Weekly poll #75: How do you feel about your husband “taking you”?

No foreplay, no nothing…

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  1. He hasn’t done that yet. Likes to sneak up and surprise me in a teasing way, but not to that end.

  2. There are days when I’m all for it–sometimes I just want him and I don’t care if there is foreplay or not….other days I need foreplay before he can even come anywhere near me–so this poll I could have chosen a couple different answers

  3. This can be incredibly hot and fun!….As long as you have a really good, trusting relationship with your husband. I feel perfectly loved and safe with my Hubby and so when he just gives into his passion for me and takes me it conveys his deep love and desire. I imagine that if I felt any kind of distrust with my husband then I would hate…..but I love it!

  4. Have to be the right time and mood. So erotic if done right.

  5. i would think it would completely depend on my mood. Sometimes i think i would love it, other times it might make me feel irritated or even violated.

  6. Actually, I discovered a couple months back that I really like being taken… that I like being desired with passion…that I like being the object of his intense desire…. that I actually get turned on even more when he just takes me, has his way with me, wants be badly and shows me. As I said, my realization of this happened a couple months back. I was doing some housework and I had on some old work clothes, including an old t shirt that had rips and holes in it. I often go braless around the house and this day was no different. Anyway, my hubby was home for the day. As I was working, he just came up to me, started kissing me passionately, and let his hands roam all over my body. Rather than remove my shirt overhead, he simply started ripping it off me (as I said it had rips and holes in it which made for easy tearing). He was very passionate. He took me to the couch and made wild passionate love to me. What I learned from the whole experience is that I get really turned on by being ravaged like that (“I want you and I want you now” kinda thing). The whole “ripping my shirt off” thing, excited me A LOT! In fact, once I had my jeans off, I told my DH to rip my panties off as well (they were a little thread bare too : ) ) which he was more than happy to do! What a turn on! Since then, I keep a collection of old tshirts, panties etc. that are saved for times like these.

  7. I agree with a lot of you here. In the right mood this would be good.

  8. I agree with Mrs. G that it definitely depends on the level of trust in the relationship, and I would add that for me I think whether or not a woman feels *her needs (sexually, but otherwise too!) are being met on a regular basis would also affect how receptive she’d be to this! I am blessed that my husband loves me well (most of the time, lol) and this has happened a few times, and it made me feel sexy and attractive. It made me think “Man he must think I’m HOT if he wants me that bad.” 🙂

  9. It is extremely rare for my husband to do this, but I love it when it does. I don’t know that I would appreciate it if it were occurring very often, but it is a pleasant surprise when he does. It makes me feel so desired and wanted to have him just “jump” me like a person at a buffet that hasn’t seen food in three days. Mmmmm….

  10. I would love to try this, but I’m not sure hubby is confident enough yet. He is a very good lover, but really needs to know I am into something before he does it. And I feel like it would take away from the experience if I had to ask him to take me, because then he’s not really taking me, is he? It would just be him doing what I had asked for.
    So I think I might wait and see on this one…

  11. i think i’d like this if i went thru with it. he has tried…and due to body insecurities (feeling fat, do I need a shower, ect) I have fought him off. I may possibly have completely deterred him….i can’t remember the last time he tried. sigh…..perhaps some heavy hinting on my part woudl let him know that i’d be open to it….and when he tries I have to go with it…. feeling fat and stinky if necessary, lol!

  12. this is one of my fantasies….

  13. to HisChosen1….
    try leaving a postit note where he’ll find it when he comes home from work /wtvr, saying something spicy like “i want you to show me how much you want me when you get home”…. and when he comes home be in the shower/just be getting out of the shower, that way he can take your postit hint and you’ll feel all clean 🙂

  14. Don’t give him “hints”–just tell him: “I want you to f— me NOW!” Believe me, he’ll “take” you like never before.

  15. My husband doesnt do anything like this unless he’s in trouble. I would love it if it was more then that and I actually felt he truly wanted to do it, if he desired me like that it would send me thru the roof. But he doesn’t seem to desire me passionately very often. Hardly ever really.

  16. If you have told him in the past why you are fighting him off, then all you probably need to do is look “ready” to encourage him. The majority of guys seem to really like seeing their wives do domestic things. Wear something really revealing when he is around and scrub the floor (this is my husbands thing – lol) or something along those lines. He might just take you right there on the floor. If not, he might need a little hint the first time – tell him bluntly “If I am wearing this doing this that means I want you to take me”. You will only need to tell him once, the second time around he won’t need the hint.

  17. I agree. my husband and I were just married last summer and (before he went to Boot camp) he is a great lover but I think he still isn’t sure that I think that. also we don’t have our own house yet (we lived in a camper) so even if he wanted to do anything like that it would be really tricky. but I’d love for him to try sometime. 🙂

  18. Not an every time thing, but when I’m in the right mood!

  19. This is something we’ve done a couple of times, but it’s been quite awhile. I liked it back then, but I’m not so sure it would work great now. Age is the factor. The flesh is willing, but the hormones have gotten weaker. I’m in my mid-40’s. I just plain need more preparation, at the very least lube, to not have things become painful. It takes a little longer for me to get my motor running as well, so if there’s no foreplay, I’m just getting aroused by the the time he’s finishing, and I’m left feeling frustrated rather than fulfilled. I DO love to know that he desires me and thinks I’m hot. I guess my needs have just changed.

  20. I would love for my husband to do this. I’m not quite sure how to tell him, though. He’s very sensitive about making sure I’m in the mood (we have two boys under the age of 3, so we’re often tired) and I appreciate this. But sometimes I would love to just be overwhelmed by the passion I know he keeps in check “for my sake.”

  21. Carol,
    I don’t want to get into a whole spiel here…but your comment was really encouraging to me. I struggled for many years because I desired the very thing you described — someone wanting me so badly that he was wildly passionate toward me. I lived in condemnation for it, feeling that it couldn’t possibly be a God-given desire because it seemed so anti-Christian and “wrong”. It was a secret desire that I felt no one would understand, that they’d think I was wanting to be raped or something. I am pleased to report that God has worked wonders there, and largely through talking with my soon-to-be husband about things like that, I have experienced a freedom and acceptance of those desires. I now believe that they ARE God-given, and He put them in me because of the desires He put in my future husband. …Anyway! I just want to say that your comment was encouraging to me, further evidence that I am NOT weird, and that my desires for such passion are NOT wrong. So thank you! Blessings to you and your husband and family! =)

  22. Exactly my thoughts hisgirl! There are occasions that I would love it, and other times I might consider locking myself in the bathroom if he tried it. 😀 Totally agree.

  23. I am the weird one – I LOVE Fast and Furious!!!! Bring it on!!

  24. It’s so encouraging to have some really honest women and to talk about this kind of thing, I find it so refreshing especially since ‘Christian women’ don’t talk about things like this hehe well personally I’d love for my dh to do this but I’m not sure he’s that brave, I think I need to be a bit more happy about my own body first and not be so shy, we’ve been married 11 years and I’m still not as outrageous as I’d like to be, thanks for being encouraging girls keep up the great work 🙂

  25. I would love to do something like this but the problem is, everytime he tries it, I get so tickled! I don’t know what makes me so ticklish 😦 Any suggestions on how to make it work for me as well?

  26. I like passionate, urgent sex sometimes, but it’s always pretty mutually initiated for us. One of us might come on strong to the other, but it only goes anywhere if we both want it to.

    I’m not really certain if that’s how some of you are defining “taken”… or how else you might be using it?

  27. I wish I could scream that sometimes, I have never been able to say that quite like that though.

  28. Ditto on things changing. And we have finally figured out that we both have to change together to keep up with the changes or we drift apart and get grumbly. I was at a point where I needed more to get me revved as well and I was falling behind my HB. Then we started getting in better shape together, eating healthier, and spending more time with the and internet off. We also began to research sex on this site and the men’s site we were referred to. We have learned so much that we never knew about sex and being more open and uninhibited.
    The main thing that I learned that applies to this poll about “being taken” is that preparing for sex with my HB or the anticipation during preparing woke me out of my stupor. The more effort I put into sex the more I desired it and got out of it. I always love ML to my man but we never did it enough and he felt slighted which reflected back to me and so on and so forth snowballing into a huge issue. After we started reading articles here and participating in conversations on our respective web site our minds got active, then our bodies, then we got active. 🙂

    I am going to add more to this at the end of the posts so read it as well but I really wanted to attach it to yours since I was in the same situation for quite a while in my marriage.

  29. I do hope Sweetonhim reads my reply to her comment as well as Carol, Silencenomore, Jess, & Vanessa.

    Ditto on things changing. And we have finally figured out that we both have to change together to keep up with the changes or we drift apart and get grumbly. I was at a point where I needed more to get me revved as well and I was falling behind my HB. Then we started getting in better shape together, eating healthier, and spending more time with the and internet off. We also began to research sex on this site and the men’s site we were referred to. We have learned so much that we never knew about sex and being more open and uninhibited.

    The main thing that I learned that applies to this poll about “being taken” is that preparing for sex with my HB or the anticipation during preparing woke me out of my stupor. The more effort I put into sex the more I desired it and got out of it. I always love ML to my man but we never did it enough and he felt slighted which reflected back to me and so on and so forth snowballing into a huge issue. After we started reading articles here and participating in conversations on our respective web site our minds got active, then our bodies, then we got active. 🙂

    I cannot get enough of my HB “taking me!” As many have mentioned, it feels so sexy and attractive so I stay prepared – clean, ready, wanting, anticipating, never knowing exactly when or how he will “take me.” We have come up with some fun erotic ways to help with options so that in case he is desirous of something I cannot do that day, he knows which direction to head.

    We type out different short scenarios of things we’d like to do or have done and present them to the other ahead of time then we prepare for them. He might come home and “take me” over the back of the sofa knowing how prepared I am he will know what all he can do (or not) – fingers, oral, toys, penal, anal or maybe he tells me to give him a good visual. My favorites as of late have been in the shower where he “takes me” a variety of ways against a toy stuck in the shower. There are quite a few ways to be taken in this manner and it is quite fun to be surprised by what way.

    Several ladies made the comment that to have it organized or set up might not be the same as truly “being taken.” But as Carol pointed out planning can make it all the more fun. You can still have an element of surprise if you get creative enough. Running around the house in partially torn clothing or holey clothing is quite erotic to my HB. It sets the mood or scenario for what I am available for or prepared for sexually. He also knows that these are the ones he can rip off of me if he so desires. Like Carol I keep old “Ts” and cheap undies for such occasions.

    AND THE BEST PART OF ALL OF THE ABOVE IS that once you and your HB have done this for a while he will begin to catch you off guard and surprise you with even more! Sometimes we have to start somewhere – anywhere to get to the where we are heading.

  30. I read it! =) I’m glad that you and your husband have begun to enjoy sex so much more…that is awesome! Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly. I definitely like the last paragraph the best…the last line — the important thing sometimes is just to start. And let God lead where He wants things to go. =)

  31. I LOVE being “taken”. LOVE IT!! Passionate, clothes ripping off, take me right here, right now… oh yeah, baby! What woman wouldn’t like being desired like that? But I discovered something recently: men love being on the receiving end of that kind of desire too! My hubby loves it when I initiate sex… when I am the pursuer… the aggressor… that “do me” right now approach. Real turn on for him. One of his favorite things is when I wake him up in the middle of the night using position #39 “Riding the Waves.” It’s something he has requested for years and I’ve finally started to do it. It’s a dream come true, he says.

  32. No foreplay, no nothing…
    As we mature in marriage, we find out we DO love some things we could not even think of before the wedding night. Several conditions have to be met in order for a wife to like be taken (depending on the individual of course). But I do think she has to be in love with her husband and in the mood in some ways. My husband does not read my mind but he can guess when it would be OK to take me without waiting for my consent. As a matter of fact, it is a great way of a sexual bonding experience. Once in a while, as he senses my mood, he grabs me firmly and even a bit roughly and loves me with passion, in taking charge without any discussion of what would be best for me.


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