mission this week is to use a different surface than your bed for sex. It could still be in your bedroom, but consider other options, too. The bathroom counter. The kitchen table. The coffee table. An occasional chair. The stairs. Have fun!

Sentence Starters

Finish the following sentence in the comment box:


One quality that I really admire about my husband, is…


God, why are you tempting me?

Have you ever asked that question?  Do you know of anyone who feels that God tempts them with things?

One of my most favorite books in the Bible is the book of James.  I just love how he tells it like it is.  There is no sugar coating on James’ words in this book!  I was reading tonight in my favorite book, and I read this….

When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; 14but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. 15Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. (James 1:13-15)

I am reminded by this verse of an email we got once about the strong temptations that one reader was having in regards to staying pure.   This reader was asking for our help and suggestions for what to do and how to set boundaries.   There are some people in this world who give in to the temptation to have premarital sex and blame this strong desire to have relations with their fiancee’ (or fiance’) on God.  It must be God that is tempting me to defile my future marriage bed.   Why would God tempt me with sex when I know that he wants me to remain pure?   Dear one, it isn’t God that is tempting you.  It is Satan.   Take a look at the verse again.  James tells us that God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone.   So why do we blame it on God?

Because it is what Satan is telling us to do.

Remember back in the Garden of Eden….Eve was tempted, not by God, but by the serpent, who twisted God’s words around to make Eve believe what she wanted to believe, not what God told her.   Why wouldn’t that wiley snake still be doing that to us today?

Look at all the non-believers who tell us on a daily basis, “If there is a God, why does he let this happen?”  It’s because we don’t believe in Him anymore…we have been given our own free will.   God is always there.  Whether or not we choose to include God in our choices is also our free will,  but God doesn’t ever leave or forsake us.

Is it God’s fault that I didn’t save myself for my husband?  Nope.  That would be my own bad choices.  I was “dragged away and enticed” by my own evil desires.  The desire gave birth to sin when I acted on it.  God wanted me to save myself…he told me so in the Bible, but I chose to sin.

The next time you feel that temptation to do something that the Holy Spirit is telling you “NO!”, don’t listen to Satan who is only going to drag you down and drag you away from God.   Look to God, reach out to God and seek his wisdom in all your decisions.   Even though temptations may be so very strong and irresistible, remember God’s words…

No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.  (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Who will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear?  God.  Who will pull you out when you think you’re at your bursting point?  God.   So when Satan comes a knockin’ with all guns blazing, and you think you cannot possibly turn away, remember that God is there.  No porn, no sin is greater than God.  Look to him to help you out.  He’ll be there every time.

Weekly Poll #62: Swallowing

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