It is so very easy to look at our husbands and see the bad….admit it, sometimes we see the dirty clothes all over the floor, the toothpaste tube squeezed from the middle, the kids need baths and he’s watching football on tv, I made this wonderful dinner and he didn’t even bother to call me to tell me he was late! All of these things compound up, day after day, but have you taken the time to look for the positive?
Love, what is it? A feeling? No. Feelings come and go like waves lapping on the beach. Love is a commitment. Love works through that laundry on the floor and sees the man who fixed your washing machine so you don’t have to drag all your unmentionables back down to the laundrymat again this week. Love looks past all the wrongs, the faults, the sin…and sees him through God’s eyes. A cherished human being that God sacrificed his Son for. Agape. That’s what love is. It’s not a crush, you don’t love him like ice cream (well, maybe you do…), but it’s self sacrificing love.
Here’s my challenge to you. Sit down and instead of writing down all his faults, take a moment and finish this statement with 10 answers
“I love him because….”
Here’s mine…in no particular order
I love him because….
1. he loves me unconditionally.
2. he can do anything he sets his mind to.
3. he is a wonderful father to our two children.
4. he is a gentle and thoughtful lover.
5. he is so devoted to his family.
6. he works 6 days a week to provide for us and to care for his ailing father.
7. he calls me sexy on a daily basis.
8. he pursued me relentlessly, and helped me to see he was whom God intended for me.
9. he would never leave me or forsake me for any reason.
1o. he’s my best friend.
Can you do it? If you don’t want to post it in the comment section, write them out and put it in a special place where he’ll find it. You will make his day! Happy writing!! 🙂
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Christian Nymphos 
What a wonderful idea! It is far to easy to get caught up in the stress of daily life.
My answers for me would be:
1- Because for some crazy reason he has found it in his heart to love me.
2- Because in his eyes, I am the most beautiful woman in the world and he doesn’t let me forget it.
3-Because he takes such good care of me.
4- Because he is the most handsome guy in the world (In my humble opinion)
5- Because he goes through all kinds of crap daily just to provide a good home for me.
6- Because he is going to make the best father to our future kids.
7- Because there is no other man like him.
8- Because even though he doesn’t realize it he is the best husband in the world.
9-Because he is a wonderful lover
10- Because he can find ways to make me laugh no matter what is going on.
1. He goes to work every day even when he is in pain because he wants to support us.
2. He pushes beyond his natural lack of social skills due to his Aspergers to let me know he loves be and cares for me.
3. He is creative.
4. He can always make me laugh even when we are mad at each other.
5. He does the very best he can at being a father even though he had a not so great example.
6. He is more concerned about my pleasure than his own.
7. He still makes my heart flutter when I see him.
8. He puts up with me. 😉
9. He’s an amazing kisser.
10. He thinks I’m beautiful and sexy even when I am pregnant and already overweight.
before my hub and i got married i made a list of about 97 different reasons…. that surprised even myself. 😛 🙂 i should start a new one/add on now that we’ve been married for 5 months 🙂
1. He makes me laugh
2. He makes me think
3. He calms me
4. He helps me figure out what to do when I am overwhelmed or confused
5. He handles our finances and keeps those worries away from me
6. He never stopped loving me even when I was not the best wife
7. He is a mentor to our kids and all kinds of other kids that belong to other people
8. He is the BEST dad I have ever known
9. He thought I was beautiful even when I was overweight
10. He left a steady income for a risky self employment venture because he knew it would be better for our family in the long run and he worked really hard to make sure that it would be
I was just upset at my husband today for something. As I stewed over it and mentally ranted, a Still, Small Voice reminded me that the very thing I was so upset over was the very thing I had first fallen in love with about him. It was lovely to be reminded of why I had realized I could not live without this man in my life. Suddenly, my ridiculous irritation melted.
Thank you Christian Nymphos. I needed to remember.
this is an awesome idea! as a teenager i made a list of about 30 qualities that i wanted in my future husband. 7 years later after my dh and i were married i was going through my old journals and found it. my husband fit every single quality on my forgotten list!
1. he is passionate and mature in his relationship with God.
2. he is truly good – his motives and heart are always pure.
3. he puts my needs above his own.
4. he is head over heels in love with me.
5. he is humble and very quick to admit when he is wrong and ask for forgiveness.
6. he takes care of me both physically and spiritually.
7. being married to him has made me a much better person. (i’ve done things that i would never have done on my own and without his encouragement)
8. he’s hot
9. he loves our children deeply and isn’t afraid to show them and tell them multiple times a day.
10. early in our marriage he taught himself to be very verbally and physically affectionate with me even though it went against his nature, just because he knew that i needed it.
Where do I start? There are so many positive things I can say about him! Even though we’ve been married almost 35 years, he has very few faults!
A year before I met him, I had made a list of what I wanted in a man and he filled the bill except for 2 items and one of those items were the color of his hair, since that didn’t matter, I snatched him up as quickly as I could and we got married within a few months!
I love him because:
1) he can fix anything, build anything and keeps everything fixed around the house.
2)He is always in a good mood when he wakes up
3)He loves me and his children unconditionally…grandkids too!
4)He’s an adventurous lover, I love the way he loves me!
5)He is always thinking of me and ways to make my life easier.
6)He is the best friend I have ever had.
7)He knows me better then I know myself sometimes
8)He supports me in every way.
9) He hugs me and tells me how much he loves me several times a day!
10)Always introduces me as his “beautiful wife”.
11) I can depend on him and believe in him!
12)He is so talented and confident!
The list could go on, but I think I’ve taken up enough space this time! 🙂 Love you Honey!!
Only 10??
1) He loves God
2) He loves me sacrificailly, always putting me first
3) He cooks and cleans with no complaint when my job becomes 7 days a week oftne 12+ hours a day for 3-4 months out of the year.
4) He deals with my PMS with loving smiles and chocolate
5) He looks at me in sweats, no make-up and hair in a disaster and says things like “Look at you standing there so sexy” and means it. I can also say the same about him.
6) He is so very patient with my emotions, my job, everything
7) He helps out my ailing mother
8) When he gets time off from his work he helps me with my work
9) He is extremely intelligent
10) I do not have to worry that he will ever leave me. I know I can count on him to always stand with me.
Last night I took the time to write out a list to my husband. I titled it “10 Reasons Why I Respect You”. In it, I shared 10 things that stood out that I really respected about him. I signed it “the one who continues to admires you” and placed it in an envelope with “To the husband I respect and admire”.
He came home from work last night, went through the bills, then opened my letter. Oh man, the smile on his face, he was really touched. My husband works on a ship in the Navy, and too often doesn’t get a lot of respect from both command and the people working with him in his division. It means so much more to him than we ladies realize just to come home to a wife who respects him :).
Just read this ‘assignment’-loved the idea. My husband is at a meeting tonight so i typed up my ten reasons, cut them into individual strips, and have hidden them around the house (in spots that he checks frequently). I can’t wait for him to find them! I respect/love him so much-excited for a new way to tell him!!!
I made a list for my husband and left it in the bathroom floor. He has had a really stressful week because of all the snow. He usually kisses me (while I’m still in bed) before he goes to work in the morning. This morning, he came and gave me a kiss and the biggest hug and said, “I wish I could believe I’m as good as you make me out to be.” It is good for him to feel appreciated, especially during a week when he’s so overwhelmed with work.
I love him because:
1. He loves me.
2. He’s willing to do things he doens’t want to because I enjoy or like doing them.
3. He’s willing to hold my hair out of my face when I puke.
4. I come home and he’s emptyed the dishwasher and loaded it when I haven’t asked him to.
5. He’s willing to hold my hand in public and give me a kiss.
6. He’s the best friend I’ve ever had.
7. He’s willing to put my needs above his.
8. He holds me in the middle of the night when I wake him with screaming nightmares.
9. He holds me and lets me cry on his shoulder.
10. He tells me corny jokes to make me laugh.
I could easily come up with another 10 reasons…