Satin Sheets

I love satin sheets. We’ve only had them for a year or so. Some friends got them for us for Christmas one year, in sexy black! Now that I know what it’s like to have satin sheets, I’m hooked!

I know some people who don’t like them. They complain that the sheets actually allow for too much movement. In other words, when they are being intimate, they can’t do some of the stuff they are used to doing because the sheets are causing them to slip around on the bed. This has caused some frustration.

When we first got ours, the main thing I noticed was that my pillows kept falling off the bed! And remember, we have bed risers. So it was a pretty good fall. So when I would try to reach down and get it, I couldn’t reach it. That was somewhat frustrating, but I got used to keeping a firm hold on my pillows, and now that is no longer an issue.

The satin feels so nice against our skin, and not just during intimate times. I love sleeping on the satin. We have noticed that we do slip and slide a bit more during sex now, but we don’t view it as a bad thing. We almost look at it as if our bed is wearing lingerie. It’s sexy and inviting, and it makes us feel even more erotic when we are making love on it. It makes our bedroom romantic, and is really pretty when using candlelight.

Our children love the feel of the sheets also, and have asked for them for their bedrooms too! If you are interested in trying them, you can find some reasonably priced sets at Wal-Mart and Amazon. Overstock.com also has some good deals on them. Be sure to read the customer reviews for each product.

We give pepper heart ratings here, when we write a review for a new toy or product. I’ll give satin sheets 4.5 pepper hearts, because I really do love them!

Toy Review: The Jack Rabbit

 

(This article contains links to pages featuring sex toys that are not on Christian sites.  Although these pages are “clean”, please be aware that if you travel off of these pages that you may see offensive content.) 

The first actual sex toy that we bought was the Original Jack Rabbit.  This isn’t some pseudo sex toy that can double as a “massager”, but this one is a real deal Lucille vibrator.  I was a little intimidated at first.  I was wondering if I would like it and if it would do what it was supposed to do, which would be to help me achieve orgasm. 

 The Jack Rabbit offers a rotating shaft for vaginal and G-spot stimulation, jumbling pearls that “pop” at the vaginal opening for added sensation and a rabbit-eared clitoral stimulator all at the finger tips of a wired control.  One of the great things about this product is that the user can isolate the shaft or the clitoral stimulus or use both together.  The control has easy dials to set the speed of the shaft rotation and the clitoral stimulation.   It’s made from a jelly material which makes for easy clean-up with an anti-bacterial wash or toy cleaner. This particular model is not waterproof , so it can’t accompany you in the shower.  It relies on batteries to run it’s motors and it’s always nice to keep extra batteries on hand.  The Jack Rabbit is on the lower end as far a pricing goes, so you get what you pay for in some respects, because this only lasted about six months before it started malfunctioning.    

Well, I’m pleased to report that it did just what it was supposed to do.  And I’m equally pleased to say that it happened quicker than I had imagined.  And since our bunny bit the dust only after a few months of ownership, we decided to upgrade to a higher end product.   Although, the Rabbit has been replaced, it’s still on my wish list to get another because we enjoyed using it so much.  I enjoyed its simplicity, its results and my favorite part was the jumbling beads… a sensation that’s not matched in any other vibrator that I own.  The Jack Rabbit is a great beginner’s toy and just as good for veterans as well. I definitely give this toy two bunny ears up and

Ben Wa Balls: A Toy Review

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Okay, so Peppermintgirl’s article, The Secret To Better Sex, got me to thinking. I have recently purchased a set of those ben wa balls that she had talked about, but I’d only tried them once, a few months back. I wonder if I could wear them all day long?

So I inserted them this morning as soon as I got up. I have the small weighted kind, like the picture above. They are not on a string. They are shiny and gold looking and are heavier than they look. I believe they are made that way on purpose. You are supposed to flex your PC muscles to keep them in, and in turn, it strengthens your pelvic floor muscles. The fact that they are weighted makes it a little more difficult. Amazon has a couple different kinds, but none of them have good reviews. I got mine at a different company and they were not as cheap as amazon has them.

My Morning

So I put them in as soon as I got out of bed. Then I went and made breakfast for my family. I got my kids on the school bus and jumped in the shower. Afterwards I recall thinking so far so good. Then I got dressed and came and spent some time online.

Around 11:45 I realized that I needed to go to the grocery store. The problem was that I don’t wear panties. The only ones I do own are thongs. I started wondering what in the world would I do if one of these balls fell out and rolled down the isle of the grocery store? I went and raided my drawers and found a pair of men’s boxer briefs that I usually wear when I work out. I felt better knowing that I had a “safety net.”

My Afternoon

Just before I left, I needed to go to the bathroom. Wouldn’t you know that I totally forgot about the balls (because you can’t feel them in there!) and as I started to pee, I heard two loud CLANKS as they both fell into the toilet. What a predicament. Of course this would happen to me. I had to grab my dish washing gloves and fish them out. Then I had to sterilize them and reinsert them. I realized then, that the balls had stayed in for around four hours before they fell out. Whether that is good or bad, I have no clue.

So I went to the grocery store and to get me some lunch. I came home and did some laundry and ate and got back online again. I continued my day, as I would have normally. My kids got off the bus and my husband came home from a business trip. He and I knew we would make love tonight. He had hinted at it and so had I. But I did not tell him about the ben wa balls. I decided to leave them in and just see if he happened to notice them.

My Night

During foreplay I kept expecting him to say What in the world am I feeling in there? But he did not. I grinned to myself and decided to see how far we would go before he realized something was different. We then made love as usual, and he never knew they were inside me. The only strange thing that happened was that he finished way earlier than he usually does. He said he couldn’t help it. He was shocked when, afterwards, I removed them myself in front of him. He couldn’t believe that I had those inside and he didn’t feel them.

Conclusion

I think I did a good job of holding the balls inside myself all day long. They only slipped out once in 12 hours. Once inserted, you can’t feel them at all inside. I had read in a couple of places that said ben wa balls can heighten your arousal during the time that you wear them. I really didn’t notice anything different than usual though. It did get tiresome a couple of times, having to keep doing kegels all day long! But I think that is the point, right? To make you exercise your muscles down there so that they become stronger.

Making love with them inside was pretty cool. I really didn’t expect them to affect my husband though. I’m wondering if they were bumping against each other in there and vibrating and maybe that is what was feeling so good to him? I think I’m definitely going to have to do some more experimenting with these, and see if last night was just a fluke. We need to try them in different positions. I don’t think my husband will mind.

So I guess I can see how the balls would strengthen your muscles. I have to admit to being glad that I’m not wearing them today. I may try to use them a couple times a week from now on, and see if I notice any difference. If I find that they don’t do much for me, then I’m not out much money. I think these would be good for women who have a hard time remembering to do their kegels, like me. So I will give the balls a rating of 2 pepper hearts on our scale below. The rating may would go up, if I used them consistently and saw that they did, indeed help strengthen my pc muscles.

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Sex Toys = Pornography?

Question: Aren’t sex toys just another form of pornography because they are used for arousal?

Answer: Whether or not a person is sinning when they use sex toys depends on what they are thinking about while they are using them. It is our conviction that unless a sex act is expressly declared in Scripture as wrong (adultery, bestiality, homosexuality, incest and so on), we are to consider what is happening in the mind according to the principles Jesus gave us to determine if it is sin or not. Since masturbation, with or without a toy, is not talked about in Scripture we use what Jesus taught us about lust and remaining in control of our bodies to separate masturbation that is sin from masturbation that is not sin.

So if a woman uses a sex toy and is thinking about what her body is doing and how it is responding, and/or what she would like to be doing sexually with her husband, we do not believe this is sin. However, if a woman is using a sex toy and fantasizing about a man at work or thinking about a sex scene she saw in a movie then we believe this is sin. As well, if masturbation/the use of sex toys controls her to the point where she plans her day around it or it interferes with her responsibilities and so on, then we believe that it has become something which controls her which we believe is sin. The final issue that we believe would make toy usage sin is if it replaced a wife’s sexual experience with her husband. We believe the needs of the couple come first. So if a wife is using a toy and it results in pleasing her to to point where she is no longer available to him, then we believe the woman is sinning.

So although sex toys are tools that are used for arousal, we believe that they do not fit into the category of pornography because they can be used in ways that are free from lust and a loss of self control.

Thank you for your question.

Bed Risers

 

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The day I finally broke down and bought bed risers was a turning point in my marriage bed. My husband will tell you the same thing. WOW! What a blessing they have turned out to be!

These are the bed risers that we bought. We have a king sized bed, so I had to buy two packs of them. They give you the choice of raising your bed 3 inches, 5 inches, or 8 inches. Since we already had a relatively new set of extra deep mattresses with an extra pillow top, we didn’t need the full 8 inches. We opted for 5 and it has been wonderful! I will note here that Amazon has some cheaper, butI do not know about the quality. It also looks like they are just one size and you don’t get the three different options like the ones I got at Walmart.

Bed risers have raised us up so that we can now see ourselves when we are making love, in my large dresser mirror. They have also made it so that my husband can stand beside the bed and give me a body massage without feeling like he is breaking his back! (And yes, I give as well as receive!) And finally, they have enabled us to experiment with new positions that we couldn’t do before. If I lay on the bed and he stands on the floor beside the bed, his privates meet mine nicely!

So I just thought I’d take a minute to make this recommendation to all you readers out there. It’s a relatively inexpensive way to really add some spice to your lovin!  I give our bed risers five pepper hearts!!

 

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Take Care of Those Toys, Girls!

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This is just a short reminder to everyone out there that you need to be taking care of and cleaning your sex toys after each and every use.

When using lube with a toy, please read the package that your toy came in, to see what lubes, if any, should not be used. Water based lubes are okay for every toy I do believe. They are also the easiest to clean up. A little soap and water and that’s it. It’s the silicone lubes that have issues with certain toys. You should not use a silicone lubricant with a silicone toy or with a toy that is made out of one of the new “realistic” type of materials (such as Cyberskin). It can damage your toy. But silicone lubes are really good for water play and with your waterproof toys.

Cleaning your toys is a MUST. I use Before and After toy cleaner. It’s easy to use and does not have to be used with water. You can spray on and wipe off. Silicone dildos can be boiled or even put in the dishwasher to be sterilized. (Never put anything battery operated in your dishwasher though.) Jelly and rubber toys are harder to sterilize because they are porous. Using a condom over porous toys will actually help them last much longer. You should wash porous toys thoroughly with anti-bacterial soap and water. I found a really informative site that lists different types of toys and how best to clean them. It also tells of special considerations for Cyberskin toys, which need to be dusted with cornstarch after they are washed. Take note that this is NOT a Christian site, and they do sell some things that I take issue with, but this information page is really good. Click here for that information.

Your battery-operated toys will last longer if you remove the batteries when storing them. I have lost two nice toys in the last few years, from battery erosion and leakage 😦 And you certainly don’t want mold or mildew growing on your toys, so please make sure that they are fully dry before putting them away, in a nice private place. We all know that our toys won’t last forever. But if we take care of them properly, then they will certainly last longer.

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Anal Beads, Plugs, and Vibrators

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Okay, so if you like anal play, and you enjoy your husband using his finger, then you may be interested in some anal toys. There are so many of them to choose from now a days! The secret to making anal toys work is having lots of lube, and knowing how large or how small you like yours to be.

Anal beads are good for beginners. They can be inserted slowly and then pulled out during orgasm. Some women really love this added stimulation. They usually aren’t that big around, although you can get larger ones if you like them better.

An anal probe is also something that comes in smaller sizes for beginners, and larger sizes for those who like a little more girth. You can use this yourself when masturbating or your husband can use this on you while making love.

There are also some good anal vibrators out there.  This one is a good one because of it’s graduated girth. If you just want a little stimulation, then you only insert it a little. If you want more, then you insert it further. The ones that vibrate are definitely my favorite.

In the beginning, you could try some Anal Eaze, to help get used to larger things being inserted. It will numb the area slightly.  It may help when transitioning to anal sex.   After a little while though, you probably won’t need it anymore.  As long as you have lube, you’ll be fine.

These toys can add some spice if you and your husband already like anal play. If I happen to hear of another good one sometime, I’ll update this blog with a review on it!

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Looking for a Little Gift?

Hello All!

I just came across a very nice site and I thought I’d share it here. It’s called The Pure Bed. It’s a Christian run site and they sell all kinds of fun looking things to spice up your marriage bed. They sell toys, oils and gels, even stockings and costumes. I haven’t ordered from them (yet) but they seem to be pretty balanced and biblical in their approach to sex. Check it out!

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Toys: Spice or Poison?

If you would have asked me when we first got married if I would ever own a sex toy, I would have told you emphatically NO! And I couldn’t explain to you why I felt that was such a dirty thing to own. For a girl who had found her clitoris very stimulating from the time I was about 8 years old, what was the difference in the masturbating to achieve that feeling back then and a toy? They both achieve the same thing. I found a bunch of Playboy magazines that were my father’s when I was 8 and seeing women touch themselves made me explore my own body.

So when my husband asked me about one, I wasn’t so sure about it. I did some research online. Believe me, there is a lot to choose from! I didn’t know if I wanted something that was like my husband because I didn’t want it to replace him, but in the end, I chose and ordered my first toy. It was a vibrating dildo and it broke within days of getting it! Argh! Over the years, we have built up a small collection of vibes….bullet vibes, egg vibes, gyrating dildos, waterproof vibes, a g-spot vibe, an anus plug and even made a clone a willy! (molding kit of my own dh) Each one was a new experiment for me. A step out of my comfort zone.

These toys have helped me in many ways. First and most importantly, they have helped me to explore my own body. I can find out what feels good, and I can communicate that to my husband during intercourse or oral sex. Bullet vibes helped me to learn how to orgasm, what point of the clitoris needed the most stimulation to achieve that orgasm, and it has helped me on days that it was very difficult for my honey to wait for me to come first.

Secondly, they have really eroticized our sex life. There have been occasions where my husband has been out of time and I have had HUGE desires for him. He gives me permission to achieve a release when he is gone. I never fantasize about someone else, it is always about HIM. And the vibes and dildoes have been a great source for turning him on. We have added a 3’x4’ mirror to our room, and I use it and angle our webcam when he is on trips to show him what I wish he were doing to me at that moment. It is extremely erotic and arousing for both of us when we use our webcam when we are apart.

The webcam and our video camera have become tools for sexual pleasure for us. Whether webcamming while he is out of town or video taping a very pleasurable lovemaking session, we take advantage of opportunities to enhance our stimulation and pleasure with each other.

Okay, if this sounds like something out of a porn movie, there is one big difference. Everything my husband and I do with toys, cameras, whatever is only with and for each other. The bible tells us in Matthew 19:4-5 “ “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[a] and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[b]? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” We believe thsi wholeheartedly. I had this read in our wedding vows. We have never added another presence into our marriage bed. It’s just us. Yeah, we get a lot of eroticism from watching our home movies, but it’s just him and me. We have never added pornographic videos into our sex life. We have never added other people, whether a threesome or intermarital affairs into our marriage bed. We have never even entertained the thought of bestiality into our bedroom because biblically, God does not approve. The only other presence in our marriage bed is God, who blesses our union every time we come together.

The bible is silent on certain topics. There is no passage in the bible that says sex toys are wrong or right. But there are passages that let us know what IS wrong… like adultery, bestiality, fornication and homosexuality. As long as you don’t bring into your marriage bed the things God construes as a sin, I do believe that God approves. (And yes, dear one, this does include what and who you are thinking of while you are making love to your spouse)

Now my life does not revolve around my sex toys. Honestly, I don’t use them as much anymore. I know how to maneuver myself so that I use my husband to achieve the same goal that they were originally intended for. It is nice to know that they are there for the next out of town jaunt he must take, so I keep those batteries charged for their next use!

aka nutmeg nympho

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