Weekly poll #101: What kind of articles would you like to see more of on CN?

Okay, this isn’t your traditional poll like we usually do.  Taking a break from that for one week.  In the comment section below, if you have a certain topic that you would like to learn more about, please place a brief answer in the comment section below.  I will only be allowing answers to the QUESTION to be published, so if you are commenting further on something suggested, it will not be published.  The results of this week will help me establish a new poll next week that you can input which areas YOU are most interested in reading articles about.

Thank you for your help and understanding!  🙂

Introducing …. Ruth

We are introduced to Ruth in the book of Ruth.  She was a Moabite woman who married one of the son’s of Elimelek and Naomi.    In the first chapter of Ruth, we find out that Naomi’s husband died, and she was left with her 2 sons.   Ten years later, both of Naomi’s son’s died, and she was left with her two daughters in law, Orpah and Ruth.  She encouraged both of her daughters in law to return to their homes.  Orpah did so, but Ruth was determined to remain with Naomi.

While with Naomi, she met a family relative of Elimelek’s named Boaz.  She worked in his fields, gleaning wheat behind the other harvesters that went before her.  Boaz treated her kindly, and Naomi was determined to find a home for her daughter in law for her kindness to her.   Boaz became Ruth’s  guardian- redeemer.  Boaz took her as his wife, and she conceived a son, Obed, who is the grandfather of King David.


To learn more about Ruth, you can find her in the Old Testament book of Ruth.

Sentence Starters

Finish the following sentence in the comment box:


If my husband had one free hour each week to spend entirely on himself, he would probably ________.


Weekly poll #100: How do you orgasm most of the time?

WOO HOO!  We made it to the century mark on polls!

Love and Respect: Chapters 22-24

Please only participate if you have read the chapter for context. If you haven’t yet had a chance to read these chapters, you are welcome to return to this post when you have.

Chapter 22 Observations and Quotations

This chapter is a summary of moving in the opposite direction of the Crazy Cycle and instead engaging in the Energizing cycle. His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love. Rather than withholding what your spouse needs most in response to your own needs not being meet this theory is about reaching beyond how you feel and choosing to offer one another love and respect. Through this act of humble submission one to another, we find that our spouse is then naturally motivated to give us what we need.

Do you agree with this theory? Does it work this way in your home?

Chapter 23 Observations and Quotations

On page 266 we are presented with a new aspect to the Love and Respect principle. The Rewarded Cycle. “If you get no results from practicing Love and Respect, why bother? The Rewarded Cycle gives you the answers to these questions.”

One thought that I had as I read this chapter was, “If we are choosing to be respectful out of a motivation for our husbands to be more loving, is that authentic? Should we be surprised if it doesn’t work? For me this book has been most helpful in establishing the value of unconditional respect. So even if you don’t have a book-worthy testimony of how these principles work in your marriage, hold onto what the Lord has taught you. He will harvest good things in your life from it.

The Rewarded Cycle “His love blesses regardless of her respect. Her respect blesses regardless of his love.”

I think the balancing act in all of this is negotiating between unconditional respect and not enabling bad behavior. If we are not aware of it, we could end up erring to one side or the other during conflict.

Chapter 24 Observations and Quotations

Page 284 “No matter how depressing or irritating my spouse might be, my response is my responsibility.” For many of us this is not a new concept, but the opposite sure feels true sometimes. It’s very easy to fall into accusations of, “You made me…” How do we truly let go of the belief that other people are responsible for our reaction?

I liked the grain of sand illustration on page 285. Did it resonate with you as well?

The key in all of this, the hinge point for how our godly response to our spouse impacts our marriage is Jesus. I was glad the author included this. The kingdom of God come into our lives makes all the difference.

Page 290 “The Rewarded Cycle offers still more because the mature husband or wife does not go unnoticed by his or her children.” This is so true. I have seen it over and over again, as I am sure you have too. Our kids watch us so closely and they are learning how to relate with the people in their world as they witness our relationship with them and one another.

So how was this book meaningful to you? What are the key points you are taking with you? Would love to hear how you have been blessed and challenged by reading it.

Sentence Starters

Finish the following sentence in the comment box:


If I had one free hour each week to spend entirely on myself, I would probably ________.


Romantic Getaways

By the time this article is published, my DH and I will have returned from our family vacation.  We, along with our kids, have made this a priority every year for the past 3 years.  (This being our 4th)  This year is very special to us though.  During the middle of the vacation, we were afforded the opportunity to have a little romantic getaway without the kids.

I cannot possibly tell you how much these little getaways mean to me.  When the kids were younger, I wouldn’t do it.  I would think about the kids so much.  Were they ok?  Did they miss me?  Did they NEED me?  No one could replace me.   No one could take care of the kids as well as I could.  But what about my marriage?  What about my husband?  Didn’t he….didn’t WE deserve a chance to be the lovers we were meant to be?

You see, we were pregnant 5 months after we got married.   We never really had the opportunity to explore our sexuality together before our son came.  Our first anniversary was spent in Galveston and I was 7 months pregnant at the time.  Kinda hard to enjoy yourself when you are that far along.  It just went downhill from there.   Baby cries all night, feedings in the middle of the night, not enough sleep, going back to work and the guilt of putting the baby in daycare….it went on and on.  Our sex life didn’t….

So that is why this private time for us is so very important.  We started making weekly date nights.  The kids are old enough that we do our date while they are involved with Wednesday night activities at church.   On occasion, we plan something on a Friday night.   Our oldest is old enough to babysit, so we feel that our youngest is safe.  I have to admit that I have finally allowed us to go for dates with him babysitting where we get in very late…. going to concerts across the border and driving home afterwards.   I haven’t quite felt confident enough to let him babysit his sister overnight….not anything to do with my son, it’s still me.  But my parents and my mother in law have been awesome about keeping both kids while we go spend time by ourselves.   It is truly a blessing for us and our marriage.

Now, we’re back to work and the real world, trying to figure out how to have those date nights over the summer when church activities are done until the summer ends.   It is so important for your marriage to find a way to have date nights.  Do a babysitting swap with friends.   Someone from church.  A family member.   Make sure that your priorities in life are (1) God  (2) your spouse (3) your children and so forth…. Take my advice…it wasn’t fun when I put the kids before both my husband and God.

What are your experiences with dating your hubby or getaways just the two of you.  How often do you date?  Get away from it all?

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