When was the last time you surprised your husband, by sliding into the shower with him? Showering together can be such a sensual act. I mean, you’re naked, he’s naked, the water is hot and steamy, and you have water beads rolling down your body. What a perfect setting for some intimate moments.

I want to issue a challenge to you women out there. I want you to plan a time that you can join your husband in the shower. Maybe after he’s had a long day at work. Maybe on a weekend night before bed. Just slip out of your clothes and join him. Take the soap or body wash and lather up his chest, shoulders, and arms. Then turn him around and get his back and neck. Have him get on his knees (if he’s much taller than you) and wash his hair for him. Take your time and run your fingers through his hair sensually. Let him feel your naked body against his as the water falls on you both.

Then have him stand again and tell him you need to finish washing him. Lather up your hands and proceed to wash his genitals. Make sure you are easy with his testicles. Feeling your hands caressing and fondling may indeed begin to make him hard! Make sure you wash his penis thoroughly, and rinse everything off too. Then you can just let things happen as they happen. The possibilities are endless. Sensual kissing under the water, holding each other, exchanging words of love, manual sex, oral sex, and vaginal sex are all hot in the shower! And if you’ve never experienced an orgasm while hot water poured down on top of you, you don’t know what you’re missing!

Your shower may end in the bedroom, with just a quick dry off. Other times, you may end up doing oral or vaginal sex in the shower. And then there are those times when sex isn’t even needed. Just that touch, that closeness. Cleaning each other and just being together after a hectic day.

I know that it’s hard to sometimes fit this in, especially if you have young children at home. But if you ever do get a chance to do this, you should go for it! Yes, this would definitely be counted as instigating, and some of us could do a little more of that! Just think about it and see how things go in the next week or so. You never know when the opportunity may just present itself to you.

January 10, 2008
Categories: Foreplay . . Author: cumingirl . Comments: 7 Comments

Stripping can be a very exciting way to release the sexual energy you have for your husband. If you are interested in trying this, I want to offer you a few tips.

First, think about what music feels right for you. Of course, you don’t have to have music, but if you want to dance while you strip in kind of helps. 🙂 Some of my favorite song options included Let’s Get It On, Leave Your Hat On, and for my husband to strip for me Save a Horse… Ride a cowboy. (Warning: these are youtube videos set to these songs and may contain suggestive lyrics or images.) So as you listen to your song choices think about how it would work to strip to it, what movements would work and how long the song is. You want a song that will feed your sexy vibe.

Next, you want to think about what you are going to wear. Choose something that will allow you to build the tease factor. Tops that have zippers or buttons that you can undo slowly are a good choice. A skirt that can slide over your hips easily and drop to the floor without too much fussing is a better alternative to pants which are simply not the kind of thing you can take off in a sexy way. Well, peppermintgirl has agility like none other so I’m sure she could take pants off in a sexy way 😉 , but the rest of us, not so much. For the lingerie, you might incorporate pasties or a sexy bra. Choose panties that your husband likes to see you in. If he likes seeing you in a thong, wear that. If he likes a skimpy, but full back pantie, wear that. You might also wear thigh high stockings and some sexy boots or shoes and maybe start out with your hair up and then let it loose as you get into it. If, as a couple, you enjoy dressing up in costumes as part of your sex life, you could dress up like an “office girl” or “nurse” and strip for him that way. Just see what works for you.

Let him know before you start if you have any rules for him to follow, like no touching you unless you direct him to. Sit him in a comfortable place so he can see you from many angles. Make sure you have enough space to move around the room. You may end up using the floor to lay on at times or to crawl around so try to keep that in mind too. When you start the music, just begin dancing around incorporating the classic hip swivel and gliding your hands down over your curves. Touch the places on your body that HE wants to touch. Rest them on your rear and slide them over your breasts. You might want to try out one of the many stripper aerobics DVDs out on the market to give you some ideas for moves. Or better yet, go with some girlfriends to a class.

When you are ready to start removing your clothes, start with accessories, then your top, then your skirt and then stay in your lingerie for a while just dancing in that. You might give him a lap dance at this point. Then remove your stockings, if you are wearing them, and then your bra and finally your panties. If your husband likes to watch you masturbate you could end of with a bit of that, but chances are you are both going to be ready for some immediate contact.

Your husband wants to see you free. If you feel confident, you will look great.

December 30, 2007
Categories: Foreplay . . Author: cinnamonsticks . Comments: 36 Comments

Early on I would forget about all the possible erogenous zones and I would go straight for my husband’s penis. He has so many other responsive areas that shouldn’t be passed up. Some men get an erection from softly biting their buttocks. Others many love to have their ears paid special attention to with either your tongue or breathing. To know these responses is to know your husband.

We can start with his head. Yes, I mean the one between his shoulders. Men have a visual rolodex that we need to keep full and fresh. Arouse him mentally. Use your words to tell him exactly what you want to do to him. Take those seductive pictures you have been thinking of taking and make sure to stick them in his computer bag before he leaves for work. Flash him throughout the day. Grab for him. Flirt with him. Show him that he is important to you and that he does excite you.

Next is the kiss. I like to relax my lips. I don’t pucker or clench my teeth. Kissing someone who is acting like they have lockjaw just doesn’t give me warm fuzzies. I let my lips go almost limp and relax my chin. This way my mouth opens slightly for some sensual tongue play as the passion mounts. Even when I come up for a breather I’m always nibbling on his lips or kissing his eyes, nose or cheeks then I go in for some more. Lingering is the key. I even do a signature thing where I may suck and play with his tongue and lips. This way he can imagine what my mouth can do elsewhere on his body.

Take hold of his head. Now I’m talking about his lower head on his penis. When I am making love to my husband I become enmeshed with his thrusts. I don’t lay there like a rag doll. I’m active and enthusiastic about all the attention he is paying to me. I like to use my pc muscles and give my husband what we call “special hugs”. If you are wondering those are the same muscles used to do your kegel exercise and to stop urine flow. (New Year’s resolution time, do kegel exercises.) Also, don’t be afraid to wriggle. I always thought that good girls shouldn’t wriggle and that is so far from the truth. My husband loves a good healthy wriggle.

Enjoy oral sex. If you have any reservations then try focusing on this: First, experimenting will lower your inhibitions and cause greater intimacy between you and your husband. The more you do it the more confidence you will have. Secondly, he will love you for it. If you need some ideas on how to do oral sex you may want to go back to cumingirls article titled “Tasting His Fruit”. I love experimenting with my husband. I could tell what he likes by his breathing, body position and the grunts that only I can translate. Don’t be afraid to try a new technique that you developed yourself.

Become a “hands on” woman. I love to use my hands on my husband. If his head is the only part of his body I can reach because he is enjoying my lower delights then I run my fingers through his hair. If he is on top of me or below me making love then I grab whatever I can. Whether it is his buttocks, running my nails gently down his back, over his pectorals or reaching between his legs to get at his testicles or his perineum I am always using my hands to help drive him wild.

The most important thing is to have fun in your bedroom. Enjoy it, cherish it, and thank God for it!!

December 27, 2007
Categories: Foreplay . . Author: peppermintgirl . Comments: 1 Comment