Weekly poll #115: How often does conflict with your spouse negatively affect your sex life?


  1. I do this when I should be pulling in closer to him

  2. I voted as things are NOW: Conflict never interferes with our sex life – we’ve been married 12 years.

    However, had I been asked this 15 years ago, when married to a different man, I would have answered: Always, for he was so toxic to our marriage, I couldn’t stand him touching me unless I had drank enough alcohol.

    PS: I rarely drink now days.

  3. Well… it is not me it effects! It is both of us I guess. Since my husband admitted to some things, even though I have tried to help fix them… it is like I do not even exist! We have had sex 1x in the last 6 months….. other than that, I could walk around naked and it does NOTHING! He did not even notice my new haircut last week!!!

  4. Problem solved: after 41 years of marriage, I don’t remember the last time we were in conflict…

  5. Our conflicts rarely last that long, so we generally wait to have sex until the conflict is resolved. It’s just hard to get in the mood if you’re in a rotten mood.

  6. I said we don’t have sex until the conflict is resolved, because that was the best choice, usually, we work through it, and sex is kind of the “phew, we’re done fighting” ending. 🙂

  7. I would have said “never” too until Monday, then a silly slight annoyed me and rather than keep my mouth closed and just roll with it I ruminated and fed it until it grew then I had to say something. It killed our passion for the evening which totally stunk because I had a nice little seduction planned.

    Happy to report that since then things are pretty much back to normal and I have learned a valuable lesson about picking my battles.

  8. You are so right about this. Satan would like nothing more than to put wedges between two married people and making love is a weapon we can and should use against his wiles. I believe that a married couple’s highest worship to the Lord is being one flesh and enjoying the wonderful gift of sex.
    Having said that, I think it is harder for a woman (and some men) to put aside problems and make love because our responses are so much connected with our emotions. I try to remember the high praises and fight the good fight!

  9. I’m in the same boat…but my husband just is too “married” to his computer, in his office. He claims a medical problem now, but won’t go have it checked out. I think we’ve been intimate about 5 times in the past 4 years…which breaks my heart. I’ve just about given up on any hope of anything other than ‘roommates.’

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