We wanted to keep you abreast of what will be happening with the blog as we reach the close of the 2010 calendar year.
The last two weeks of December (Dec 20-31), we will be taking a vacation from the blog. It is a very special time for us and our families, besides the fact that it is a really BUSY time for us and our families. During this time, we will be in discussion and prayer over what God would have us do with our ministry in the new year. We are receptive to ideas for the new year. If there are any topics that you would be interested in reading about, feel free to list them below in the comment section. If you agree with a topic that is already listed, be sure that you comment on the comment, not add a new one. This will make it easier for us to see which ideas have the most interest. The blog articles will continue on Monday, January 3, 2011.
We want to wish all of our readers a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. We have been truly blessed by God in this ministry and we are grateful to our readership who has come back again and again to read our articles and to contribute to discussions. May God bless you abundantly during the holiday season. Never forget your gift of Salvation born unto us this holiday season.
Blessings,
Cumingirl, Spicynutmeg and Cinnamonsticks
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Christian Nymphos 
Well – This is a little late for me now (with an 11 week old) but I would have loved some articles about sex and pregnancy. I know for many women (at least according to what I’ve read) sex can be great during pregnancy and some even have their first orgasm. For me though – I only had a few the whole pregnancy. Though I won’t be needing this information again for a while, I’m sure it could bless other people. Also – some information about how to get back into things after the baby arrives would be great. I know it can be a little nerve wracking the first time and a little painful. I can’t wait for things to be really back to normal…What a huge transition sexually the year of pregnancy and childbirth are.
it might be interesting to have a book of the month. we could have a special link to discuss the chosen book. : )
also a ‘like’ button on the comments similar to facebook.
I very much agree! I am on my second pregnancy in two years and would love some ideas on how to make it work in the later months. Last time we ended up have to do all from behind for the last few months and I got very tired of it quickly. Any other ways to spice things up while pregnant would be welcome.
Perhaps you will add some more members to write your blog in the coming year. It will help lighten your writing and could provide your blog wtih some new ideas. Peppermint girl used to write some great articles. Someone could take her place.
I like to come visit the site every day, but sometimes I get too busy and am away for a few days or a week or so. Is there any way to read the (recent) past comments without going into the article archives? I am always curious to see what’s buzzing, but if it’s been too long then I don’t know where to look, other than the newest comments on the right-hand side of the page. Am I saying what I mean clearly? 🙂
That being said, I LOVE this web site. It has been such a blessing to me and to my marriage, and I want to give a heartfelt thanks to you ladies for the time and energy you put into this. I have told so many women about this site. Please don’t ever go away!!
And Merry Christmas!
First I want to say thank you so much for all the time and effort you guys put into this site I can’t wait everyday to see what is up for the day!!!!! My very favorite day is the polls I love to see results of those and it does help with ideas. I do also love the information you give us on products out there that help with our love life! Thanks again!!!!
I read the articles already on the blog about pregnancy/after pregnancy, and I agree it would be helpful for this subject to be expanded 🙂
I agree – I have read them, too. I would especially love another look at getting your desire back (after baby is born), when you’re tired and have no desire but want to still please your husband. Do most new moms (even ones who had a great sex life before baby was born) feel this way?
I could be wrong, but I only visit a couple of times a month now and whenever I do, I don’t see new articles very often. The only updates seem to be the polls and sentence starters…so maybe some new articles? Maybe reader email questions could be turned into articles more, etc.
as more Americans are getting overweight, i think it would be great for you ladies to write more about how to deal with 1) body image when you’re overweight relating to sex and 2) how to have sex with an obese husband… both how to overlook his obesity or cope with it emotionally and also physically how to deal with it.
in the past you had an issue with men reading (and responding).
It seems the husbands have piped down, which is more freeing to us.
But perhaps an article or suggestion list for how Christian husbands might invite their wives to this site.
Also in the past, there was thought about how to introduce this site to other ladies. More than once this past year when a young gal in our circle was getting married, I wish I had a classy business card or the like with your site that I could slip into the card.
I have trouble too finding recent comments that aren’t on the home page.
I am very thankful for this site and appreciate all of the work you put into it. I have learned so much from reading the articles and posts. Thank you and Merry Christmas to you and your families.
Some topics I think could be interesting:
* Sex in the first few months of marriage
It seems this site, books, etc. tend to give more attention to “this is what you can expect your first time” than “this is what you can expect as your sexual relationship begins to grow.” Some things that it could be useful to cover: (1) Coping with not being able to come from sex right away when part of your self-image has been defined by “I’m not like those asexual Christian women.” (2) Techniques for adjusting to receiving vaginal stimulation when you’re used to clitoral only. For example, giving yourself extra clitoral stimulation during sex with a vibrator, learning to fantasize about/concentrate on vaginal sensations, or learning to come vaginally from your husband’s finger first if he is having trouble lasting long enough for you to learn how to get there, etc. (3) What to expect in terms of how profound (or not) sex may feel from day to day and how normal that is. (4) Negative sexual experiences on might have in the beginning and how to get past subsequent anxiety, (5) What to do before marriage to avoid sex being painful for the first few weeks, (6) A general let-people-talk post about what they wish they had known about their first year of married sex beforehand, etc.
* How various family life transitions typically affect sex lives and how to adjust to these, make sex better in each of these phases, etc.
Sex if you are temporarily or permanently living in the same house as a parent/sibling/other adult, sex with a house of babies vs. small children vs. older children vs. teenagers, sex when you have one kid vs. two vs. more, etc. Also, understanding sex if you’ve decided not to have kids, when basically all any Christians say about sex assumes kids are in your future. Or dealing with weird feelings about sex when you WISH you could be trying to get pregnant right now but you CAN’T because of your school/financial/some other situation (which is a different experience, of course, than struggling with infertility, though they both have to do with sex/baby sensitivities).
* Ways to get involved in church or community that empower women to embrace their sexuality
Snce many of us didn’t grow up feeling that sexual empowerment, what can we do to make things different from girls and young women (and even older women!) learning about their sexual selves?
* Talking about sex with friends, whether in all-female or couples settings.
Some things to touch on might be sex-related humor, general but non-detailed frankness about sex, self-disclosure in teaching/ministry settings (like sharing a difficulty you had to overcome in your sex life as an example), giving sex tips to friends, etc. Obviously, we feel comfortable talking with strangers about sex, which is why we’re here. But what about “real life” when things aren’t anonymous? Sometimes I think we don’t talk about sex enough because we’re prudish, but of course, there is an important privacy element to our sex lives. Among close friends, what is a healthy balance to strike?
I completely agree with the “sex in the first few months of marriage” topic! As we all know, there is much emphasis put on the first time. But the pattern that couples set during the first few months will also be so important as they begin their married life.
I’ve read the articles about the “feet couple” and it has me wondering. What can you do with feet? My husband seems to be turned on when I touch his feet or touch him with mine but what else can be done? Some ideas on how to expand your sexual “recipe book” with more unusual things might be nice.
Yeah I like the book idea alot!
My husband & I have are enjoying your website! Occasionally he checks up on me to see if I have been doing my “homework”.
Your website has encouraged, inspired and made me so much bolder. I love the new side of me I am experiencing. Those down days do come, and it helps to do some research on your website.
Requests I have are:
Some info about what others experience with hormones and how it influences their desire or lack of it. How they manage it during downtime.
How many ladies’ husbands struggle to last long? What has helped? It would be nice to know if and how many other men struggle with this. Cos my husband gets so disheartened by it, It does not bother me much.
How to get in the mood as quick as my husband or stay in it. Fantasies just dont help me. I am trying to find what does, does anyone have suggestions?
This website was a Godsend, so unexpected. Thank you to everybody who shares on this website!
Have a blessed Christmas and an exciting New Year.
I’d love to see “re-runs” of some older articles. I often browse the archives because there is so much good content hiding there, but I think It would be nice to have someone else find the good ones and re-post them. Even re-running the position of the week series would be good, since I came in at about #90!
Thanks for all your hard work! It’s really been a blessing in my marriage!
i like this idea! maybe on an ‘off’ day like wed?
I would love to see an open forum where members can just answer each others posts on whatever topics they think of posting. I love the articles on here, they are informative and I have gone through the archives. I just sometimes wish there was more freedom to just talk with the other women on here.
I would like to see some posts about woman on top positions and help with that. My husband says that I have no rhythm, what would you suggest for us or me?
We appreciate your thoughts on this and will consider something like this in the future. At the moment we are not able to start a forum.
You need to check out our CN Position Page. You will find several woman-on-top positions for you and your husband to try out.